In this special edition of the podcast we're focusing the spotlight on anxiety.

Dr. Cloud talks about the difference between a gut instinct protecting us from danger, and anxiety preventing us from doing what we should.

Darlene has anxiety. What can she do to change her mental dialogue that leads her to anxiousness?

Erin needs help with her anxiety around her parents. They fight all the time. How can she embrace the anxiety she has when she's around them? How can "Decatastrophizing" the situation ahead of seeing time help ease her anxiousness?

Breanne is realizing that she's a people pleaser. It's a defense mechanism to combat her social anxiety. How can addressing past trauma play a role in reducing her social anxiety?

Dana has long had anxiety and fears about being hospitalized. In the face of Covid, many of those fears are no longer irrational.  How can we deal with anxiety that's not based on irrational fear?

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In this special edition of the podcast we spotlight Dr. Cloud’s insights on the subject of narcissism.

Dr. Cloud's introduction covers the over-attribution of narcissism, what it is, and what it is not.

Shelly is seeing signs of narcissism in a man she's dating. She want to know: Can narcissists change?

Hayley has a narcissistic mom. She's been "gray rocking" her and it's working, but her sisters don't practice it. Dr. Cloud discusses how all narcissists are not the same and there isn't one strategy that's going to work for all of them. Many techniques can be employed.

Cheri wants to know if narcissists are aware of how their actions are perceived by others. Is it automatic for them to be manipulative, like a defense mechanism? Is there a way to make them see what they're doing to stop the behavior?

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: According to my spouse, I'm struggling with balancing priorities in my marriage. We both work and I spend my free time on the golf course. This seems to create conflict in our marriage. I only play on the weekend. How can I balance work, golf, and my marriage?

Question: Our daughter and her boyfriend have been dating for two years. They met in college. Both of them graduate in May with mechanical engineering degrees. They're discussing marriage. We suggested they wait just another year, but they are sure they want to get married. We're being supportive. How much say should we have in this?

Victoria is having trouble succeeding in career pursuits. She's reading books that are giving her lots of different things to prioritize. She's having trouble identifying the obstacles and causes of her negative thinking.

Question: I'm struggling over my feelings and thoughts of an ex-boyfriend. It's been a long time since we stopped seeing each other, but I can't stop thinking about him. How do I stop ruminating?

Question: How do you handle someone who tries to use guilt to manipulate you? When I try to address it, they won't listen to the hurt it causes me. Instead, they turn it back to how they are hurting.

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: How do you separate being a helpmate to your spouse versus being an enabler? How can you let them own their responsibilities and help them with kindness and love?

Anne is in couples counseling. Her counselor wants her to validate some pretty crazy feelings that her husband is having. It makes her uncomfortable. How can she balance out participating and boundaries?

Question: How can I have more balanced friendships? I tend to be the listener all the time and attract people that have no true interest in my stories. I feel used.

Jennifer had a six year relationship end because he was afraid her daughter would falsely accuse him of inappropriate behavior. How can she move on and process the loss?

Question: I have been on a healing journey from CPTSD and the Holy Spirit has been so present in all of it. How do I set myself free from feeling like I need to go back to relationships that were so unhealthy?

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: I am recovering from a bad relationship. I feel like I've come a long way but now I'm surprised by how much I miss him and the good times we had. Aside from therapy, what can I do for myself?

Lynn is feeling disconnected from her family and is learning about ambivalent attachment. What are Dr. Cloud's thoughts on ambivalent attachment? 

Question: A bad relationship from my past wired me to be different. Can you talk to us about how to rewire ourselves into a newer version of ourselves?

Question: How can someone set boundaries on social media to protect romantic relationships without being controlling? One person has voluntarily deleted their accounts in an effort to gain trust back. How does a couple move on after a breach of trust?

Vanessa is trying to process the good and bad together after a relationship has ended. How can she process all the second guessing?

Question: How do you find dependable friends when all the people in your life are undependable? What the things to watch out for going forward?

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Cheri wants to know: Do narcissists know what they're doing or are they unaware of it? Is it automatic for them to be manipulative, like a defense mechanism? Is there a way to make them see it?

