Hello, 2023!

Today, I’ll be talking about how you can maintain a positive outlook for this year and keep your eyes focused on what your future can look like after divorce.

You get to choose your own adventure. And you can do this in three simple steps.

Tune in to this episode on Finding Positive and Seeing Hope on The Other Side of Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Give yourself permission to feel. The shortcut through pain is to allow yourself to be with your emotions. It’s okay to take a break when it gets overwhelming. You don’t have to be at 100% every day.

✔️ Start planning things for yourself. Schedule eating out with friends. Take a hike. Make yourself your favorite cup of coffee. It’s all about re-engaging with the feeling of looking forward to doing something.

✔️ Focus on yourself. Pay attention to what you want and act on it. Initiate hanging out when you feel like you need company. Nobody else will take care of yourself but you.

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com.

Financial Dignity® Coach Christine Luken’s journey to a healthy financial relationship was no easy feat.

Bouncing checks, an ex with terrible money habits, and a poor credit score – she turned to her family for help. She worked her way out with a plan and quit her corporate job to help others with similar struggles.

Now, she’s here to pass on her wisdom to you.

Tune in to this episode on How To Heal Your Relationship With Money with Christine Luken.

Key points covered in this episode: 

 ✔️Treat money as a person. Unlike your ex, you and money are together forever. It deserves your love and attention. Christine also suggests writing a letter to money to clear yourself of your negative feelings surrounding it. You and money should be on the same team.

✔️Know your money story. It’s the learned behaviors and attitudes towards money that you’ve picked up from others. It created an emotional weight around my divorce as I did asset division and signed papers. Divorce is a business transaction. And that’s the reality.

 ✔️Give yourself space to calm down. Often our emotions overpower our reasoning. Making sound financial decisions requires both logic and feelings. Your entire being must be holistically in good condition to avoid impulsive money choices.

✔️Money represents freedom in options. It is a tool that provides, and it doesn’t care how it’s spent. Money can be used for evil. But it can also be given to someone in need. It’s all about the energy that you choose to put around it.

✔️Have a weekly money date. Spare some time in your calendar to go over your finances and assess your money health. You can even turn it into an enjoyable experience. Just like a real person, you need to date money to cultivate a good relationship.

✔️You can still have fun with a healthy spending plan. On your path to financial freedom, you don’t need to deprive yourself of the little pleasures of a good meal or a nice pair of shoes. Know where your money is going, and avoid too many restrictions.

Ready for money to support your happiness, rather than stress you out? Then you need Christine Luken, Financial Dignity® Coach in your corner!

As the Founder of the Financial Dignity® Movement, Christine has coached hundreds of high-earning professionals, business owners, and divorcing women to pay off staggering amounts of debt and massively increase their net worth. The author of several books, including Money is Emotional and Financial Dignity® After Divorce, Christine blends wise money management with emotional intelligence.

When she’s not coaching clients from her home office in Cincinnati, you can find this member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals curled up with a good book, a fluffy cat, and a strong cup of coffee. You can find her at www.ChristineLuken.com

Books on Amazon:

Financial Dignity After Divorce

Money is Emotional

Manage Money Like a Boss

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com.

Can you believe that it’s the end of 2022?

In this episode, I’ll be reflecting and sharing vulnerably where I’m at, how I choose to be taking care of myself during this very hard time of year for me, and how you can practice self-care as a way to start the new year.

Tune in to this episode on Self-Care During Hard Times.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ The first year of grief is always the hardest. Navigating my divorce and my mother’s passing was a difficult experience, but it also emphasized the importance of self-care.

✔️ Trust yourself and surrender to your feelings. Allow yourself to give what you need at the moment. Let go of judgment, worry, and fear. Letting the emotions flow through you can help you recover quicker.

✔️ Make the necessary shifts to your schedule. I had to move some of my clients because I felt like I needed more time to take care of myself. And you can too.

✔️ Find solace in the simple things. If walking your dog or buying a snack from the store is the only self-care that you can afford right now, it still counts.

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Best-selling author and ‘The Divorce Coach’ Sara Davison is no stranger to reinventing herself after a separation.

After finding out her then-husband was setting up a new life with another partner, she faced the waves of a turbulent divorce and swore to survive it so she can help other women experiencing the same troubles.

Tune in to this episode on  5 Phases of Divorce with Sara Davison.

Key points covered in this episode: 

 ✔️Everything passes. Just because life is bad in the moment doesn’t mean it’ll stay that way forever. Have faith in the possibility that you can turn your pain into power.

