This week, in episode 86, we’re talking about the concept of the five love languages, as found in the book The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, and how to apply them to your D/s relationship.

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New relationship energy or “in-love” obsession makes you act in ways you won’t once you come out of it. Dr. Chapman says it can take about two years.

We all have love tanks. When they’re on empty, resentment and anger build.

We each need to feel love in a different way, and it’s often not the way our partner needs to feel it.

You likely will have different primary love languages.

The five love languages are: Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts.

If you’re not sure of your love language, think about how you prefer to express your love to your partner. That’s a big clue.

Most people have one primary love language, although it’s possible to have a second.

The act of loving someone is a choice, as is deciding to love someone according to their love language.

It requires work and you may have to learn new habits.

Using what someone needs to feel love to manipulate them is wrong.

Purposefully withholding your act of love is wrong.

Loving someone according to their specific language only works if it’s done because you want to and out of love.

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The 5 Love Languages: Book Review

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