The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers: Dating, Relationship, Masculinity & Intimacy Guidance For Men

Is seduction always manipulative?

Or has seduction been given a bad name due to the PUA movement?

In this week's episode, my guest Massimo Stocchi-Fontana, sexologist, psychological therapist, sex coach, and yoga teacher, get deep into how we can seduce the people we meet (and our partners) with honesty, love, authenticity and playfulness.

Seducing doesn't have to be dishonest, cohesive or manipulative if you are willing to bring your authenticity, all of you and when it is done from a place of love. The question is, how?

We also tackle the widespread problem of seducing your long term partner and keeping the sex and passion alive.

The key topics are:

🪨 The fears that men have in seduction

🪨 How to develop an attitude of abundance

🪨 How to go from fear-based seduction to love based seduction

🪨 How to get over the fear of approaching and social fear

🪨 How to increase the sex in your relationship

🪨 Sex and psychedelics

🪨 Seduction from a place of love

🪨 Why playing games causes negative confusion

🪨 Why you shouldn't hide your fear

🪨 The attitude to have when going to the bar

🪨 The skills you need to develop for authentic seduction

Connect With Massimo Stocchi-Fontana:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/massimo.stocchi.fontana/

Website: https://www.massimo.love/

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Upcoming Events:

The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727

Tantra 101 for Couples Workshop - (Couples Only) - 26 Aug 8pm - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tantra-101-for-couples-masterclass-tickets-156721128113

Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983

Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359

Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925

The Guide to Tantric Foreplay 30th Sep (Solo & Couples welcome) - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-guide-to-tantric-foreplay-tickets-163824183543

This weeks mini-episode inspired my own feelings and inquiry into not being good enough.

I ask the question, What if you aren't good enough?

What will happen? Can you be happy? Can you be successful? Who decides if you are good enough? What is good enough?

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Ilan's Shaking Video: https://youtu.be/TO2cMBkZDms

What is it like being a professional dominatrix?

Do different dominatrices have different ways of working?

Why do we have disconnected sex?

Who is responsible for your partners' orgasm?

All of these and sooo much more answered in this podcast episode.

I am joined by Lola Jean, a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, pro Domme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting.

We talked about so much on this episode BDSM, Spanking, pegging, impulse control, communicating sexual desires, socialised sexual desire and porn.

The key topics are:

🔬 Spanking from and love and kindness

🔬 What is a fetish

🔬 Common misconceptions about being a dominatrix

🔬 Why you are having disconnected sex

🔬 The different types of dominatrix

🔬 How to find a middle ground between you and your partners' desires

🔬 How to recontextualise our fantasies to get buy-in from our partners

🔬 You don't choose your sexual desires

🔬 Why focusing on female pleasure is creating more pressure on women

🔬 Who's responsibility is it to make you cum

🔬 Why do some bodies find it hard to cum than others

Connect With Lola Jean:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lolajeandotcom/

Twitter: @LolaJeanDotCom

Website: lolajean.com

Workshops: https://lolajean.com/quick-n-dirty2

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Upcoming Events:

Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879

The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727

Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983

Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359

Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925

In this weeks mini-episode, I explain a little about Incel Culture.

In the past, I have had men come to me for coaching after being exposed to red pill and incel culture due to them wanting to transform how they relate to women.

I talk about what I see in the culture, the incorrect and oversimplified assumptions incels have made, how we can understand these men and how incel men can go about creating the connection they desire.

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Just me again this week, but I have a great episode for you.

This episode sprung from a listener request.

In dating, we often come across people that blow hot and cold, on and off. They message you loads, you have a great date, and they go cold, only to come back warm weeks, months, or even years later. Frustrating right?

But why?

Why do men and women do this?

What is happening in their heads (and hearts) that causes this behaviour?

How can you break out of that cycle if you are the guilty, push/pull, hot/ cold person?

And what should you do if you are dating someone that is like this?

All I can say is that as a man that spent years blowing hot and cold and pushing and pulling women, I know exactly why I did it. I also know how to stop doing it and how to move into a far more functional way of relating.

The key topics are:

🧊 How to spot the hot and cold behaviour

🧊 Why do men & women blow hot and cold in dating

🧊 Fears that cause you to be afraid of commitment

🧊 How we can emotionally mature past

🧊 Why indecisiveness ruins people dating lives

🧊 How to deal with someone being hot and cold with you

🧊 How to get over your fear of commitment

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Upcoming Events:

Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879

The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727

Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983

Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359

Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925

This is a little practice that I use to stop disagreements, arguments and conflicts from even happening.

