What if the biggest thing shaping your life right now… isn’t your circumstances, your past, or even what happened to you? What if it’s the meaning you assigned to it? In today’s episode, I share the incredible true story of AJ Vaden — whose family survived a devastating 13-car pileup near Chattanooga TN when she was just a little girl. Her brothers were reportedly pronounced dead at the scene before ultimately surviving, while her parents suffered severe injuries and long recoveries.Meanwhile, AJ walked away physically unscathed. And somewhere along the way, she began interpreting that reality through a painful lens:

“My brothers are the miracles.”
“My story doesn’t matter.”
“I’m not important.”

Not because anyone told her that, but because that was the meaning she attached to the experience.That single perspective quietly shaped years of insecurity, validation-seeking, and trying to prove her worth, until one conversation changed everything. This episode will challenge you to look at your own life differently — because sometimes the event itself isn’t what keeps us stuck…It’s the interpretation. Same story. Different perspective. Different identity. Different life.If you’ve ever struggled with feeling unseen, overlooked, not enough, or questioned your purpose… this episode is for you.

WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE:

• The powerful true story of AJ Vaden’s childhood car accident and survival
• How two people can experience the same event but walk away with completely different identities
• Why your life is often shaped more by interpretation than circumstance
• The hidden danger of the stories we subconsciously tell ourselves
• How limiting beliefs form from painful experiences
• The identity shift that changed AJ’s entire life
• Why perspective can either imprison you or empower you
• How to begin reframing the meaning you’ve attached to your own story
• The connection between perspective, identity, purpose, and performance
• Why one belief can alter the entire direction of your life

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What if the way you’re trying to lead is actually the thing holding people back? In this episode, I’m challenging a leadership instinct most of us don’t even realize we have—the need to step in, solve, fix, and prove we know what we’re doing. It feels helpful in the moment… but it might be quietly capping the potential of the people around you. We’re talking about the difference between being the genius in the room and being the one who creates genius. Because the leaders who make the biggest impact aren’t the ones with all the answers—they’re the ones who know how to draw it out of others. If you’ve ever found yourself jumping in too quickly, filling the silence, or carrying more than you should, this one will hit. And it might just change the way you show up with your kids, your clients, your team—and honestly, anyone in your life.

What You Will Hear in This Episode

• The subtle ways high-capacity people become accidental diminishers
• A simple but powerful question: Do people get smarter or quieter around you?
• The “give the pen back” concept—and why it’s harder than it sounds
• How the 10% talk / 90% listen shift changes everything
• The difference between addition vs. multiplication leadership
• Why helping can sometimes create dependence (and what to do instead)
• A quick self-assessment to check how you’re actually showing up
• How to call people up into their potential—not unknowingly hold them back
• The mindset shift that will make you more impactful in every room you walk into

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Ever wonder what life really looks like behind the perfectly curated Instagram posts, the polished websites, or the “effortless” success stories? In this episode, I’m keeping it 100% real about what it looks like to chase big dreams while showing up as an entrepreneur, practitioner, wife, and mom. I share the mess, the chaos, and the things that don’t go right behind the scenes—because let’s be honest, success is rarely as clean as it looks online. From pivoting how I spend my time, to juggling family priorities, to trying not to let my dreams and creative contributions die just because kids are a focus, this episode dives deep into the emotional rollercoaster of doing it all.

You’ll hear me tell stories about the raw, real-life moments that remind us all we’re human: like cleaning up your kid's vomit from a stomach bug, which conveniently was in the office and podcast studio, while I was supposed to be working on my new life coaching service. To recording this very podcast episode surrounded by the lingering smells of said vomit, or chasing down a lost stuffed animal in our neighborhood minutes before hitting “record.” I want you to feel seen, laugh a little, and realize that this messy, unpredictable journey is exactly what success and abundance look like in real life. There’s no testimony without a test, no message without a mess, and no success without failure. This episode is for anyone who wants to embrace the mess, stay true to their dreams, and feel less alone on the path to creating a life they love.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The unfiltered chaos of juggling entrepreneurship, motherhood, and marriage while launching a new life coaching brand.
• How I pivot my time and energy to prioritize family without sacrificing my dreams.
• Real-life messy moments: vomit in the office, early mornings derailed, and chasing lost stuffed animals before a podcast recording.
• Why embracing failure, mess, and imperfection is part of building real success.
• How to show up for yourself and your goals even when life is messy.
• Encouragement for parents, dreamers, and high performers to laugh, relate, and feel less alone on the journey.

