The Dr. John Delony Show

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!

Show Notes for this Episode

2:54: Morning Routine (45m-1.5h)

• Ben Greenfield fitness

Tools of Titans - Tim Ferris

7-8h sleep

gratitude journal, Bible, notecard

meditation (Insight Timer app)

coffee, green tea

feet on bare ground

workout (30-60m), go for a walk/ruck

Jocko: Push, Pull, Squat & Lift Protocol

hang upside down on Teeter inversion table

cold immersion/exposure

physical touch with wife & kids

breakfast with kids

Human Charger

12:36: Diet

• no sugar, no grains
• 15-16h between meals/Intermittent Fasting
• lots of high quality fats, meats
• berries with heavy cream
• occasional whiskey, not much drinking
• supplements: look for a later episode

16:08: Books

• I read a lot, as much as I can: books, articles, blog
• I re-read books

Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk

Catcher in the Rye - J. D. Salinger

Born to Run - Bruce Springsteen

I Don't Want to Talk About It - Terrence Real

Antifragile - Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski

Finding Meaning - David Kessler

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson

The Deepest Well - Nadinen Burke Harris M.D.

Gabor Maté  M.D.

Brené Brown

The Gift of Therapy - Irvin Yalom

Dr. Henry Cloud

Behave - Robert M. Sapolsky

Patrick Lencioni

Ready Player One - Ernest Cline

Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel

Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely

Why We Get Fat - Gary Taubes

The Road - Cormac McCarthy

The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn - Mark Twain

Justice - Michael J. Sandel

Theology: Tim Wise, Rob Bell, Richard Rohr, N. T. Wright, Richard Beck

Anne Lamott

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Young Adult Fiction:

The Harry Potter series - J. K. Rowling

The Wingfeather Saga - Andrew Peterson

The Wildwood Chronicles - Colin Meloy & Carson Ellis

The Wilder Good series - S. J. Dahlstrom

Poets: Def Comedy Jam, Langston Hughes

 

20:54: Comedians: Cosby, Pryor, Chapelle, Lewis Black, Steve Martin, Seinfeld, Nate Bargatze, Robin Williams

22:13: Music

• Guns & Roses, Rage Against the Machine, Dream Theater, Pantera, Deftones, all 80s har metal, Poison, Def Leppard, Warrant, Rat
• old punk: Bad Brains, Black Flag, Henry Rollins, Social Distortion, Sick of It All, Hatebreed
• The Killers, Foo Fighters
• Trippin Daisy, Ned's Atomic Dustbin
• Blink-182, 30-foot Fall, Goldfinger, MXPX
• Bebo Norman, Caedmon's Call, Eric Peters, Andrew Peterson, Andy Osenga
• Ani DiFranco, Damien Rice, Frank Turner, The Avett Brothers, Brandon Flowers, Bruce Springsteen,
• Tobe Nwigwe, Jay-Z, Notorious BIG, Dr. Dre, Warren G, Houston rap, Run DMC, LL Cool, Grandmaster Flash, Ice Cube
• Nina Simone, Aretha Franklin
• Jimi Hendrix, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Guy Clarke Jr.
• ambient electronica, lo-fi beats
• Johnny Cash, Willie Nelson, Garth Brookes, Merle Haggard
• Third Eye Blind

27:01: Movies:

• Goodwill Hunting, Stand By Me, Meet the Parents, Requiem for a Dream, Spaceballs, Major League, Karate Kid, Titanic, American History X, Adam Sandler, Will Ferrell

28:58: Living in the woods vs. the city

Mandelbrot, fractals

30:29: Why do you block out your kids pictures on social media?

32:07: How long have you been married?

32:23: Favorite food

32:34: Enneagram/Myers Brigg

34:46: Favorite places to travel

35:13: Who in history would you want to hang out with? 

36:10: How did you and your wife meet?

37:46: Things that get you the most anxious?

40:36: How much money is in your swear jar right now?

40:50: Biggest change coming from TX to TN

42:20: What's your beef with Crossfit?

43:03: Do you find yourself being Dr. John when your wife just needs her husband?

43:56: What are some of your biggest influences on the advice you give?

• Dr. Andy Young
• Dr. Jean-Noel Thompson
• Michael Gibson
• Professors in grad school
• Mom & dad, wife, family
• Yalom, Glaser, Gabor Maté, Terrance Real, Henry Cloud

45:27: Have you hd your own mental health challenges?

45:48: With your experience, what has stopped you in your tracks?

47:29: What car do you drive?

47:38: How do you deal with having different opinions than Dave?

47:51: Ultimate comfort food

48:06: Who are your mentors?

48:25: How you manage staying humble and be successful?

50:55: Guitar of choice?

51:52: Opinion on using weeds and drugs recreationally

52:37: How do you keep balanced if a question goes against your beliefs or morals?

54:51: Lyrics of the Day: "Thunder Road" - Bruce Springsteen

 

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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. johndelony.com/show.

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!

Intro Music: "Cloud of Dust in a Snowstorm" - James Childs (Charlie Brown Christmas beat)

10:45: Lyrics of the Day: "Last Christmas" - Wham

Outro Music: "Slay Ride" - James Childs (The Carpenters Christmas beat)

 

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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. johndelony.com/show.

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!

Show Notes for this Episode

• I’ve recently started taking meds for anxiety. I haven’t needed medication for anxiety/depression in about 10 years. How do I get over the feelings of failure and brokenness? 
• 19:50: Teaching Segment: Let's talk about medication
• 31:36: Wife and her mom are not speaking. How do I help my wife navigate the holidays?
• 37:46: We have both been unfaithful. One of our children is not mine. She is heading toward another affair. Do I call it quits?
• 48:17: Lyrics of the Day: "Keeper of the Flame" - Nina Simone

tags: anxiety, guilt, marriage, family, disagreement/conflict, infidelity, parenting

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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. johndelony.com/show.

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU!

Show Notes for this Episode

• 4:44: My husband is in the process of transitioning. I am terrified that I am about to be a single parent and don't know what to do.
  • Divorce Checklist: How to Prepare for Divorce
• 24:33: Should I push back my wedding date so my incarcerated mom can be there?
• 29:22: I'm in a relationship with a great man that I love and see a future with but I have a hard getting close to him.

Teaching Segment: Fear of Intimacy

43:55: Lyrics of the Day: "Ring of Fire" - Johnny Cash

tags: sexuality/intimacy, marriage, divorce, boundaries, family, trauma/PTSD, relationships

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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at https://www.johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU!

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!

Show Notes for this Episode

• 8:19: A young lady in our class at church has become close with our family. She has drama after drama, and I need to set some boundaries. How?
• 22:15: Son has drug addiction and I am tired of battling it. 
• 29:28: We’ve moved many times for military and husband’s job. I am starting to resent him for it. How can I get past this
• 37:43: Lyrics of the Day: "Alive" - Pearl Jam

tags: addiction, family, boundaries, relationships, military, anger/resentment/bitterness, marriage

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If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.

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The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. johndelony.com/show.