Question: What's the difference between shame and guilt?

Question: Disapproval triggers me and I'm hard on myself about it. I'm married with kids yet I still feel like a child. How do I get my needs met without feeling afraid and more insecure?

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Katherine wonders if she's an "unsafe" person, and if so, what can she do about it? 

Question: How do I get over the guy I was in love with? We agreed to go separate ways because we want different things. It's been two weeks. I can't stop thinking about him. It makes me sick thinking about him with another woman.

Laurel's mother died recently. Her sister thinks she betrayed her when she didn't and the sister refuses to talk to her. She wants to keep her boundaries, but things are going to stay like they are unless she caves in. What other options does she have?

Question: How do I relax? I have good stuff going on in my life too, but it's hard to breathe in the midst of everything.

Dr. Cloud's upcoming workshop Mentally Healthy Faith is a two hour workshop covering how your mental health and your spiritual life intertwine. Discounted pricing is available for a limited time at www.boundaries.me/faith

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: My husband and I are struggling in our relationship with his mother. When we put small boundaries in place, she gets upset and reacts with passive aggressiveness and tries to make us feel guilty. How do we create a healthy relationship with her?

Question: What are some good questions you can ask someone on a first date to really get to know their character?

Question: I struggle with letting my 23-year-old daughter face possible consequences. I think she has mental health issues and a drug problem. She calls crying when the bottom falls out. How do I "let go and let God?"

Question: As I get older, I find that my circle of friends is getting smaller and it becomes more difficult to make new friends. If I do make new friends, are there things I can look for in a person to know that they're going to be a good long-term friend?

Claire is close to her parents and puts their advice higher than anyone else's. They didn't let her date when she was a teen. She wants to talk to them about her dating life to get advice, but she's not sure how it will go.

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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: I am seeing a guy who tells me he isn't looking for a relationship, but he always talks to me and makes time for me every day. Could this guy be lying about what he really wants?

Question: I have become a self-righteous witch to my husband. We have been in couples counseling for a year. The therapist says my husband is conflict avoidant and he now uses that as an excuse. What can I do to handle the conflict avoidant behavior without ending my marriage?

Stephanie is trying to figure out how to heal a friendship that became romantic. How can she stop blaming him for the things he can't control? What's the first step in restoring their friendship?

Lindsay needs guidance on setting boundaries with her husband as they work through issues in their marriage. They're in counseling, but she's feeling fatigued. How can they come to agreements that will prevent blow-ups?

Question: How does a parent gain trust with a babysitter for their special-needs child?

Question: My husband agreed to a joint checking account, but he still has a separate account and assets. He refuses to get a job and keeps taking money out of our joint account. Should I give up on him?

Question: My parents are struggling with my two teen brothers. There was a lack of structure and discipline early on. What are some ways they can set boundaries with teenagers?

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me 

On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:

Question: I am mustering the energy and patience necessary to be a stay at home mom to three kids under seven years old. I have the hardest time not being an absolutely horrible person to my kids especially when I'm sleep deprived. Dow you have any advice?

Annalisa is naturally hard on herself. She's in therapy for it. Her self-critical ways have rubbed off on her son. What can she do to help herself and her son stop the self-criticism?

Question: Learning to lose well can involve a lot of grief, especially when you have teenagers making poor choices you feel responsible for. How do you move past the regrets of parenting and into a more loving and accepting relationship with you kids?

Question: Paul needs to set some boundaries with his wife but doesn't know how. A simple disagreement led to her locking him out the house. What can they do to get some help?

Get a free 14 day trial to Boundaries.me with over 90 video courses, daily coaching emails and more. We've got courses on codependency, finding safe people, dealing with a narcissist, and over 90 other courses. You'll also get daily coaching videos delivered to your inbox--short 2-4 minute videos that give you one thing to do that day to build your way to a better version of yourself. We've also got a members-only support community on the site where you can discuss what you're learning, and get support and share support along the way. It's a free two-week trial, cancel at anytime, and only $9 a month after that. https://www.boundaries.me