The single most important step to calm your child’s tantrums or outbursts is to look calm — even if you don’t feel calm.  

In this five-minute episode of What Now? A Parent’s Guide, psychologist Dr. Andrew Kahn explains why the way you look and sound can have a big impact on your child's behavior. He also offers tips for staying cool during heated moments — or fake it till you make it.

For more resources, visit the episode page on Understood. 

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Timestamps

(00:45) Why you need to look calm  
(02:39) How to project calm in heated moments  
(03:45) What you can practice ahead of time  

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