The Coaching Clinic

Navigating the End of Coaching Relationships: When to Refer and Let Go

In this episode, Angie and John dive into the challenging aspects of coaching, including when and how to end coaching relationships.

They discuss the importance of recognizing when a client may need therapy instead of coaching, knowing one's limits as a coach, and the value of referring clients to other professionals when necessary.

Angie shares her strategy of pausing long-term clients to encourage them to implement what they've learned, while John stresses the importance of continuous personal development for coaches.

The hosts emphasize maintaining integrity in client relationships and offer practical advice for managing rapport and avoiding over-dependence.

Tune in for insightful discussions on sustaining effective and ethical coaching practices.

keywords

coaching, referral, coaching relationship, therapy, boundaries, personal development

takeaways

• Know when to refer a client to another professional, such as a therapist, if they need more specialized help.
• Maintain boundaries and avoid blurring the lines between coaching and other professions.
• Take breaks in the coaching relationship to allow clients to implement what they've learned and gain clarity.
• Continuously work on personal development to stay on the leading edge of coaching and provide value to clients.

titles

• Knowing When to Refer a Client
• Taking Breaks to Implement and Gain Clarity

Sound Bites

• "Just because you have your psychologist or a psychiatrist and the coach, if you're in a coaching relationship, just because you have that psychiatric background, sure it can inform what you do. But if you end up becoming the psychiatrist in the situation."
• "Psychoanalysis is much more where you need to dive deeper into the issues and probably stay, work with them for a long time. Coaching is much more solution focused and was all about taking action, getting things moving forward."
• "Let them go for a minute actually brings on like they might have clarity on something and go, wow, that was really amazing. But what's the next question mark?"

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections on Coaching

01:36 When to Refer a Client

03:13 Blurring the Lines Between Coaching and Therapy

04:56 Maintaining Professional Boundaries

19:55 The Importance of Personal Development for Coaches

25:58 Engaging with the Audience

Navigating Feedback Without Taking It Personally

In this episode of the Coaching Clinic Podcast, Angie and John address how to handle feedback without taking it personally.

They share their experiences as coaches, discuss the importance of feedback for personal and professional growth, and explore various types of feedback they’ve encountered.

The conversation also touches upon the challenges of maintaining confidence, dealing with difficult clients, and implementing effective coaching practices.

Additionally, the hosts provide insights into their upcoming live sessions on LinkedIn and YouTube, where listeners can interact with them in real time.

keywords

feedback, coaching, personal growth, objectivity, detachment, not taking things personally, growth mindset, feedback, coaching

takeaways

• Feedback is not a personal attack, but rather a reflection of the giver's state of mind.
• Coaches should strive to be objective and detached when receiving feedback.
• Self-reflection and continuous improvement are essential for personal and professional growth.
• Feedback should be seen as an opportunity for growth rather than a personal attack. It's important to not take things personally and to develop a growth mindset.
• Feedback, both positive and developmental, is essential for growth and improvement.
• Taking a step back and deciding how to respond can help avoid taking things personally.
• Opening ourselves up to feedback on a regular basis can lead to personal and professional growth.

Sound Bites

• "Feedback is challenging sometimes. Maybe it should be."
• "Being able to pull back and say, whoa, we're not doing this"
• "Why did you say that? What's what was your intention?"

00:00 Listener Feedback Sparks Discussion

01:26 Understanding and Handling Feedback

02:38 Personal Growth Through Coaching

05:56 Dealing with Difficult Clients

12:51 The Importance of Self-Reflection

19:44 Balancing Objectivity and Empathy

26:42 Owning Up to Mistakes

27:50 Handling Criticism and Feedback

28:40 The Importance of Asking Questions

31:47 Dealing with Emotional Reactions

37:55 Apologizing and Taking Responsibility

39:27 The Value of Feedback in Coaching

45:05 Cooking and Personal Development

50:00 Upcoming Live Shows and Interaction

Procrastination: Understanding, Tackling, and Coaching Through It

In this episode, Angie and John dive into the challenges of procrastination, exploring its causes, impacts, and potential solutions.

