The Authentic Wife Show

You don't have to protect your husband from the discomfort of his own results. Here are 3 ways to give him back responsibility for his life.

To read the transcript and find all resources mentioned in this show, please visit its page at: https://bethrowles.com/18-how-to-give-your-husband-responsibility-for-his-own-life/

This episode of The Authentic Wife Show is for moms who are feeling like they have to do it all and are tired of the responsibility. Maybe their husband feels like another child to raise or it seems like they're the only "bad cop" making sure all of the "adulting" is handled.   

To read this episode, listen to it on my podcast, or get all of the resources mentioned, please visit https://bethrowles.com/17-why-you-feel-like-the-only-adult-in-the-house/ 

 #codependency #boundaries #marriageadvice #consciousmarriage #consciousparenting

Getting our kids to behave the way we hope they'll always behave in the world requires modeling the boundaries we hope they'll have.

In this episode, I quickly go over the basic 4 limits we need to model for our kids, but I also talk about how important it is that we call out any unconscious behavior, or boundary-violating behavior, whenever we see it... including from our husband (or wife, or partner). 

And if you're afraid to do that, ask yourself why it's important to "not disrespect my husband" but not important to also ponder, "why is it ok for my husband to disrespect my child?" 

You can also read the show transcript and find all resources mentioned here: https://bethrowles.com/16-how-to-model-healthy-boundaries-for-your-kids/

Wondering why divorce should be the last boundary you hold? And what is a boundary, anyway?

In episode 15 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to create the marriage you and your kids deserve by holding boundaries long before the boundary of divorce.

This is for you if you're not even really sure what a boundary is, how to hold it, or how they're meant to be held throughout your relationship and not just when something goes terrible wrong.

Be sure to visit the page for this episode to get all of the resources mentioned: https://bethrowles.com/15-why-divorce-should-be-the-last-boundary-you-hold/

There are seven energy centers in the body that correlate to different phases of our development. In this episode, I give you a quick run-through of each and help you see how they could have become damaged or blocked and what you can work on to open them. 

Episode page: https://bethrowles.com/14-how-do-you-know-if-your-chakras-are-blocked/

You can also read more on my website on the blog What Are Chakras?

When nothing is going our way or we're struggling, it means we're in ego frequency. This state has us believing that we're a victim of our life or our marriage, instead of the creator of it. In this episode, I talk about the four levels of consciousness or To Me, By Me, Through Me, and As Me. 

Visit this episode's page here: https://bethrowles.com/why-we-blame-others-and-the-4-levels-of-consciousness/

The books mentioned are:

Quantum Love: Use Your Body's Atomic Energy to Create the Relationship You Desire by Dr. Laura Berman

The Inside Track: An Inspirational Guide To Conquering Adversity by Peter Sage

Energetic Selling and Marketing; A New Way to Create Extraordinary Growth in your Business by Lenka Lutonska

You can download The Princess & The Peeve Emotional Assessment here:

theprincessandthepeeve.com

One of my guilty pleasures is watching Bravo's Southern Charm, and I realized while watching a recent episode that Shep Rose and I have a lot in common when it comes to our thoughts on marriage. (Maybe he read my book after all?!) 

In this episode, I talk about how the Disney princess fairytale set us up for unhappy marriages and the reality of real men, and who's actually going to save us. 

Visit the episode's page here: https://bethrowles.com/the-reality-of-southern-charm-and-prince-charming/

Learning how to have better communication with your husband begins with learning how to self-regulate and manage your own energy, so you don’t get hooked by his fear.

Read more about this topic at the episode's page: https://bethrowles.com/how-to-have-better-communication-with-your-husband/

1. The biggest problem with the way we communicate now is that we're not even aware that our energy is matching theirs

a. They go into fear

b. We drop into fear and find a story to match it

c. We both end up on the defense the whole time and no one gets anywhere

2. When we are able to stay in an authentic place, this energy of love and not fear, then we can truly listen to their needs and express ours

a. From a place of love I can hear the little boy inside who's scared

b. We can get to the real thing below the words you're saying

3. When someone comes at us with an "when you BLANK I feel BLANK" they're trying to make us responsible for their triggers, their emotions

a. Only from a place of empathy can we help them process the trigger or emotion beneath what they're saying

b. Most communication issues come down to wanting to be understood but not wanting to understand

Download 30 Texts to Get More Help here: www.bethrowles.com/marriage

This episode is about navigating differing desires and needs in the bedroom, especially as a busy mom who already feels pretty overwhelmed by motherhood itself. 

I talk about:

1. You should never do it when depleting emotions are present around it. 

a. If you feel angry, resentful, hatred, disgust, etc.… it's not the time for sex

b. My theory is that if we're not feeling like we can raise our current children well at the moment, we won't be in the mood for sex even if having more children isn't a possibility… at a deeper level we shut down to it. It's like our body's like woah lady you're drowning now is NOT the time

c. You have to get clear on what your soul is asking you to do to make sure you have a better partnership and stop taking on everything alone

2. We have different needs

a. Men need it differently than women do, to them it's the way they feel the energy of your love… remember they aren't empaths as often as we are, they aren't picking up on your energy, but touch can bring them right into connection with it

b. There's nothing wrong with a quickie when you're just kind of feeling neutral about it… remember that to men it feels like a pretty real need and when we agree to be monogamous we do have some level of responsibility to allow them to meet that need with us

3. Sex is an energetic exchange first and foremost 

a. If you're going into it with the intention to make him happy or feel wanted, you need to explore those inner child needs first… you can't come to the bed with that kind of baggage and experience sex the way it's meant to be experienced, it will never fill you up

b. Your intention should be for him to feel your love and for you to receive his

You're looking to have a connection with your higher self or soul during the experience, it is so much more than what our society has sadly made it out to be

Read more about this episode here: https://bethrowles.com/how-to-find-a-balance-that-works-for-both-partners-in-sex-life-after-having-children/

Be sure to read Quantum Love by Dr. Laura Berman and you might also be interested in this blog: https://bethrowles.com/3-things-unhappy-wives-wish-their-husbands-knew/