We’re a little bit ranty this week, but it’s all for a good cause. A new-to-us red flag appears to be submissives being “tested” on their D/s relationship without knowing it, without consenting to it, and without cause. Are there ways to prove yourself to each other in a D/s relationship? Definitely but not the way it’s been described by confused, upset, and/or angry submissives.

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Tests aren’t required in D/s.

You can have challenges or tests in your dynamic but only if it’s negotiated and agreed to by both of you.

“Testing” a partner without their consent and then punishing them if they fail is wrong, lacks consent, and manipulative.

The real “tests” aren’t tests at all.

Links from the show:

5 Real Ways to Prove Yourself in D/s Relationships

From Daddy’s Desk: Silence as Punishment (YouTube video)

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