They discuss the importance of being proactive, sharing personal anecdotes, and providing insights on overcoming procrastination both in personal lives and business settings.

The episode covers how coaches can help their clients through strategic questioning, setting up accountability measures, and breaking tasks into manageable bits to build momentum.

The session also touches on themes of fear, overwhelm, and the importance of consistent action to combat procrastination.

keywords

procrastination, personal development, productivity, fear, discipline, coaching, perfectionism, goal setting, consistency, accountability, procrastination, small actions, celebrating wins, all-or-nothing mindset, redefining goal setting, impatience, taking action

takeaways

• Procrastination is often driven by fear and a desire to avoid discomfort.
• Being proactive and practising discipline can help overcome procrastination.
• Breaking tasks down into smaller, manageable steps can make them less overwhelming.
• Procrastination can manifest in different areas of life, and addressing it in one area can have a positive impact on others.
• Self-care is an important aspect of overcoming procrastination and maintaining productivity. Perfectionism and an all-or-nothing mindset can lead to procrastination.
• Redefine goal setting as a series of actions rather than pass/fail outcomes.
• Consistency and small actions are more valuable than sporadic big efforts.
• Celebrate wins along the way to stay motivated.
• Accountability is important in coaching, but it should be positive and supportive rather than punitive.
• Taking any action is better than feeling stuck and not moving forward.

titles

• Procrastination in Different Areas of Life
• Understanding Procrastination: Causes and Effects Celebrating Wins to Stay Motivated
• The Role of Accountability in Coaching

Sound Bites

• "Procrastination is often driven by fear and a desire to avoid discomfort."
• "Being proactive and practising discipline can help overcome procrastination."
• "Breaking tasks down into smaller, manageable steps can make them less overwhelming."
• "If she ate one bad meal, what she considered a bad meal, unhealthy meal. Well, that meant the rest of the day she was eating unhealthy because it was very all or nothing."
• "If you don't win the gold medal at the Olympics, are you saying that the silver is worthless or that the bronze is worthless or that the other runners aren't still very talented and able athletes?"
• "Consistency has so much more value than a huge, you know, a huge, what would you call it?"

00:00 Introduction and Episode Setup

00:39 Procrastination: The Topic Revealed

03:02 Personal Experiences with Procrastination

06:17 Procrastination in Business and Coaching

09:59 The Psychology Behind Procrastination

17:06 Overcoming Procrastination: Strategies and Stories

24:50 Redefining Success and Goal Setting

26:26 The Power of Small Wins and Dopamine

28:29 Overcoming Procrastination and Impatience

30:06 The Importance of Planning and Delegation

38:50 Accountability in Coaching

45:06 Taking Action to Overcome Stagnation

47:28 Engage with Us and Stay Connected

Optimizing Your Coaching Day: Time Management and Productivity Tips

In this episode of The Coaching Clinic, John Ball and Angela Besignano share insights into structuring a successful day as a self-employed coach.

They discuss the importance of setting office hours, employing productivity tools, and having a planner. The hosts emphasize the need to balance work and self-care routines, avoid distractions like social media, and evaluate daily activities to maintain productivity.

They also touch on the significance of gratitude practices and creating boundaries to optimize work performance.

Listeners are encouraged to be intentional about their schedules and continuously reflect on their practices for improvement.

Leave us a voicemail with your questions on this episode or about coaching and we might just feature you on the show: https://www.speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast

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coaching, self-employed coach, typical day, structure, planning, boundaries, prioritization, morning routine, gratitude, gratitude, time management, productivity, intentionality, strategic planning, meditation, energy shift, social media, tracking time, evaluation

takeaways

• Plan your day and set specific office hours to ensure productivity and avoid task switching.
• Use a productivity planner or tool that works best for you to stay organized and focused.
• Set boundaries with social media and email to avoid distractions and maintain work-life balance.
• Start your day with self-care activities and a gratitude practice to set a positive tone.
• Reflect on your week and make adjustments to improve productivity and well-being. Practicing gratitude can increase enthusiasm and motivation in life.
• Being intentional and strategic in daily activities is crucial for success.
• Implementing practices like release meditation can help shift energy and maintain focus.
• Being a creator on social media rather than a passive user is more beneficial.
• Tracking time and evaluating activities can improve productivity and identify areas for improvement.

