"I don't have the time for taking care of myself". Does this sound familiar, 9s?
In reality, we all have the same amount of time as anyone else. It all comes down to giving yourself permission to treat yourself as a priority.
Holly shared that the symptoms that resulted from burnout (pain/illness) actually reduced once she started using her time more intentionally. It helped transform her from someone who lived to serve other people's priorities all the time, to someone who spends time on the things that matter most to her during her week. Kimberly relates the pain that comes from not making time for her own priorities or caring for her self.
So what are our options? How can we manage our time so that we prioritize ourselves?
1. PLAN BY WEEK
Make a routine of writing down and having a look at what's happening for the week ahead.
Planning weekly instead of daily is a mindset shift to feeling like time is more abundant. Holly recommends this book that changed her view of time:
https://lauravanderkam.com/books/168-hours/
Example of how the math works out:
168 hours in a week-remove 8 hours/night sleeping = 56 hours, and 40 hours working-
72 hours are left in the week to divvy up! There are some chores in there, so even if we spend half of the 72 hours on drudgery...we still have 36 hours to spend how we see fit! That's 5 hours per day!
2. TIME STUDY
A periodic/one-time exercise to track how you spend your time during a week. This can help find out how you unconsciously spend time, and informs what tweaks you can make to better fit your priorities, and add in more of what lights you up. It helps to find things to remove or set boundaries.
3. DELEGATE/ASK FOR HELP
As a 9, sometimes I can forget that I'm human and can ask for help. It's really necessary to relieve mental and physical stress.
- Hiring someone to clean
- Asking family for help cooking and tidying
- Asking a peer for help
4. GET SUPPORT/ACCOUNTABILITY
Build a community of people that can help you achieve your goals and have a better balance in your life.
- therapy
- coaching
- group class
- accountability buddy
5. CELEBRATE WINS
Try a "Ta-Da List"! A Ta-Da list is just a written list of what we have done well, what our wins are, and what we're proud of ourselves for. It's ok to brag about ourselves more! It brings us out of the spiral of being so worried or shameful about what we haven't done yet. Share your wins in the The Enneagram 9 Show Facebook Group!
6. EMBRACE YOUR PACE
Your energy is your own, it's not a comparison game! :)
More about your hosts:
Kimberly Eclipse is an intuitive astrologer supporting Type 9s in creative and spiritual ways, including providing astrology readings, Oracle card readings, and hosting live events.
Holly Perez is an organizing and productivity coach who helps multi-passionate solopreneurs to get more organized and focus on self-care, so they can do more of what lights them up.
We came together as two enneagram type 9s who want to explore what it means to wake up, engage, and prioritize ourselves. And we want to hear from you...
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