Love in Friendships: The Strongest Love Stories Aren’t Always Romantic

Most conversations about love focus on romance.
But what about the love that shapes us just as deeply — friendship?

In this episode of StrongHer Sessions, Vanessa and Kate explore non-romantic love and why friendship can be one of the most powerful, transformative, and heartbreaking forms of connection we experience.

From childhood “BFF” necklaces to adult boundaries and intentional connection, they unpack how friendship love evolves over time — and why it deserves more recognition.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What non-romantic love really looks like

• Why friendship love can feel safer — and sometimes scarier — than romantic love

• How childhood friendship experiences shape us as adults

• The shift from proximity-based friendships to intentional adult relationships

• Loving less freely but more fiercely

• Red flags in friendships (and why we excuse them)

• Imbalance, boundaries, and taking turns supporting each other

• The heartbreak of friendship breakups

• Grieving friendships without a clear “why”

• Why women supporting women is powerful — not competitive

Friendship love doesn’t come with scripts or societal permission to grieve it when it ends. But it teaches us loyalty, boundaries, trust, and how to show up without losing ourselves.

Not every friendship is meant to last forever — and that doesn’t mean it failed.

If you’ve ever:

• Felt replaced in a friendship

• Been deeply hurt by a friendship ending

• Wondered how to build deeper, safer connections as an adult

• Struggled with balance in friendships

This conversation is for you.

🎧 Listen now and share this episode with a friend who’s part of your love story.

Next week, we continue our February LOVE series by exploring unconditional love — what it really means, what it costs, and whether it truly exists.

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Most of us were taught to believe love is something that happens to us—intense, emotional, and often unpredictable. But what if real love isn’t a feeling at all… what if it’s a conscious, daily choice?

In this powerful episode of Strong Her Sessions, Vanessa and Kate dismantle the myths surrounding love and expose how love is often distorted into control, manipulation, or emotional leverage—especially in romantic and family relationships. Together, they explore how to tell the difference between love that supports your growth and love that quietly erodes your sense of self.

Vanessa shares her journey of redefining love across friendships, family, and romantic relationships—learning what love truly looks, sounds, and feels like when it’s rooted in safety and respect. Kate opens up about how betrayal and painful endings sharpened her ability to recognize genuine connection versus control disguised as care.

This episode invites you to rethink everything you’ve been taught about love—and to ask the more empowering question:
Is the love in my life helping me become more myself… or less?

Whether you’re healing from a toxic relationship, navigating dating, or reassessing a long-term partnership, this conversation will challenge you to choose love consciously—without abandoning yourself.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• Why love is not a fleeting emotion, but an active commitment

• How love is weaponized through guilt, silence, and emotional control

• The difference between healthy connection and codependency

• Why intensity is often mistaken for intimacy

• What real love feels like in your body and nervous system

• How to set boundaries that protect your growth

• Why safety, trust, and consistency matter more than passion alone

  
  

  Key Takeaways

• Love is a choice, not a reward.
  Real love is consistent and present—it doesn’t disappear when it’s inconvenient.

• Love should expand you, not shrink you.
  If you have to silence yourself to keep someone, it isn’t love—it’s control.

• Intensity isn’t intimacy.
  Chaos doesn’t equal chemistry. Safety creates connection.

• Manipulation often masquerades as care.
  Guilt, emotional withdrawal, and conditional affection are red flags.

• Self-awareness is the turning point.
  Understanding how love has shown up before helps you choose differently now.

  
  

  Who This Episode Is For

• Anyone healing from toxic or manipulative relationships

• Women questioning whether the love in their life is truly supportive

• Those unlearning people-pleasing or codependency

• Listeners seeking healthier boundaries and deeper self-trust

• Anyone ready to redefine love on their own terms

Love isn’t meant to trap you.
It’s meant to free you.

The journey to real love starts from within—and we’re here to guide you there.

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In this episode of StrongHer Sessions, Vanessa and Kate dive into a topic so many women quietly struggle with: how to truly celebrate who you are without using self-love as a reason to stay stuck.

Building on last week’s conversation about foundations and moral codes, this episode explores the tension between acceptance and growth — especially in a world that sends constant mixed messages about bodies, worth, ambition, and identity.

Kate opens up about feeling caught between being content and always striving for more, while Vanessa breaks down the crucial difference between self-acceptance and avoidance. Together, they unpack why phrases like “that’s just the way I am” can either reflect healthy self-awareness or become a barrier to accountability and growth.

