How do you have sex with a well-endowed husband? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Here's the question I'm answering:

I’ve been married for a few years now, and before I got married I was a virgin as was my wife. Before getting married I thought that my penis size was going to be a huge asset. I’m fairly large in both length and girth. Unfortunately, my size seems to be more of a hindrance than a benefit. Even with lots of foreplay and lube my wife is often sore afterwards, so even if she is in the mood, we have to wait until she’s no longer sore. Some positions have become off-limits for fear of hitting her cervix. She is usually unable to have an orgasm with me inside even if I primarily am just providing manual stimulation. It doesn’t feel good to be told to pull out and only use my hand, but I do want her to feel good so I gladly do it. Oral sex rarely happens because her jaw is often sore later. In general, I’m very satisfied with our sex life, but I often feel bad about my size, that it makes sex worse for her, but it also limits the things we’re able to do together. So I guess my question is, what advice do you have for bigger guys? I feel like I’m doing what I can to help, including just ordering the thrust buffer that you mentioned in another episode. Waiting for that to arrive. Anything to help with penetrative or oral sex? Or do I just accept that sex will always take a bit more work? I know that God made my body good and that I should love it, but sometimes it’s hard to love the penis he gave me when it seems to cause problems.

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Sexy Memory Printable - on sales for $10 until Valentine's Day
• The OhNut - thrust buffer at MarriedDance.com
• Clue - cycle tracking app
• ChristianFriendlySexPositions.com - positions for well-endowed men
  • Cowboy
  • When in doubt
  • Down Low
  • Spooning
  • The Column
• MarriedDance.com - thick lubricants
  • Slippery Stuff Extra Gentle Gel Water-Based Personal Lubricant
  • System Jo H2O Jelly Original Thick Water-Based Personal Lubricant

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