Tactical Empathy

In this episode, Erin chats with Candice Van Dertholen discusses the importance of grounding oneself in personal experience and self-awareness to foster empathy and take aligned action. She emphasizes the need to understand the body's signals and the internal communication of energy to effectively hold space for others.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• The more we ground into our own experience, the better we can empathize with others.
• Understanding our body's signals is crucial for personal growth.
• Empathy requires a deep internal awareness of oneself.
• Awareness leads to clarity, which is essential for aligned action.
• To hold space for others, we must first identify ourselves.
• Grounding into our body helps us connect with our energy.
• Taking aligned action stems from clarity gained through self-awareness.
• Personal growth is a continuous journey of understanding oneself.

Connect with Candice:

• Website: https://heal.me/candice
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/candice_elizabeth.co
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candicevandertholen
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/thewarriorwithinhealing/

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Newsletter Sign-Up: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.

In this episode, Erin reflects on her recent retreat experience, discussing the emotional and physical aftermath of holding space for others. She emphasizes the importance of community support, self-care, and the need to process emotions post-event. Erin shares insights on trust in leadership, the significance of discernment, and the necessity of giving oneself permission to rest and recover after intense experiences.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• The quiet moments can lead to profound insights.
• Leaders often overlook the importance of post-event processing.
• Community support is essential for successful events.
• Trusting your vision is crucial in leadership.
• Discernment helps in navigating feelings of judgment.
• Burnout is a sign of not allowing emotional release.
• Reentry protocols are important for recovery after events.
• Self-care practices should be prioritized after intense experiences.
• Building capacity is a gradual process.
• Permission slips can help in acknowledging personal needs.

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Join the Retreat Waitlist: www.erinthorp.ca/retreats

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.

In this conversation, Erin chats with Joni Goodman, founder of JDG Advisors. Joni shares her journey from biochemist to entrepreneur, emphasizing the importance of empathy in personal and professional development. She discusses her understanding of empathy, the challenges she faced in developing this skill, and the barriers that often prevent individuals from practicing empathy. Joni also highlights the significance of emotional intelligence and creating a safe space for vulnerability, while offering insights into her upcoming book and projects.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Empathy involves standing with someone during their emotional experience without judgment.
• The journey to understanding empathy can be challenging and requires personal development.
• Empathy is a skill that can be strengthened over time.
• Discomfort often leads to growth and breakthroughs in empathy.
• Building empathy requires self-awareness and understanding one's own emotions.
• Emotional intelligence is crucial for practicing empathy effectively.
• Creating a psychologically safe environment is essential for vulnerability.

Connect with Joni:

• Website: https://www.jdgadvisors.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonidgoodman/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonidgoodman/
• TEW WOM: https://vimeo.com/886950128

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Sign up for “The E in the Room” Newsletter: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc. 

In this episode of Tactical Empathy, Erin discusses the common trap of leaders running on empty and the importance of self-care in effective leadership. She emphasizes the foundational elements of energy management: sleep, hydration, and nutrition, and how neglecting these can impair decision-making and overall effectiveness. Erin shares personal anecdotes and research insights, urging listeners to prioritize their well-being to lead with clarity and empathy. The episode concludes with practical tips for daily resourcing and an invitation to reflect on personal leadership practices.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Running on empty isn't leadership; it's survival.
• Self-care is essential for effective leadership.
• Kids model behavior; leaders must set an example.
• Sleep deprivation impairs decision-making abilities.
• Hydration is crucial for cognitive function.
• Nutrition affects emotional regulation and focus.
• Leaders need to prioritize their own needs.
• Empathy requires presence, which comes from self-care.
• Small daily practices can lead to significant changes.
• Leadership is about thriving, not just surviving.

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Sign up for “The E in the Room” Newsletter: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.

Apple Summary:

In this conversation, Erin and Kathy discuss the often-overlooked topic of hormonal health, particularly in the context of the workplace. Kathy, a nurse practitioner, shares her journey and expertise in hormonal health, emphasizing the impact of hormonal changes on cognitive function and work performance. They explore the importance of empathy in healthcare, the need for better understanding and support in workplaces, and the available treatment options for both women and men experiencing hormonal changes. The discussion aims to raise awareness and encourage open conversations about hormonal health in professional settings.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Kathy is a nurse practitioner specializing in hormonal health.
• Hormonal changes significantly impact cognitive function and work performance.
• Many women are unaware that their symptoms are related to hormonal changes.
• Empathy and listening are crucial in healthcare conversations.
• There are treatment options available for managing hormonal chaos.
• Education and resources are essential for understanding hormonal health.
• Men also experience hormonal changes that affect their well-being.
• Workplaces should provide support and resources for employees facing hormonal issues.
• Lifestyle changes play a critical role in managing hormonal health.
• Open conversations about hormonal health can reduce stigma and improve workplace dynamics.

Connect with Kathy:

• Website: https://evolvewell.ca/
• Instagram: @vitalityyyc 

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Newsletter Sign-Up: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc. 

In this episode of Tactical Empathy, Erin explores the theme of leadership and personal growth through the lens of embracing one's future self. She discusses the importance of stepping into a new identity, the discomfort that comes with change, and the necessity of effective communication during this transition. Through personal anecdotes and client experiences, Erin emphasizes the significance of consistency, empathy, and the willingness to navigate discomfort as essential components of leadership and personal development.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Leadership extends beyond corporate roles to all areas of life.
• Identity shifts can be challenging but are essential for growth.
• Embracing your future self can lead to friction but is necessary for change.
• Discomfort is a natural part of the change process.
• Communicating your changes helps others understand and support you.
• Consistency in actions reinforces your commitment to change.
• Feedback from others can provide valuable insights during transitions.
• Recognizing and normalizing discomfort can ease the change process.
• Every small shift is a step towards your future self.
• Leading change requires patience and ongoing realignment with your goals.