The conversation moves into how identity can evolve without being erased, using powerful metaphors like rivers, trees, and seasons to illustrate what fluidity really looks like in real life. Vanessa also speaks candidly about body image, menopause, and the difference between accepting your body and giving up on yourself — emphasizing compassion over shame.

Finally, the episode closes with practical insights on recognizing stagnation, softening the inner critic, and allowing your foundation to support growth instead of restricting it.

This is a thoughtful, grounded conversation about self-respect, evolution, and learning how to grow without abandoning yourself in the process.

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Key Takeaways

• Self-love and growth are not opposites — you can honor who you are and continue evolving

• Acceptance is not the same as giving up; acceptance creates emotional safety for growth

• “That’s just the way I am” becomes harmful when it shuts down accountability or reflection

• Growth doesn’t require abandoning your identity — it often means loosening your grip on roles that once kept you safe

• Foundations should be living and flexible, not rigid rules that limit who you can become

• Stagnation often shows up as numbness, defensiveness, or chronic dissatisfaction — not always dramatic burnout

• The inner critic often wants to protect you; acknowledging it with kindness can help you move forward instead of freezing

• True self-respect allows you to revisit, refine, and evolve your values over time

In this episode of StrongHer Sessions, Vanessa and Kate explore what it means to build a solid personal foundation by clarifying your core values and creating a personal moral code.

They talk about how understanding what truly matters to you can shift the way you make decisions, set boundaries, and show up in your relationships. Through personal stories and honest reflection, they unpack the difference between reacting to life and choosing with intention — and how developing an internal compass can bring clarity, confidence, and steadiness during uncertain seasons.

If you’ve ever felt lost, disconnected from your values, or unsure how to move forward with intention, this conversation offers a grounded and compassionate perspective on self-discovery, personal growth, and living in alignment.

In this episode, we explore:

• What it means to build a strong personal foundation rooted in core values

• How creating a personal moral code supports clearer decision-making

• The difference between reacting to life and choosing with intention

• Why boundaries are easier to set when your values are clearly defined

• How self-discovery strengthens authenticity and meaningful relationships

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In this episode of StrongHer Sessions, Vanessa and Kate unpack goal-setting in a way that feels more honest, intentional, and sustainable — especially for women who are tired of the pressure of “new year, new you.”

Instead of focusing on resolutions or rigid outcomes, they explore how intention-based goal-setting can create clarity without burnout. Through personal stories and real-life examples, they talk about simplifying goals, letting go of unrealistic expectations, and viewing growth as a process rather than a straight line.

If you’re navigating personal growth, redefining success, or feeling overwhelmed by traditional goal-setting, this conversation offers a calmer, more grounded approach to moving forward.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why traditional goal-setting often feels overwhelming for women

• The difference between goals, resolutions, and intention words

• How shifting from pressure to intention creates clarity and consistency

• What it means to simplify your goals without losing ambition

• Why celebrating small wins builds self-trust and sustainable momentum

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In this episode of StrongHer Sessions, Vanessa and Kate dive into the often overlooked necessity of rest. They explore the guilt associated with taking time for oneself and challenge the notion that rest must be earned. Through personal anecdotes and insights from Elise Loehnen's book, "On Our Best Behavior," they discuss the different types of exhaustion and the importance of setting boundaries to protect one's energy. Tune in to discover how rest is not a luxury but a vital component of self-care and community well-being. Don't miss this empowering conversation that encourages you to listen to your body with compassion.

Takeaways:

Rest is a necessity, not a luxury. Guilt often accompanies taking time for oneself. Rest should not be earned; it's essential. Different types of exhaustion require different solutions. Setting boundaries protects your energy. Community well-being is linked to individual rest. Rest is vital for self-care. Listening to your body with compassion is crucial. Rest is not a reward for overworking. Boundaries are an act of care, not restriction.

In this episode of Stronger Sessions, Vanessa and Kate explore the transformative power of setting intentions over resolutions. They share personal stories and insights on how choosing a single word can guide you through the year, offering flexibility and growth without the pressure of perfection. Join them as they discuss the importance of aligning with your true self and how intentions can be a supportive force in your journey. Tune in to discover how to start the new year with purpose and authenticity.

