The Divorcing Religion Podcast

REBUILDING IDENTITY
Dr. Josie McSkimming
Divorced: Evangelical Christianity

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Dr. Josie McSkimming is an Australian social worker, psychotherapist, lecturer, and researcher. She has been in full time private practice since 2000, specializing in relationship therapy and adult mental health.

In her book Leaving Christian Fundamentalism and the Re-construction of Identity, Dr. McSkimming details the stories of those who have left Christian fundamentalist churches and how they change after they have left.

In this episode, we discuss what’s involved in building our post-religious identity.

FIND Dr. McSkimming:
https://twitter.com/JosieMcskimming

LINKS
https://us.amazon.com/Leaving-Christian-Fundamentalism-Reconstruction-Identity/dp/1138580333/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3D9ECG99HRIDO&keywords=josie+mcskimming&qid=1669163302&sprefix=josie+mcskimming%2Caps%2C323&sr=8-1&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.08f69ac3-fd3d-4b88-bca2-8997e41410bb

https://www.mcskimming.com.au/publications.html

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Christy Powell
Divorced: Fundamentalist Christianity

Christy Powell (he/him) is a Texas-based counselor and activist with a focus on religious trauma and romantic and sexual relationships of all sorts and sizes. Christy works with clients to explore questions of gender and orientation, kink and polyamory, out of control sexual behavior, and healing from religious shame.

We first connected when I was a guest on the Secular Sexuality show on YouTube, where Christy is one of the hosts. Today, Christy and I discuss his journey from fundamentalist Christian virgin to sexually liberated atheist.

FIND CHRISTY
https://www.vcatx.com/
https://www.youtube.com/c/SecularSexuality/featured

RESOURCES MENTIONED
https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/
https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/
https://www.journeyfree.org/
The God Virus, by Dr. Darrel Ray
Sex and God, by Dr. Darrel Ray

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Dr. Martin Shoemaker 
SEX, PSYCHOLOGY, AND HUMANISM

Divorced: Evangelical Christianity

Dr. Martin Shoemaker was raised in a devout evangelical Christian home in California. While attending Fuller Seminary, his faith was fragmented by studying theology and secular psychology at the same time. He left the church and finished his PhD in clinical psychology, eventually discovering humanism through friends in Canada. For the last several years, Marty has volunteered as a humanist chaplain in British Columbia, which is where we met at a local event for atheists, skeptics, and humanists. In this episode, Dr. Shoemaker discusses his transition out of religion and into secular life, from sports to sex to humanism.

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Luna Corbden 
Mormon Manipulation 
Divorced: Mormonism

Luna Lindsey Corbden was born into the LDS (Mormon) Church and left the faith at age 26. Autistic and gender fluid, they are an advocate for marginalized people within or at the fringes of authoritarian religions, particularly Mormonism. Their book, Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control, helps religious trauma survivors unpack their conditioning by deconstructing the manipulation techniques used by the LDS church. Today, we discuss what led Luna to divorce Mormonism, as well as some of the specific manipulation tactics used by the Mormon church to draw in Believers and keep them from questioning Mormonism.

FIND LUNA:
https://recoveringagency.com/
https://twitter.com/corbden
Luna’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Lifting-Mormon-Control/dp/1489595937/

Resources for RTS survivors: https://recoveringagency.com/resources/

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Ryan Stollar 
THE BIBLE: NO FRIEND TO CHILDREN 

RYAN STOLLAR is a researcher, advocate, and author. He was homeschooled from kindergarten through high school graduation before attaining both a Master of Human Services in Child Protection and A Master of Arts in Eastern Classics. He has worked with high school students in homeschool communities and is co-founder of the viral website HOMESCHOOLERS ANONYMOUS.

An advocate for children and abuse survivors, Ryan has run numerous social media campaigns for child advocacy organizations. He is a “child liberation theologian,” and his upcoming book is called The Kingdom of Children.

I met Ryan when he participated in a panel at the Conference on Religious Trauma earlier this year, discussing some of the potential pitfalls of religious and homeschooling. Today we discuss Ryan’s own religious journey and how the Bible is no friend to children.

