In this episode of Stronger Standards I talk about the simple framework I come back to whenever I feel stuck: The 3 Cs of Change.

If you’re feeling stuck in your growth, whether it’s with food, your body, your business, or your confidence, this episode is for you.

I cover:

• What the 3 Cs of change are
• How missing one or more of the Cs can impact your life
• How to use this framework to focus your energy where you need it most

🔗 Links mentioned:

– Coaching waitlist

Timestamps:

00:00 - Why feeling stuck doesn’t mean change isn’t possible

02:10 - Why “clarity” isn’t actually what you need (and how action creates clarity)

04:00 - C #1 - Curiosity

06:30 - How understanding your patterns builds self-compassion

08:00 - C #2 - Courage

09:30 - Building your internal secure base + safe haven

10:45 - C #3 - Commitment

12:00 - The question to ask when you feel stuck

12:30 - Coaching waitlist + how to support yourself if you’re doing this alone

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

In this episode of Stronger Standards I unpack what distress tolerance actually means, and why pushing through isn’t always beneficial.

I explain:

• The impact of learned association on emotions
• Why slowing down can feel threatening for high achievers
• How to cultivate a compassionate brain state so you can regulate instead of react

🔗 Links mentioned:

– Coaching waitlist

Timestamps:

00:00 – The myth of pushing through

02:30 – High functioning vs. thriving

05:00 – Emotional differentiation explained

08:00 – Why slowing down feels hard

11:00 – Compassion as real resilience

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

You’re intelligent, capable, and deeply self-aware — so why do you keep starting things and not finishing them? In this episode, I’m breaking down self-efficacy, your confidence in your ability to follow through, and why it quietly erodes when you keep letting yourself down.

Rather than repeating the same surface-level advice, we look at what actually gets in the way — including self-criticism, unrealistic standards, and emotional barriers that sabotage consistency.

In this episode, I cover:

• What self-efficacy really is — and how low self-efficacy keeps you stuck in stop–start cycles
• Why setting goals for your “ideal self” backfires (and how to meet yourself where you are)
• How small, realistic wins build confidence more effectively than big plans
• The four key facilitators of self-efficacy
• Why mindset alone isn’t enough — and the emotional skills required to stay consistent
• How coaching helps you unlearn self-defeating patterns and build real trust in yourself

🔗 Links mentioned:

– Motivated Masterclass

– Coaching waitlist (NOW OPEN!)

I’ll see you in the next episode.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Why you start strong but don’t follow through

02:00 - What self-efficacy actually is

04:00 - How low self-efficacy keeps you stuck

06:00 - The mistake of setting goals for your ideal self

08:30 - Building confidence with small, realistic wins

11:00 - What actually facilitates self-efficacy

13:30 - Why reflecting on success matters

15:30 - How self-criticism and comparison undermine progress

17:30 - The emotional skills needed to stay consistent

19:00 - How coaching helps you break self-defeating cycles

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

We all have patterns that once kept us safe but now keep us stuck. In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how compassion isn’t about being “soft,” but about building the inner strength and steadiness needed to work with those patterns—without being driven by them.

I talk about:

• Why old safety strategies keep us stuck
• Compassion as a trainable brain state
• Reflection vs. rumination (and venting)
• Why self-compassion creates stronger boundaries
• Key compassionate qualities: wisdom, strength, commitment
• The role of play, posture, and embodiment
• Using the body to support mindset change
• Choosing small, daily actions that create lasting change

This episode is about becoming the version of yourself who can meet challenges with steadiness, intention, and aliveness—one small, embodied choice at a time.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: Understanding Patterns and Compassion

00:42 - The Role of Compassion in Change

01:30 - Journaling and Self-Reflection

02:30 - Misconceptions About Compassion

03:05 - Qualities of Compassionate Minds

06:00 - Embodying Compassionate Qualities

10:30 - Using Body Posture to Support the Mind

13:51 - Starting the Day with Compassion

15:31 - Practical Actions to Embody Qualities

20:16 - Conclusion: Building Capacity to Show Up Differently

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

What if the values you’re most proud of are also the ones keeping you stuck? In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how “good” standards like reliability, resilience, discipline, and independence can quietly become fear-based safety strategies.

I talk about:

• When “good” values quietly keep you stuck
• The 'Cage of Unquestioned Standards'
• Values shaped by safety, not authenticity
• Same actions, different motives: toward vs. away
• What your values are costing you
• Recalibrating values with compassion, not fear

This episode invites you to notice how you relate to your values and whether they’re serving you, or keeping you stuck — and how to recalibrate your values with compassion.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: The cage of unquestioned standards

01:00 - Safety strategies and identity formation

02:25 - Examples of limiting standards

04:06 - Intellectualization as a safety strategy

04:44 - Resilience and overcoming tolerance

05:57 - The impact of discipline on body image

06:43 - Reevaluating your relationship with values

10:18 - Practical steps to recalibrate your values

12:25 - Conclusion: building a better relationship with values

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

In this episode of Stronger Standards, I talk about why the pressure to reinvent yourself at the start of a new year can actually keep you stuck — especially if you struggle with all-or-nothing patterns. Instead, I share why recalibration is a more compassionate, sustainable way to create real change by working with your mind and body, not against them.

