This week’s episode of Worth The Weight is a wild ride. First, Sarah and I break down the latest episode of And Just Like That, where Carrie mistakes attention for intellectual validation, Miranda confuses judgment for curiosity, and Seema somehow turns a plant into a red flag. (Girl, it’s chlorophyll not trauma.)

But that’s just the warm-up.

Then we dig into a listener letter about a guy who seems great on paper—until the paper starts burning. It sparks a much-needed convo about core values—what they are, why they matter, and how to spot the difference between surface-level chemistry and actual compatibility. (Spoiler: Just because you both like road trips doesn't mean you're soulmates.)

I break down the five tiers of core values and show you how to suss out emotional intelligence early—yes, even before the third date.

And finally, we talk about the fuck that guy of all fuck that guys: Russell Hartley. If you don’t know him, consider yourself lucky. If you do, we’re serving a takedown so savage it might need its own trigger warning. From red-pill grifter to "girl’s girl" rebrand, we dissect why some male “dating coaches” are just digital predators with ring lights.

So pour the scotch you probably keep around for him, and press play. This one’s got it all: fake feminists, fake publishing chemistry, and the very real importance of knowing your worth.

✨ Center yourself. De-center men. Value your damn time. ✨

00:00 – AJLT Recap (Carrie & Duncan, Miranda’s mess, Seema’s plant guy)
20:10 – Core Values 101: The 5 Tiers That Actually Matter
28:45 – Fuck That Guy: Russell Hartley’s Rebrand Is a Scam
36:00 – How to Spot a Grifter in a Suit

Journaling

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Whether you're actively swiping or on the verge of deleting everything, this one’s for you.

Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates

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