The Boundaries.me Podcast

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Isabel has a friend that is depressed. She wants to be supportive but her friend is extremely isolated due to Covid restrictions of family she lives with. What can she do to lift her spirits?

Question: Am I "judging" my daughter when I ask her to go to counseling? She has addictions. I try to encourage without enabling her. What's the difference between evaluation and judgment?

Question: What is the best way to tell  my 30 year old daughter she may have PTSD? We experienced an armed robbery when she was eight years old. She's been fighting with me and getting easily triggered.

Sue is in a Celebrate Recovery group. She's friends with a gal in the group that's told her some concerning things about her marriage but it hasn't crossed the threshold of the group's guidelines. Her husband also comes to the group. What should she do?

Jessica is seeing someone and they've been on four dates so far. She's worried that her expectations are getting in the way. how can she tell if her expectations are reasonable?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show: 

Donna is feeling stuck in her marriage after 38 years. They're basically roommates at this point. She's running on an empty love-tank. What can she do to keep her emotional and mental health going?

Question: If I'm dating a person and he tells me that he's dating other people should I continue dating him? He's still on a dating site.

Christie needs help navigating her relationship with her in-laws without it affecting her marriage. If it were up to her, she wouldn't see them anymore.

Chris just went through a break up. They were together for six months. She is his sister's best friend. He got scared that neither of them were emotionally ready for the relationship. How can he heal and be more available?

Question: How do you say "I care about you, but it's not the right time to go to the next level?" He's going through a divorce and drinking more than he should.

Tammy's husband lives in another state and doesn't think there are problems in their marriage. She feels abandoned. What can she do to help their relationship?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr Cloud Show:

Question: How do you make dating fun? I feel like it's such an obligation for me. After a first date I always feel like things are more transactional where we measure up our accomplishments and it's disheartening.

Question: I have a friend that I want to reconnect with but I'm not sure if, or how, I should. We used to date and he wants to date again.

Michelle from Australia is in a relationship with a man that lost his wife two years ago. How can she navigate through his grief with him?

Question: How long do you think a man should wait after wife passed to start dating?

Danielle is a nurse and is feeling exhausted. It's been her calling in life but now she is worried about the damage from burnout.

Question: I've been divorced for 20 years and had a couple of long term relationships since that were dysfunctional. I'm currently dating nice man and don't want to take out the sins of the past on him.

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: How do I overcome my fear of online dating?

Susan's needs to set a boundary with her husband. He is "best friends" with a single woman and talks to her all the time. How can she draw the line?

Marie gets anxious when she's around her mom because she's verbally abusive. How can she stop taking on responsibility for her mom's feelings?

Question: How do I overcome the fear of talking about the past with my parents?

Question: You've just talked about the anxiety of growth. I'm trying to set boundaries, but the people in my life aren't used to me saying no. How do I cope with the stress?

Question: If you're in a dating relationship with someone and starting to think about dating someone else, is that a sign to move on?

Bridgette is dealing with a mom that never wanted to let go. She's not sure how to set boundaries with her or where to get started.

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

A listener wrote: Is it good to remain friends after a breakup? Are there guidelines that may help? Does proper healing mean total separation from your ex?

A listener wrote: What advice do you have to help me act like an ex-wife while I'm still living with my ex-husband? I'm unemployed and can't afford to move.

Kay's daughter is awaiting disability payments. She doesn't want to give her daughter any money that might enable further bad choices. How can she share her concerns with her daughter?

Jenny called back to get more advice on how to get her goals accomplished.

Abby is dating a great guy, and thinks things are going great, but whenever they're apart she gets anxious. Is this all on her, or is there a lack of communication causing her insecurity?

A listener wrote: My husband says all the right things, he loves me, and thinks I'm a great wife, but he doesn't make time for our relationship. He's always golfing, watching football, and working. When we're on a date, he'll watch football on his phone. I'm in a lonely marriage and wish his actions were as strong as his words. 

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

A live viewer wrote: What does a mentally healthy person get from prayer?

A live viewer wrote: Grappling with whether divorce is the right thing to do according to God's will. Am I listening to the will of God?

Jenny feels like she has talents she's not using. How can she get out of her own way and start accomplishing her goals?

Sue was physically abused by her ex-husband. How can she rebuild her trust and confidence around men? She gets triggered easily.

A live viewer wrote: My phone, television and other technology tends to overwhelm me. I'm limiting notifications but am I just treating the symptom and not the missing cause of why I'm overwhelmed?

Wendy isn't loving the messages at her church and feels disconnected. Her husband feels the opposite. She doesn't want to leave for emotional reasons, and would rather leave for rational reasons, but is that right? Should she trust her heart, or wait for more concrete issues to base a decision on?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

A live viewer wrote: Should we knowingly date a person who has been tested as a psychopath?

A live viewer wrote: How do you share the fights and arguments you're having at with your spouse without it leading to triangulation?

Jackie is working her way through postpartum depression. Whenever she feels like she's making progress she begins losing trust in her counselor and herself. How can she stop letting her doubts control the process?

A live viewer wrote: How do you handle a husband scripturally who won't leave and cleave from his family of origin? It's affecting our immediate family.

Maria doesn't know if it's time to cut ties with her mom. Every time they talk it devolves and triggers her. Is there a way to go no-contact that will improve the relationship?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include access to stream the recording afterward anytime, and as often as you like. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

In the context of dating, how do you know if someone likes you for who you really are? Are there signs or behaviors to look for?

Starr's husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has become extremely lazy. She doesn't know how much of it is from brain damage, or whether she can hold him accountable.

A listener wrote in asking about how much she should share with her three adult children about their father after their recent divorce. He's been bad mouthing her.

Betty doesn't know if she's playing the role of supporter or codependent. She's got custody of her grandkids and doesn't know if the financial help, the moral support, or the chores and errands are making things worse. What does healthy support look like?

How much should you tell your date about your past relationships?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include endless streaming access to the recording and the outline. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

How do you trust someone if you never know when they're telling the truth? Can you look at facts and actions instead?

Florence has forgiven her mom for how she was treated as child, but her mom hasn't really changed. She's not sure how forgiveness works. Should she just sweep this under the rug or is there a different path to forgiving her that will lead to some changes?

Robin is internalizing her anger with her dysfunctional bosses. they make a big deal out of small problems, and don't pay attention to pressing issues. Is there a better way to bring up her concerns without causing a backlash?

What do you do when your parents tell you that you don't love them unless you do what they say?

A viewer wrote in: How do I rebuild trust with my husband? He was addicted to pornography. How can she learn to trust herself too?

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include endless streaming access to the recording and the outline. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Hannah is trying to move on from past mistakes and forgive herself. She keeps dredging up the past and it's stopping her from growing. What techniques can she use to dispute her negative thoughts?

Lily wants to know how to "radically embrace" herself. She often only presents certain parts of herself the the world and she'd like to live more fully and openly.

Referring to a back to a conversation on creating habits, an audience member wrote in asking about how it is that we get "sick" of something? They were on strict diet for two years then suddenly felt revolted by it and couldn't bring themselves to eat another bite.

Are you having difficulty with trusting someone you're close to? Maybe you're trying to rebuild trust but you get set back by reliving what happened. Is this person worthy of giving your trust to in the first place? We have a two hour live workshop coming up on Trust! It's on February 21st. If you can't attend live, don't worry! All purchases include endless streaming access to the recording and the outline. https://www.boundaries.me/trust

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me