Takeaways:

• Healing is messy, growth is uncomfortable, and crying in the car counts as self-care.
• This isn't about being nice, quiet, or good. This is about being real, raw, and sometimes a little rage-y.
• Shame won't survive when stories are spoken out loud.
• We're not here for perfect, we're here for the messy middle, where the real work and real magic happen.
• A resolution can feel so rigid, like you either nail it or you fail it. But an intention gives you space.
• Picking a word is a lot simpler. It provides that focused and not a to-do list.
• Unleashed is me showing up fully as a mother, a wife, a coach, a friend, a creator, and a woman rebuilding her life intentionally.
• Intentions are flexible and they can grow with you.
• Help us build this community by sharing our posts and episodes with other women in your life.
• Move forward with intention and Happy New Year.

Keywords:

intentions, resolutions, personal growth, self-care, authenticity, new year, personal stories, flexibility, self-discovery, supportive force

In this episode, we dive into the complexities and lessons of 2025, exploring both the challenges and the magic that defined the year. We discuss the importance of healing, the realization that strength isn't about pouring from an empty cup, and the profound understanding that our stories are more than just survival. Join us as we conclude our journey through the glorious chaos of 2025 and set the stage for next week's discussion on ditching New Year resolutions in favor of setting meaningful intentions.

Keywords

healing, growth, self-discovery, relationships, identity, self-care, strength, 2025, lessons, Stronger Sessions

Takeaways

• Healing is messy and growth is uncomfortable.
• Crying in the car counts as self-care.
• Take your own power back.
• The real work happens in the messy middle.
• Focus on abundance, not just financial gain.
• Realize your emotional, spiritual, and mental strength.
• Healing isn't about never being triggered.
• Pouring from an empty cup isn't strength.
• Embrace the magic of 2025.
• Set meaningful intentions instead of resolutions.

In this episode of Strong Her Sessions, Vanessa and Kate dive into the complexities of holiday traditions and the pressures they bring. They explore the emotional weight of maintaining family customs, the art of blending new traditions, and the importance of letting go of perfection. Join them as they discuss how to create a holiday season that truly reflects who you are today, rather than who you were in the past. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation about rewriting the holiday script to prioritize joy, connection, and authenticity.

Takeaways

1. The things we are getting rid of, letting go of that no longer serve us.
2. Traditions that didn't feel aligned anymore because the expectations were louder than my own needs.
3. We're breaking the cycle of resentment, burnout, and pretending that everything is fine.
4. It's about choosing what feels good for your home and not what you're supposed to keep doing.
5. You don't have to force a new tradition to make up for the old one.
6. You are choosing connection over performance, and that's even more powerful.
7. So many women carry the emotional labor of this season.
8. Warmth, connection, and laughter.
9. I've learned that giving from a place of genuine love feels light and warm, but giving from obligation feels heavy and super draining.
10. Remember that the holidays don't have to be perfect and letting go of all that pressure is actually where the joy shows up.

Sound Bites

• Letting go of what no longer serves us.
• Breaking the cycle of resentment.
• Choosing connection over performance.
• The emotional labor of the season.
• Giving from genuine love feels light.
• Holidays don't have to be perfect.
• Joy shows up when pressure is gone.
• Traditions that didn't feel aligned.
• Warmth, connection, and laughter.
• The power of genuine love.

In this heartfelt episode of "Stronger Sessions," Vanessa and Kate dive into the complexities of holiday traditions and the emotional weight they often carry. From nostalgic Thanksgiving memories to the pressures of maintaining old customs, they explore the importance of letting go of guilt and embracing new, nourishing traditions. Join them as they share personal stories, discuss the joys of holiday movies, and offer insights on crafting a holiday experience that truly resonates with you. Whether you're rethinking traditions or seeking a fresh perspective, this episode is a comforting reminder that you're not alone in your journey. Tune in for a candid conversation filled with warmth, laughter, and a touch of holiday spirit.

Takeaways

• Letting go of traditions that no longer fit our lives.
• Embracing new traditions that feel nourishing.
• Choosing peace over pressure during the holidays.
• Honoring where you are emotionally and relationally.
• Finding joy in new holiday experiences.
• Releasing guilt associated with holiday expectations.
• Creating a holiday experience that resonates with you.
• Reflecting on personal stories to find meaning.
• Understanding the emotional weight of traditions.
• Crafting a holiday experience that aligns with your values.