✔️Change how you react. Do you find yourself repeatedly frustrated over certain situations? Notice what you’re doing and ask yourself, “What can I do to take back my power and avoid being triggered?” You have full control over your emotions.

 ✔️Lower your expectations. If you have an ex that’s difficult to deal with, any other good that they do is a bonus. So whenever you’re frustrated about a recurring bad habit, like being late, take back control and plan ahead!

✔️Build your self-reliance muscles. Coming out of a toxic relationship, you may have lost the ability to trust your own instinct. Whatever your ex throws at you – from their lawyers or anyone else – let them do what they want. But don’t let it break you. 

✔️ Make a breakup bucket list. Write down all the things you CAN do now that you couldn’t have done before. Did your ex hate leather trousers? Wear them! Did they stop you from painting the house with pastel shades? Now’s the time to do it!

✔️Push yourself outside your comfort zone. You’re doing just great the way you are. And all it takes is a little bit of stepping up for change to happen. It’s the small choices we make that lead to the biggest leaps forward. Enjoy the process, and test the waters. What can you do differently now?

Sara Davison, best known as ‘The Divorce Coach’ is an award-winning authority on break-ups, divorce, and life-empowerment. 

Following the launch of Sara’s Breakup & Divorce Coach Practitioner Accreditation Program in 2018, Sara has now founded The International Divorce Coach Centre Of Excellence which has a coaching community of 250 Divorce Coaches spanning 16 countries and five continents. 

Sara is a twice best-selling author, regular media commentator, and host of the #1 podcast Heartbreak to Happiness.

Books:

The Split: Breakup to Breakthrough in 30 Days or Less

Uncoupling: How to survive and thrive after breakup and divorce

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Website link:  www.saradavison.com

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Twitter: SDDivorceCoach

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/ 

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com. 

Are you thinking of going on a soul-searching adventure? 🌏🧳✈️💜✨

THIS IS A SIGN for you to do just that! 

Take it from fantastic actress and author, Gabrielle Stone, who reveals how a solo Europe trip after a painful divorce and losing new love became a cathartic journey that changed her life.

WATCH this new episode of the Divorced Woman's Guide ▶️ How Heartbreak Led to Healing & Self Love with Gabrielle Stone.

✔️ Solo travel is what everyone should do once in their lives.

In her book, Eat, Pray, #FML, Gabrielle Stone tells the riveting account of how she survived heart-crushing breakups in a span of two months. Instead of wallowing in misery, she resolves to board a flight to Europe, go on a wild adventure, and unexpectedly find the answers she seeks.

✔️ Getting to know yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Gabrielle teaches the Thought Onion technique to understand oneself better and manage emotions after going through waves of abandonment, betrayal, pain, and trauma. Look at your thoughts and reactions and peel the layers back to get to the core. Adjust and have a different response in the future.

✔️ Relationships will always mirror things for you to work on and heal. 

Are you mindful of the things that get you triggered, especially when relating to other people? These incidents or events that drive you crazy tie up to the small and big trauma deeply rooted in your past. Making an intention to understand yourself by your triggers will help you facilitate your healing faster and build healthier relationships in the present and future. #InnerWorkTakesWork

✔️ Use your heartbreak to pave this beautiful, unexpected healing path to self-love. The old aphorism 'What does not kill you makes you stronger' befits a spot on the wall as a nice reminder for many of us. 🖌️🖼 Remembering that we will eventually surpass it takes firm faith and resolve. After all, decisions made that were good and bad make us who we are. 

To you, my sister, know that you are made of stronger stuff. Don't give up!

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Gabrielle Stone is no stranger to the world of entertainment. Growing up on set with her legendary scream-queen mother, Dee Wallace (Cujo, E.T.), she had days of licking off mommy's fake blood and watching behind-the-scenes movie magic. Seeing the world with mom and dad gave her the travel bug at an early age—until Gabrielle experienced a real-life horror when she lost her father suddenly at age seven.

After many years in the industry herself, Stone transitioned from meaty acting roles to writing and directing. Her award-winning films It Happened Again Last Night and After Emma gained her awards for writing, directing, and acting—but she had a bigger role in life that would soon present itself: freaking badass.

After the rug was vigorously pulled out from under her when her husband's affair came to light, she found herself falling into the arms of another man. After a second failed attempt at love and a massive heartbreak, she decided that instead of landing flat on her ass—she'd make a career out of it.

And so came the birth of the book Eat, Pray, #FML, where she shared all the mistakes, all the lessons, and most importantly, how she became a fearless leader from it all

When fans around the world demanded more, the highly anticipated sequel, The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl, and the podcast FML Talk we're born—and Gabrielle soon realized that her broken heart had bloomed a movement.