titles

• Reflection and Continuous Improvement
• Morning Routines and the Power of Gratitude Being a Creator on Social Media
• Intentionality and Strategic Planning for Success

Sound Bites

• "Busy work vs. income-producing activities"
• "Segment your time for different business activities"
• "I found myself getting excited about things, being more enthusiastic in my interactions with people, because I was appreciating my life more."
• "If you're constantly taking out and extracting... eventually, guess what? You're gonna get the big fat, sorry, there's nothing left."
• "Nothing in my calendar happens at a certain time by accident. Not one thing."

00:00 Introduction and Opening Banter

00:27 Welcome to the Coaching Clinic

00:53 Structuring Your Day as a Coach

02:30 The Importance of Office Hours

03:25 Planning and Productivity Tools

04:56 Avoiding Non-Income Producing Activities

08:04 Setting Goals and Effective Planning

10:20 Balancing Work and Personal Life

18:10 Morning Routines and Self-Care

21:57 The Power of Gratitude

25:22 The Importance of Flex Time

29:09 The Release Meditation Technique

30:39 Structuring Your Work Day

32:59 Deep Work and Social Media Distractions

36:12 Mindset and Prioritization

42:03 Tracking Your Time and Finances

44:06 Favorite Planning Tools

45:13 Exciting Announcement and Conclusion

Confronting and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

In this episode of the Coaching Clinic, John and Angie dive deep into the topic of imposter syndrome through a candid conversation and personal anecdotes.

They start with a thought-provoking game of 'Who Am I?', revealing statements related to imposter syndrome.

Throughout the discussion, they explore the sneaky and pervasive nature of imposter syndrome, its psychological effects, and share techniques to deal with it.

They emphasize the importance of taking action and maintaining a healthy detachment to overcome self-doubt.

The episode also touches on how emotional intelligence, empathy, and creating an alter ego can help coaches and clients alike to navigate through imposter syndrome effectively.

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imposter syndrome, feeling inadequate, fraudulent, competence, faking it, embodying, alter ego, imposter syndrome, coaching, growth, success, self-doubt, fear, perfectionism, procrastination, certifications, qualifications, experience, results, detachment, action, manage

takeaways

• Imposter syndrome is a common experience, even for successful individuals
• Distinguishing between faking it and embodying our desired self is important
• Creating an alter ego can help us step into the version of ourselves we want to be Imposter syndrome is common among coaches and can hinder their growth and success.
• Perfectionism and procrastination are related to imposter syndrome and can be used as excuses to delay taking action.
• Certifications and qualifications are not always necessary to be a successful coach; experience and results are more important.
• Coaches should detach themselves from their clients' emotions and maintain a focus on moving forward and taking action.
• Imposter syndrome can be managed by questioning doubts and fears, challenging oneself, and recognizing it as a sign of wanting to do well.

titles

• Stepping into Your Alter Ego
• Understanding Imposter Syndrome Maintaining Detachment: Coaching Through Emotions
• Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: A Challenge for Coaches

Sound Bites

• "I am the voice of imposter syndrome."
• "Never had it, never experienced that, never felt like an impostor in my life."
• "Imposter syndrome is always going to come up for anybody who is putting themselves out there."
• "We can step outside of our limitations."
• "Excitement and momentum can come to a screeching halt when it's time to actually be a coach."
• "Perfectionism is a form of procrastination."