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If you’ve been holding yourself back from really going after your goals because you’re afraid it’ll negatively impact your work-life balance… this episode is going to shift the way you see everything. Because the truth is—most people aren’t out of balance because of how much they’re doing… they’re out of balance because of how they’re defining it. In this mini coaching session, we’re breaking down the belief that you have to choose between your goals and balance and giving you a simple way to start creating both on purpose.

WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why the fear of losing work-life balance is actually keeping you stuck
• The biggest misconception about “balance” (and why it’s not about time)
• How defining balance the wrong way leads to constant frustration
• The real reason you feel out of alignment—even when you’re doing “all the right things”
• A powerful reframe that allows you to pursue focus without guilt
• The simple weekly check-in that helps you create balance on purpose
• How to identify the key life areas that actually matter to you
• Why people who feel balanced aren’t doing less—they’re paying attention differently

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A week ago, I said goodbye to someone who profoundly shaped the way I understand healing, truth, and transformation. Dr. Arlene McFarland was not only my incredible therapist who graced us with her presence here on The Abundance Formula Podcast only a few episodes ago, but also a dear friend and mentor. She was a guide, a truth-seeker, and someone who deeply embodied the principles she helped others discover for themselves.

What made Arlene extraordinary wasn’t just what she taught—it was how she lived. Even while facing cancer, she refused to let circumstances define her identity. She chose her energy intentionally, continued serving others long after most would have stopped, and modeled what it truly means to be an impactful, powerful and transformative leader.

In this episode, I’m honoring Arlene by sharing the lessons she lived out so beautifully—lessons about identity, truth, intentional energy, and the courage to trust the process of real transformation. My hope is that these reflections will inspire you to carry even a fraction of these qualities into your own life. If we do, her impact will continue rippling through the world in ways we may never fully see, but that’s the beauty of a life well lived — It keeps transforming people… long after you’re gone.

WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE
•4 power lessons and ways of being I learned from my time with Dr. Arlene McFarland
•Why choosing your emotional energy intentionally can change how you navigate life’s challenges
•The powerful difference between your circumstances and your identity
•What Arlene modeled about living with purpose—even while facing serious illness
•Why the most powerful transformation is experiential, not instructional
•What it means to relinquish control and trust in the healing process
•Why great guides don’t try to fix people—they help them discover truth
•How having someone walk with you through truth—without judgment—can change everything

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Have you ever wondered if real superheroes exist? My youngest daughter Saylor asked me that question, and our conversation opened up a whole new way of thinking about identity, gifts, and purpose. In today’s episode, I break down how discovering your God-given identity is the first step to uncovering the superpowers He’s placed inside of you. We talk about noticing the small clues in your everyday life—those natural abilities and joys that come without effort—and how they can lead to powerful “I am” statements that reveal who you really are. I also share examples of how to work backward from your natural strengths to uncover your true identity with practice and prayer. This episode is an accessible introduction to identity discovery. You don’t have to know it all or have it perfectly figured out—just start noticing your gifts, your impact, and the ways God is calling you to serve others. By the end, you’ll see that being a superhero isn’t about a cape—it’s about becoming who God created you to be.


WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

• How a simple question from my daughter sparked a big lesson about real-life superheroes.
• What it means to discover your God-given identity and superpowers.
• A simple “on-ramp” process to start uncovering your unique gifts today.
• How small clues in your natural abilities can lead to a powerful “I am” statement that will change the way you live your life
• Why serving and helping others with the gift of who you truly are is the ultimate way to be a superhero.

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What you were born with. What happened to you. What you struggle with. So many of us mistake these things for our identity. In this episode, I share why identity—not diagnosis, logic, or circumstance—gets the final say. Through the stories of Jesse Findling on American Idol and Paralympic runner Blake Leeper, this conversation explores how perspective shapes possibility, why your environment shouldn’t define you, and how the parts of your story that feel messy or limiting may actually be where your purpose comes alive. You’ll hear why calling doesn’t wait for you to be fixed, how the perspective you choose determines the opportunities you’re even able to see, and why the very things you’ve been tempted to overlook or discount in your life may be the exact places your identity and purpose are trying to speak the loudest.

WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

• Why we often confuse circumstances, struggles, and diagnoses with identity
• The powerful contrast between what the world predicts and what identity decides
• How Jesse Findling’s stutter—and Blake Leeper’s lack of legs—became context, not conclusions
• Why your environment should never define you—or strip you of who you are
• The difference between waiting to be “fixed” and stepping fully into your calling
• How a simple perspective shift can radically expand the opportunities you’re able to see
• Why the messy, inconvenient parts of your story may be what make you uniquely valuable

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What if your pain isn’t a problem to fix—but a story asking to be understood? In this episode, I sit down with Arlene McFarland—wife, mother, and Marriage & Family Therapist of 27 years—for a conversation that goes far beyond mere "talk therapy." We explore healing as a process of discovery, not instruction, and why true transformation can’t be told… it has to be experienced. Arlene shares her personal journey into the work she was called to do, how God has led her both before and after her cancer diagnosis, and what she’s learned about time, purpose, presence and love along the way. We unpack EMDR, emotional agility, false beliefs, and the subtle but powerful shift that happens when we stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking “What is true?”If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, overwhelmed by unresolved pain, or hungry for a fuller, more abundant life—this conversation will meet you right where you are.

WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

• Arlene’s personal backstory and how faith and calling shaped her 27-year career as a therapist
• How her cancer diagnosis transformed the way she understands time, presence, and purpose
• What EMDR is, why it’s so powerful, and how to know when it’s the right tool
• How Arlene guides people through healing without forcing outcomes 
• Why finding the root of pain matters more than managing symptoms and results a in permanent change
• Why lasting transformation must be discovered—not taught or explained
• The greatest obstacle that keeps people from living the life they were meant for
• How to develop emotional agility instead of constantly reacting to life
• Letting go of old beliefs and false identities that once felt protective
• The profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with me?” to “What os actually true?”
• Tools for separating thoughts from the thinker
• The role of honesty—with ourselves and with God—in true healing
• Practical ways to begin healing even when you feel overwhelmed and unsure where to start
• What living an abundant life really means—and how to begin building one now

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Most days, real change starts with awareness, not effort. In this episode, I’m sharing a simple daily practice built around three intentional words — words that act as anchors throughout your day and quietly reshape how you respond, decide, and show up. This isn’t about overhauling your life or setting new goals. It’s about creating repeat moments of awareness that change your trajectory in real time. If you’ve been craving more alignment, clarity, or consistency — without adding another heavy “practice” to your plate — this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

• Why awareness, not effort, is the real engine of lasting change
• How choosing three intentional words acts as daily anchors for your behavior and mindset
• The science of why repeated, small moments of awareness shape identity faster than big goals
• How to interrupt old patterns in real time — without force or willpower
• Practical ways to notice when you’re off-track and bring yourself back to alignment
• Why this practice builds self-trust and consistency, even when life feels chaotic
• How to create a simple, sustainable routine that compounds over time
• Real-life examples of showing up differently in parenting, work, leadership, and personal growth

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In the last few episodes, we’ve delved deeply into helping you know who you’re becoming — now it’s time to build the habits that support it. In this episode, we’re not talking about goal-setting, we’re talking about the systems and action steps that actually make goals possible. Because if you want a new outcome, you need new behaviors — or stronger versions of the ones you already have. This conversation is about building habits that support the life you’re moving toward, without burning out or relying on constant motivation. You’ll learn how to anchor new behaviors to your identity, why consistency always beats intensity, and how small, intentional habit shifts — even just 1% at a time — compound into massive, sustainable growth. This episode is about becoming the kind of person who naturally lives out the goals you’re setting.

WHAT YOU WILL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

• Why identity always comes before habits, and habits always come before results
• The mindset shift from “What do I want to achieve?” to “Who do I want to become?”
• Why a goal without habits is just a wish
• How consistency beats intensity (and why high performers don’t live in burnout mode)
• The power of improving just 1% at a time — and how that compounds over weeks, months, and years
• How to raise awareness of your current habits before trying to change them
• Simple ways to audit your good and bad habits by life category or value
• How to use habit stacking to make new behaviors feel automatic
• Real-life examples of anchoring habits to routines you already have
• Why your environment matters more than willpower
• How to lower friction for good habits and raise friction for bad ones
• How the people you surround yourself with influence your behavior more than motivation
• Why accountability — personal and social — accelerates habit change

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