Grab Gabrielle's book, Eat Pray #FML:

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The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl:

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

In the "Most Wonderful Time of the Year," many of us can feel incredibly alone. ❄️ Family, togetherness, and love are the highlights of the season that can bring a swell of difficult emotions for the single, separated, and divorced. 

Going through these challenging, yearly holiday episodes myself, I invite you to think about this shift. Instead of saying, "Oh, I'm just a single person now," Ask: "What new and amazing experience can I get to create this year?" 

▶️ Feeling Lonely During the Holidays After Divorce

✔️ Don't choose to be lonely this time of year.  

A couple of years ago, when I was newly divorced, I always wondered to myself: Who would I ever travel with? My parents are not fond of going around, while all my married friends cannot leave on a whim when they have to take care of the kids. Travelling is my passion, but I dreaded the thought of being by myself. 

✔️ Fulfill your travel dreams post-divorce.

The holidays are the perfect time to go on that short trip or grand adventure you've long been postponing. It's time to follow the joy of experiencing new places and reconnect with yourself.

When I finally took the courage to travel solo and convince myself to leave the children for a while, I discovered that it was the best decision I had ever made for me. Going alone made me focus on myself, experience new adventures, and find fresh perspectives in another place with other people. 

✔️ You can bring back "happy" in the holidays without your ex. 

I just knew that ticking off a bucket list solo travel was something that I wanted to do. I finally made Egypt happen! ✨🌄✨I didn't let anybody tell me otherwise, even when my ex-husband asked, "What.. wait, you're traveling?" It was scheduled just a few weeks before my son's bar mitzvah. People in my circle said, "Oh, my God, you're so crazy. Why are you doing this?" I replied, "Because I get to do this by myself." 

Like me, you can create new experiences.

You can find your true self and a new direction for your life. 

You can be happy even if you're no longer running in tandem with someone else.

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Website: https://wendysterling.net/

Instagram: @divorcerehabwithwendy

Twitter: @thedivorcerehab

Facebook: @wendytsterling 

Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

Certified High-Performance Coach Jennifer Butler is no stranger to pivoting her life trajectory.

After a divorce in 2010, she realized that being a relationship coach wasn’t her true calling. Now, she envisions herself helping people live their best life.

Jennifer Butler shares her advice on how we can stay focused on our goals, what to do to fuel that momentum, and how to deal with negative thoughts.

Tune in to this episode on How to Create Confidence, Joy, & Passion in All Areas of Life with Jennifer Butler

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Give attention to that voice. Commit to it and focus on the next step. Let go of thinking about the next steps after that to avoid overwhelm. Just get your foot out the door and lean in the direction you want to take.

✔️ Imagine your higher self. How do you want to show up in this? Do you want to be more confident? Curious? This keeps you open to seeing the next step, and it’s all in your control. Own the fact that your energy is yours.

✔️ Failure is part of success. Instead of thinking, “Why did this happen to me?”, ask yourself, “What lesson can I get from this?” Failures move the plot of your success story and are also worth celebrating. Give it the meaning that inspires and transforms you.

✔️ Show courage every day. Choosing to have that tough conversation and setting boundaries hones your “courageous muscle” and allows things in your life to positively shift. It also keeps you focused on your goal.

✔️ You direct your life. We all have 24 hours in a day. It might feel scary to take the plunge at first but start small, such as taking control of how you feel right now. Your efforts add up. Remember - it’s a journey. You got this!

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Jennifer Butler is a certified High-Performance Coach helping driven professionals design the life they want by activating their confidence, joy, and passion without sacrificing success and purpose.

Jennifer combines years of experience, extensive education, and a science-backed holistic framework to empower her clients to reach heightened levels of clarity, energy, courage, productivity, and influence. 

The result is long-term success, positive relationships, and improved well-being.

Website link: 

www.jenniferjoybutler.com

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2021-07

Can you believe 2022 is about to end?

The holidays are a struggle not only for divorced parents but also for their children. But it’s important to remember that you have control over making this time a memorable one for you and your kids.

Tune in to this episode on How to Put Divorced Kids First During the Holidays.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ You have the power to ease the tension. It relies on your ability to plan ahead and what level of conflict you are avoiding. Although stressful, the holidays are a time to put grudges in the past and create positive experiences.

✔️ Focus on the time you have with your kids. And make it quality! Start new holiday traditions or adjust what worked for you in the past and make them your own.

