This week I am talking with host of the Heart of Dating Podcast, and author of Thank You For Rejecting Me… Kait Warman! Kait is a dear friend of mine and if you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know that she has been on the podcast before talking about dropping the hanky and how to online date like a boss. Today, in honor of her book, we are opening up about some of our own personal experiences with rejection.

 

Rejection isn’t always romantic

• It’s important to acknowledge all the ways you’re actually rejecting yourself. Self-hatred is probably appearing in your life in subtle ways.

 

• “I will not stay, not ever again - in a room or conversation or relationship or institution that requires me to abandon myself.” - Glennon Doyle, Untamed

 

• I reflect on an experience where I felt rejected in a friendship recently over quarantine.

 

• “I believed the narratives that other people put on me and then I rejected myself.” - Kat

 

• Kait reflects on a moment where she received grace and forgiveness from a guy, but she never offered herself that same grace and forgiveness.

 

Rejection is protection

• Sometimes our biggest heartbreaks help us realize past traumas and hurts that we haven’t healed or even acknowledged.

 

• “I need to not give scraps of love to myself. I need to give myself the full bucket of love.” - Kait

 

• Kait reflects on a vision God gave her where she was going through the wilderness and found herself at a castle where she saw the guy she was dating. But God was calling her further and this man wasn’t leaving the castle. God was leading her to something more but she had to keep moving and growing.

 

• “I’m so glad He didn’t give me what I wanted... There was so much He wanted me to adventure to beyond that.” - Kait

 

• The “no”s hurt, even when they’re for your greater good.

 

Resources

• You can keep up with Kait at heartofdating.com and on IG at @kaitness and @heartofdating.
• Listen to Kait’s podcast, Heart of Dating, here.
• Check out Kait’s other episodes of The Refined Collective here and here.
• Order Kait’s brand new book, Thank You For Rejecting Me, here!
• Check out Glennon Doyle’s book, Untamed, here.

 

Did you know I’m releasing a book this April? It’s called Sexless in the City. I truly believe it will encourage and equip you to navigate faith, desire, intimacy, and relationships free from shame and fear and with a holistic and Biblical vision. I would be so grateful if you snagged a copy. You can pre-order it right now anywhere you buy books. When you pre-order, make sure you email [email protected] because I would love to send you some free goodies and resources as a thank you.

 

I really value the Patreon community that helps keep this podcast a possibility for me. So in addition to the other rewards, I started filming weekly videos exclusively for my supporters on Patreon. It’s basically like we’re just sitting on the couch having some real talk. I feel comfortable sharing more intimate details of my life over there since it’s a smaller community. So head over to Patreon.com/therefinedcollective to get access to videos like “Doubting My Faith,” “My Fertility Journey,” “New Home Tour,” and so much more. 

 

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