I cover:

• Why New Year reinvention often keeps us stuck
• Recalibration vs. starting over
• The 'Fresh Start Effect' and self-pressure
• Where safety behaviors (perfectionism, overworking, people-pleasing) come from
• Why “just stop” goals don’t work
• Using awareness instead of force to create change
• Noticing thoughts, feelings, and body cues in real time
• Compassion as the foundation for sustainable growth

If you’re tired of starting over every January, this episode is your invitation to slow down, get curious, and build change that actually sticks.

Timestamps:

00:00 - New year, new you?

01:00 - The fresh start effect

01:47 - The problem with wiping the slate clean

03:47 - Recalibration over reinvention

04:33 - Practical steps for recalibration

06:20 - Understanding safety behaviors

08:15 - Building awareness and compassion

11:48 - Final thoughts and next steps

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

In this episode of Stronger Standards, I break down why change feels so hard—especially when part of you wants to grow and another part is scared to try again. I explain how our brains and nervous systems are wired for safety, how old coping strategies can keep us stuck, and what actually helps change become sustainable. I also share personal reflections, practical exercises, and an invitation to think differently about the year ahead.

I cover:

• Why change feels scary even when you want it
• How the brain’s need for safety keeps us stuck
• The role of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overthinking
• Why forcing change doesn’t last
• How sustainable change comes from safety, not pressure
• A reflection on how you want to feel in one year
• Practicing new beliefs with compassion, not force

Keep an eye out for more Stronger Standards episodes, focused on small, meaningful changes that support a more fulfilling life.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: overcoming the fear of change

01:24 - Understanding the brain's role in change

02:49 - Social threats and safety behaviors

03:50 - Implicit learnings and emotional regulation

04:55 - Safety strategies and their impact

07:09 - Challenges in making changes

09:14 - Building capacity for change

12:28 - Reflecting on future goals

15:22 - Practical tips for cultivating change

22:42 - Conclusion: embracing change with compassion

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how to reflect on the past year in a way that supports growth rather than self-criticism. Looking back can bring pride, pressure, frustration — or all of it at once. This episode offers a more compassionate approach to reflection that helps you learn from the year without getting stuck in shame or defeat.

I cover:

• The difference between healthy self-critique and self-attacking
• Why reflection needs compassion, and how avoidance or frustration can be useful information
• Why focusing on experiences (not just achievements) helps us access contentment and fulfilment
• What experiences stood out for me this year and what I learned from them
• How to carry those lessons forward into the new year

Keep an eye out for more Stronger Standards episodes, focused on small, meaningful changes that support a more fulfilling life.

Timestamps

00:00 – Welcome & introduction

00:43 – Why reflection matters

01:26 – The difference between healthy self-critique and self-criticism

03:20 – A new approach: focusing on experiences, not achievements

05:08 – Experience 1: Greece trip and lessons in kindness

08:19 – Experience 2: The power of live music for well-being

11:55 – Experience 3: Recognizing and overcoming self-minimization

14:52 – Encouragement for your own reflection

15:23 – Final thoughts and what’s next

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

What’s that thing you’ve been avoiding? Maybe it’s reflecting on your eating habits, having a difficult conversation, reaching out to make new friends, or showing up on social media. You know it matters—but that doesn’t make it easier to face.

In this episode, I unpack why avoidance feels good in the moment, why it costs you more than you realize, and—most importantly—how to start facing the things you’ve been putting off with compassion and courage.

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain rewards avoidance (and how it keeps you stuck)
• How to recognise when your threat system is taking over
• The hidden cost of waiting until you feel ready
• A simple two-question exercise to uncover what’s really behind your avoidance
• How to take the smallest possible step forward—and build confidence from experience

You’ll walk away with a clear, compassionate framework to help you stop overthinking and start moving toward the life you actually want.

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here

Most of us don’t put compassion and motivation in the same sentence. We think of compassion as soft, gentle, or even passive, and motivation as discipline, hustle, or force. But compassion is one of the most powerful motivators you can build.

In this listener Q+A, I break down why motivation isn’t a mood, how it’s really tied to emotion regulation, and why compassion is the brain state that helps you keep going without burning out.

You’ll learn:

• Why 'I’ve lost my motivation' usually means you’re stuck in threat mode.
• The difference between feelings, emotions, and motivation (and why it matters).
• How the threat, drive, and soothe systems shape your ability to follow through.
• What compassion actually does in the brain and why it motivates growth, not avoidance.
• How compassionate motivation shows up not just in food and fitness, but in your work, relationships, and daily choices.

I’ll also walk you through a reflection exercise I give my clients:

👉 For me, compassion is…

👉 For me, compassion is not…

By the end, you’ll see why compassion isn’t about lowering your standards, it’s about pursuing them with adaptability, resilience, and self-respect.

🎧 Listen now to learn how compassion can become your strongest source of motivation.

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here