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Sign up for “The E in the Room” Newsletter: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc. 

In this conversation, Erin chats with Matthew Stafford, he shares his transformative journey from a concrete business owner to an e-commerce expert, emphasizing the importance of empathy in leadership. He discusses how personal experiences shaped his understanding of empathy and the role it plays in effective communication and relationships. Matthew also explores the impact of dark retreats on his self-awareness and emotional intelligence, offering practical tips for cultivating empathy in everyday life.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Matthew transitioned from a concrete business to e-commerce.
• Empathy involves understanding others without projecting your own thoughts.
• Practicing self-love is crucial for developing empathy for others.
• Entrepreneurs often carry trauma that affects their business.
• Feeling your feelings is more important than thinking them.
• A simple mirror exercise can enhance self-acceptance.
• Matthew plans to create intimate experiences for entrepreneurs to connect deeply.

Connect with Matthew:

• Website: https://buildgrowscale.com/
• Website: https://x.com/BuildGrowScale
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthewjacobstafford
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewstafforddotcom
• Dark Retreat: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1l6o0TGlhY135_bciwUF5KM0uVgyRqyJEHpp1qKEqCps/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.joo7evut8w1m

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Sign up for “The E in the Room” Newsletter: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.

In this episode, Erin explores the complex emotions surrounding guilt, particularly as we transition into new routines in September. She distinguishes between healthy guilt, which can motivate personal growth, and unhealthy guilt, which can lead to shame and stagnation. Through personal anecdotes and practical insights, Erin emphasizes the importance of empathy—both for ourselves and others—as a tool to navigate guilt effectively. She encourages listeners to practice discernment over judgment when feeling guilty, using it as an opportunity for reflection and growth rather than a source of shame.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• September feels like a fresh start for many.
• Guilt can stem from various sources, including personal values.
• Healthy guilt motivates us to align with our best selves.
• Unhealthy guilt can arise from setting boundaries or saying no.
• Guilt can quickly spiral into shame if left unchecked.
• Empathy is crucial in preventing guilt from becoming shame.
• Self-empathy helps us navigate feelings of guilt.
• Discernment allows us to understand the source of our guilt.
• Guilt can serve as a signal for personal growth.
• Meeting guilt with empathy empowers us to choose our responses.

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/free-chapter/
• Sign up for “The E in the Room” Newsletter: https://www.erinthorp.ca/newsletter/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.

Part 3 of the 3-part grief series concludes with Erin, Christine and Kristen discussing the multifaceted nature of grief, emphasizing its individual experience and the concept of disenfranchised grief. They discuss the impact of loss on identity and roles, the challenges of navigating grief in personal and professional life, and the societal pressures surrounding grief timelines. They highlight the importance of effective communication, remembrance, and normalizing conversations about grief. The discussion also touches on the difficulties of preparing for grief and the various resources available to support individuals in their grieving process. Ultimately, the speakers convey that grief and joy can coexist, and it is essential to honor one's unique journey through loss.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Grief is an individual experience, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach.
• Disenfranchised grief refers to losses that are not socially recognized, making it harder for individuals to grieve.
• Loss of identity and roles can be as significant as losing a loved one.
• Grief does not follow a timeline; it is a personal journey that varies for everyone.
• The second year of grief can often be more challenging than the first due to a lack of support.
• Communicating support effectively is crucial; avoid common phrases like 'I'm sorry' and instead acknowledge the pain.
• Remembering and sharing stories about the deceased can help keep their memory alive.
• Normalizing conversations about grief can help individuals feel less isolated in their experiences.
• Preparing for grief is difficult, but having open conversations about loss can help.
• There are many resources available, including books, podcasts, and support groups, to help navigate grief.

Connect with Christine:

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-mack-granger/

Connect with Kristen:

• Website: www.kris10fitness.ca
• Facebook: kris10fitness
• Instagram: kris10fitness.ca

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc. 

In part 2 of our 3-part series on grief, Erin and Kristen explore the profound themes of empathy, grief, and the importance of support systems during challenging times. Kristen shares her personal journey through grief after the loss of her husband, emphasizing the significance of compassion for oneself and others. They discuss the impact of words, the difference between sympathy and empathy, and the necessity of finding joy in everyday moments. Kristen offers valuable advice for those navigating grief, highlighting the importance of connection and authenticity in relationships.

Today on Tactical Empathy:

• Empathy and compassion are intertwined concepts.
• Grief is a universal experience that everyone will face.
• Having a strong support system is crucial during times of grief.
• It's okay to do less and just get by during tough times.
• Finding joy in ordinary moments can help navigate grief.
• Communication is key in expressing needs during grief.
• Sympathy often drives disconnection, while empathy fosters connection.
• People often don't know what they need when grieving.
• Comparison can diminish joy and connection.
• Showing up authentically, even at 50%, is still valuable.

Connect with Kristen:

• Website: www.kris10fitness.ca
• Facebook: kris10fitness
• Instagram: kris10fitness.ca

Connect with Erin:

• Instagram: @elthorp 
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-thorp-speaker/
• Website: www.erinthorp.ca 
• Inside Out Empathy Free Chapter: https://www.insideoutempathy.com/

This show was produced by ELF Solutions Inc.