00:00 Introduction to the Game

00:48 Revealing the Imposter Syndrome

01:42 Understanding Imposter Syndrome

05:01 Personal Experiences with Imposter Syndrome

07:01 Overcoming Self-Doubt

17:35 The Fine Line Between Faking and Embodying

24:49 Exploring the Concept of Drag in Coaching

25:37 Addressing Imposter Syndrome in Coaching

26:35 The Excitement and Challenges of Becoming a Coach

29:08 Perfectionism and Procrastination in Coaching

33:16 The Importance of Taking Action

36:45 Balancing Empathy and Detachment in Coaching

48:00 Final Thoughts on Imposter Syndrome

Building Relationships in Coaching and Authentic Marketing Techniques

In this episode, John and Angie delve into effective and authentic methods for bringing new clients into your coaching world.

They emphasize relationship marketing over traditional hard-sell techniques.

The conversation covers the importance of warm and cold leads, the pitfalls of spammy marketing, the value of building trust, and strategies to maintain authentic connections with potential clients.

They also discuss the role of podcasts and referrals in client acquisition.

John and Angie agree that while building relationships is paramount, the approach and communication strategy should align with one's true self for genuine client engagement.

Do you have something to say on this topic or questions we didn't cover? Leave us a voicemail. It's free to do and if we like it we might feature you on the show. Go to https://speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast and we look forward to hearing from you.

keywords

coaching business, building relationships, curated professional image, selling the outcome, authenticity, relatability, referrals, believing in yourself

takeaways

• Building relationships and creating a curated professional image are key to bringing new clients into your coaching business.
• Sell the desired outcome to clients and focus on being authentic and relatable.
• Referrals are a powerful way to bring in new clients, so ask for them in the right way.
• Believe in yourself and your ability to help others, and communicate that belief to potential clients.
• Stay tuned for a big surprise that John and Angie have in the works!

titles

• The Power of Referrals
• A Big Surprise in the Works

Sound Bites

• "I grab my lasso, I jump on my horse and I go wrangle me some clients."
• "The most important thing you can do is to focus on building the relationship."
• "Sell the destination and not the flight."

00:00 Introduction and Unusual Client Acquisition Methods

01:49 The Importance of Relationship Building in Business

02:44 Differentiating Between Cold and Warm Leads

03:46 Creating Valuable Content and Avoiding the Content Treadmill

04:27 The Role of Authenticity and Vulnerability in Marketing

04:46 The Power of Person-to-Person Marketing

09:13 Selling the Destination, Not the Flight

13:27 The Challenges of Maintaining Client Relationships

14:42 The Impact of Podcasting and Guest Appearances

16:22 Navigating the Digital Age of Marketing

30:26 The Importance of Referrals and Recommendations

35:18 Conclusion and Upcoming Surprises

Mastering Key Coaching Skills: Listening, Reframing, and Building Rapport

Summary

In this conversation, Angie and John discuss various coaching skills and techniques. They touch on the importance of rituals and energy management, the skill of reframing, and the power of metaphors and stories in coaching. They emphasize the need for coaches to guide their clients rather than telling them what to do, and the importance of aligning values. They also invite listeners to share their coaching challenges and skills they want to develop.

Keywords

coaching skills, listening, presence, rapport, preparation, breaks, energy, coaching skills, rituals, energy management, reframing, metaphors, stories, guiding clients, aligning values

Takeaways

Listening is a crucial skill for coaches, as it allows them to be present and pick up on cues from clients.

Creating good rapport with clients is important for building trust and establishing a strong coaching relationship.

Preparation for coaching sessions, both in terms of knowing where the client left off and energetically preparing oneself, is essential for effective coaching.

Taking breaks between sessions helps coaches maintain focus and avoid distractions.

Coaches should strive to show up with an objective mindset, free from personal or work-related energy. Rituals and energy management are important for coaches to maintain focus and deliver their best in each session.

Reframing is a valuable skill that helps clients gain new perspectives and challenge their beliefs and stories.

Metaphors and stories can be powerful tools in coaching, helping clients make connections and understand concepts more deeply.

Coaches should guide their clients rather than telling them what to do, allowing them to find their own answers and solutions.

Aligning values with clients can enhance the coaching process and create a stronger connection.