✔️ Be mindful of your kids’ feelings. Help them regulate their inner conflicts. Let them feel and express their sadness. Don’t make them guilty of spending time away from you. Also, watch your words when talking to your ex in front of them.

✔️ Relax and enjoy yourself. Laugh and be joyful with your kids. Make memories with them that can stand the test of time. 

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The RIGHT PERSON may have already come and gone because you've pushed them away many times. Whether it's low self-esteem or childhood traumas — if left unresolved, you sabotage your chance at love. 

Stop denying yourself the relationship you deserve. Join me in this powerful episode ▶️ How To Date With Confidence To Magnetize Your Man For A Long-Term And Happy Relationship with Antia Boyd.

✔️ Purpose is where wound and opportunity meet. Expert love coach,   Antia Boyd, shares that her life's work came to be from wounds growing up in an emotionally absent household in communist eastern Germany. Having a mom who was a narcissist contributed to her low self-esteem, which became evident in her relationships.

✔️ A walking contradiction. Antia lived a conflicted life; on the one hand, wanting to have that deeply-connected long-term relationship, and on the other hand, thinking she didn't need a man. "I'm sure many women can relate to that to keep themselves safe. Guess what? We're living in a universe of reflection. So what you send out, that's what you get back. And so I attracted men into my life who were also conflicted inside of that self. They were emotionally unavailable."

✔️ When you learn all the information but still can't figure out the answers. Internal integration is necessary to avoid the self-sabotaging habits that come up in the dating process.

✔️ The first step is to stop hiding. Anything that you're afraid to be found out about, feeling like you're just selfish, too needy, too much, too loud, or too intense. These aspects make you who you are, a vulnerable and imperfect human. Others cannot love you if you do not love everything that you are.

✔️ Men will test you unconsciously, especially those afraid of intimacy. Antia says to "advocate for yourself" in the court of love. "We're always making a case why we can't trust the men and get hurt by them. But why not make a case about all your attributes inside yourself being incredible and highly magnetic, and you can bring in the right man by becoming like a lighthouse so he can find you in the middle of the night?"

✔️ Be willing to be wrong. 🙅 Are you too scared of accepting love or affection? Do you unknowingly push people away and deny yourself being cared for, believing it makes you weak? A marriage that ended in divorce drives us to live in fear. However, it will require a new level of courage if we desire to take the path to a new life. Become aware and stop looking for what will go wrong. Embrace the fear of getting hurt, and then try again. 

✔️ When a man truly loves you, he accepts you. Your biggest challenge will actually be accepting yourself. When you are given compliments and find them offensive, assess through what lenses you accept them. He may not be a sweet talker or a schmoozer, but your low perception of yourself can influence how you think of others' sincerity towards you.

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Antia Boyd was born in communist eastern Germany before the wall came down. She was single her entire life before she finally hired her own love coach, discovered the "Magnetize Your Man" Method, and attracted her amazing, handsome and supportive husband, Brody.

She's now been helping thousands of successful women all over the world for over a decade to attract their man to share their life with & have a loving, long-term relationship ASAP without loneliness, frustration or rejection.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, an NLP and Dream Coaching certified and has spoken on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, including ABC Radio, Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, and Good Morning San Diego. For over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of love, psychology and create an amazing, happy relationship with your man the easy way without fear, trust issues, or men pulling away.

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Website: https://www.magnetizeyourman.com/ 

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: www.contactwendy.com 

The holidays are the hardest time of year for many of us, especially for those who are facing divorce or are already on the other side.

You may be worrying about which family to spend it with and where to go. But all you truly want is peace, joy, and freedom.

This time of year is your chance to change traditions and create something of your own.

Tune in to this episode on How to Survive the Holidays After a Divorce.

Key points covered in this episode: 

✔️ Being alone is a choice. If you don’t want to feel lonely, call a friend and join in their celebrations. It might feel awkward at first, but there’s NO golden rule of who and where you should be spending your holidays.

✔️ Find what excites you about the holidays. Christmas-themed movies? Light shows? Hot chocolate? Do all your favorite things with your kids. Carry a positive energy that you can pass on to them.

✔️ Think about ways to make this time special. If your children don’t like turkey and prefer steak instead, cook it! If they’re free on other days, so what? What matters is the tradition you create.

✔️ Be gentle with yourself. What will make the holidays memorable for you? Give yourself care and love. Create memories that people will fondly look back on.

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Need an opportunity to share your pain points and receive judgment-free support? Want to create a vision of a future after your divorce? Click here to schedule your Free Divorce Recovery Call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/support-call-with-wendy?month=2022-11