CONTACT & RESOURCES:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/RLStollar
More about child liberation theology: https://rlstollar.com/child-liberation-theology/
Homeschooling articles and resources: https://rlstollar.com/homeschooling/
My Conference on Religious Trauma speech: https://rlstollar.com/2022/05/07/traumatic-homeschooling-how-evangelicals-use-education-to-totalize/

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EMILY HEDRICK
DON’T F*CK THE FLOCK

Divorced: Mennonite Christianity
In addition to having her M.Div, Emily Hedrick is a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, a certified Forward Facing coaching practitioner, and a religious-trauma informed spirituality coach. Deconstructing since age 17, Emily roamed religious circles as an atheist for over a decade,and spent  four of those years as a pastor! Godless since 2020, Emily enjoys connecting people with others who understand and empathize with experiences of religious harm. Today, Emily shares her (sometimes painful) deconversion journey and experiences as a female pastor, including relationship instructions found in the title of this episode.
Contact Emily:
Website: emilyhedrickcoachingandconsulting.com
Socials: @emilyhedrickcc

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Jerusha Lofland 
HOMESCHOOL HELL

Divorced: Fundamentalist Christianity and IBLP Cult

Jerusha Lofland was homeschooled by extremists in Michigan, along with her 10 younger siblings. Her quest for truth led her first out of Bill Gothard’s IBLP cult, then away from Evangelicalism, then freed her from religion altogether. In this episode, Jerusha shares what it was like growing up in an extremist Christian household with very little freedom to explore the outside world - and what it was like to set herself free. 

FIND JERUSHA:
Jerusha blogged her journey from Christian fundamentalism to abortion clinic volunteer here: http://heresyintheheartland.blogspot.com/
https://twitter.com/Miss_Jellyby


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Mary Burkhart: Leaving the Black Church
Divorced: Apostolic Christianity

TW: CSA, suicidal thoughts

Mary Burkhart grew up in the Apostolic/Pentecostal Christian traditions and was heavily indoctrinated into her faith, remaining devout for over 20 years. Her deconstruction journey took her to some very dark places, and nearly cost Mary her life. She is now a Religious Trauma Life Coach, after 10 years of personal religious deconstruction. On this episode of the Divorcing Religion Podcast, Mary shares about her journey, as a Black woman, out of faith and into coaching others recovering from RTS.

FIND MARY:
www.religioninremission.com
IG: @religion_in_remission
T: @RiR_LifeCoach
REFERENCES DISCUSSED:
Black Nonbelievers  https://blacknonbelievers.org/
Divorcing Religion Workshop https://www.divorcing-religion.com/

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David Teachout 
Divorced: Christianity

David Teachout has his Master’s in both forensic psychology and counseling psychology, and he is currently working on a doctorate in clinical psychology. He grew up as a Christian fundamentalist, attending a bible college where he received a BA in theology and psychology - and deconverted in the middle of it all! This year, David spoke at the Conference on Religious Trauma (CORT2022) about navigating marriage when one spouse leaves religion and the other remains a Believer. In this interview, David shares what it was like to lose his faith while attending Bible college.

FIND DAVID:
https://www.lifeweavings.com/david-teachout/
https://www.instagram.com/lifeweavings/
https://twitter.com/lifeweavings

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Rick Pidcock
Divorced: Christian Fundamentalism

Rick is a graduate of Bob Jones University, with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Bible. He recently completed a Master of Arts degree in worship from Northern Seminary. 

After twenty years of leading worship in churches, Rick embarked on a season of spiritual healing where he learned to face his wounds and discover the wonders he had long been suppressing. His journey led him off the stage and drew him home. As a freelance writer, he is also a stay-at-home father of five children and produces music under the artist name Provoke Wonder. Rick’s soon-to-be-released children’s book is called What If? 

Today, we discuss the surprising start to Rick’s journey away from his religious roots and how his life has changed as a result.
Contact Rick:
www.rickpidcock.com
https://baptistnews.com/ 
T: @rickpidcock 

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