Got a question for John & Angie? Leave us a voicemail at https://speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast It's free and if we like your message, we might feature you on the show.

00:00 Introduction and Opening Banter

01:04 Discussing Essential Coaching Skills

01:37 The Importance of Active Listening

08:03 Building Rapport with Clients

17:18 Preparing for Coaching Sessions

21:34 Maintaining Energy and Focus

28:23 Humor and Team Readiness

29:14 Importance of State Management

30:25 Personal Power and Emotional State

32:36 Handling Major Life Events as a Coach

36:32 Reframing as a Coaching Skill

42:19 The Power of Metaphors in Coaching

46:35 Encouraging Client Self-Discovery

48:30 Wrapping Up and Audience Engagement

Key Traits and Qualities That Define a Good Coach

In this episode, John and Angie explore the essential qualities that make someone a good coach.

They discuss the importance of ensuring clients know what to do after a call, being fully present, listening intently, and maintaining a non-judgmental attitude.

They also touch upon the significance of professionalism and the ability to hold clients accountable without shame.

The conversation delves into personal experiences, sharing relevant stories to highlight these traits, and emphasizes the need for genuine care in coaching.

We invite you to share your thoughts and questions about coaching traits, skills, and habits. Leave us a voicemail at https://speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast it's free and we might even feature you on the show.

00:00 Introduction and Best Qualities of a Coach

01:19 Debating the Traits of a Good Coach

02:18 The Importance of Being Present and Listening

04:33 Challenges and Anecdotes in Coaching

10:04 Non-Judgmental Coaching and Personal Beliefs

15:38 Handling Difficult Coaching Situations

17:05 Handling Difficult Clients

17:22 Navigating Religious Beliefs in Coaching

18:15 Maintaining Professional Boundaries

20:02 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

20:51 Effective Communication Strategies

21:42 Judgment and Validation in Coaching

22:24 The Importance of Professionalism

28:09 Traits of a Good Coach

35:01 Engaging with the Coaching Community

Balancing Structure and Intuition in Coaching

In this episode, hosts Angie and John dive into the debate over structured versus intuitive coaching methods.

They discuss their personal experiences transitioning from formulaic approaches to more adaptive, intuitive styles.

They explore the importance of blending frameworks with flexibility, the perils of rigid coaching, and the potential future implications of AI in coaching.

Tune in for insights on how to keep coaching sessions impactful and the essential traits of great coaches.

Do you have some thoughts or feedback you'd like to share? Questions for us? Leave us a free voicemail https://speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast and if we like your message we might feature you on the show.

00:00 Introduction and Comedy Preferences

01:17 Coaching Styles: Formulaic vs. Intuitive

04:49 Frameworks in Coaching

06:42 The Role of Intuition in Coaching

08:58 Challenges and Flexibility in Coaching

18:39 Client Expectations and Coaching Fit

25:35 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser

Diving Deep into Coaching Philosophy

In this episode, John and Angie dive deep into the foundations and philosophies behind effective coaching.

They explore the origins and influences of coaching practices, drawing from personal experiences, various philosophies including Buddhism and Stoicism, and the importance of maintaining human-centric approaches.

The conversation touches on the significance of avoiding dogmatic thinking, the impact of personal development on coaching, and the ongoing journey of discovering and integrating useful philosophical insights.

They also discuss the importance of clarity and truth in coaching sessions.

For those interested in an engaging introduction to moral philosophy, the show 'The Good Place' (on Netflix) is highly recommended.

Do you have some thoughts to share? Questions for John & Angie? Leave us a free quick voice mail here: https://speakpipe.com/thecoachingclinicpodcast and we might just feature you on the show.

00:00 Introduction: Diving into Coaching Philosophy

01:35 Exploring the Roots of Personal Development

03:11 Developing a Personal Coaching Philosophy

04:51 Philosophical Influences and Personal Growth

12:26 The Role of Clarity in Coaching

15:09 Ethics and Philosophy in Coaching

19:43 Conclusion: Encouraging Deeper Exploration