This is something you do, not just something you say.

This practice will stop you from having huge blowout arguments.

Touch is one of the most misunderstood modes of communication, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy.

We assume that just because it's something we have been doing all our lives that we actually know how to do it well!

Most people (especially men) don't even think about how we touch our partners, both sexually and non sexually.

We don't realise that the way we touch (or lack off) our partners is actually turning them off, making them cold and closing them down to sex.

So in the episode, I guide you on how you can use conscious tantric touch to connect from the heart and deeply with your partner to bring back or increase the passion in your relationship and lovemaking.

You will see that there are so many more levels to touch than you ever imagined.

Key topics are:

🍑 Why the right touch transforms sexual intimacy

🍑 How to be more present during sex

🍑 How to create more connected sex in your relationship

🍑 The Conscious quicky

🍑 The elements of Tantric Conscious Touch

🍑 Why goal-oriented sex is bad for your relationship

🍑 Why women in heterosexual go off having sex and how to change it

🍑 Leading intimacy with masculine love and care

🍑 How to connect deeply with your partner through the right type of touch

🍑 How to use conscious touch to soften and open up your partner

🍑 Meditation: Use touch to communicate your passion, love and joy

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Upcoming Events:

Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879

The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727

Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983

Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359

Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925

Weekly Mini-Episode: My Experience - How Lack Of A Father Figure Affected My Ability To Have Healthy Romantic Relationship.

This is a topic that is really close to my heart, something that I have battled with most of my adult life, and I see in many of the men that I coach. And I see in men around me struggling to create healthy and connected relationships and often ending with them giving up, believing that it isn't possible for them.

It takes work. It's it is possible not to repeat the patterns of our parents.

So here I talk about how my lack of a father figure has affected my romantic relationships.

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Polyamory is still a bit of a social taboo, but why?

Have we been so entrenched in the idea that one person can only love one person at a time, or is it that we can't bear the idea of having to deal with the jealousy of sharing our partner?

In monogamous relationships, are we placing too much pressure on our partners to fulfil all of our needs? And is that just leaving us with a string of disappointing relationships?

In this weeks episode, we will be answering all these questions and so much more.

This weeks guest Roy Graff is a mentor and coach who specialises in helping individuals, couples, and polycules navigate polyamory and conscious relating.

This week's episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about polyamory, open relating, and conscious monogamy. There is so much practical information for bettering your relationships.

We talk about building open and honest polyamorous relationships through personal responsibility for needs and desire, boundaries and powerful communication.

We dive deeply into how these same ideas can be brought into your monogamous relationship to form a deeper, happier and stronger bond.

Roy and I talk from our own experience of open relating, polyamory and monogamy about what has worked and, more importantly, what has not worked, not worked!

The key topics are:

🧬 What is polyamory

🧬 The difference between open relationships and polyamory

🧬 How to be responsible for your own needs in a relationship

🧬 Benefits of polyamory

🧬 Misconception of polyamory

🧬 Where jealously really comes from

🧬 Why relationships are really about growth

🧬 Why do we struggle to create healthy relationship dynamics

🧬 Why inauthenticity ruins relationships

🧬 Why society shames people for being polyamorous

🧬 Why conflict is an opportunity for deeper intimacy

🧬 Importance of clearly asking for what you need

🧬 Trauma and jealousy

Connect With Roy Graff:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openrelating

Website: https://openrelating.love

Online course: Connected, conscious and autonomous relationships. https://openrelating.love/courses

Connect With David - The Authentic Man:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/

Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/

For Coaching: [email protected]

Upcoming Events:

Being Authentically Attractive - 19th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/being-authentically-attractive-tickets-163433125879

The art of foreplay - 25th Aug: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-art-of-foreplay-for-men-men-only-tickets-163430734727

Mindful Masturbation for Men - 1st Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/mindful-masturbation-for-men-tickets-163410425983

Boost your sexual performance - 9th Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/boost-your-sexual-performance-tickets-163434289359

Creating the Spark - 22nd Sep: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/creating-the-spark-men-only-tickets-163434812925

This is a special one, I am answering a question from a listener question.

The question is "Can be authentic without coming across as needy and scaring a woman of."

Everything you need to know is in the episode.

Events: https://linktr.ee/theauthenticman