The Healing Embodied Podcast

This episode features part of a recording from an event we did several months ago, where we covered all things comparison. We talked about why comparison triggers anxiety, the purpose of comparison, and what core wounds underly the need to constantly compare.

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

In this episode, I interviewed one of our former clients, Sarah Laverty, who shared how embodiment work taught her that her anxiety is not a problem that needs to be "fixed." She learned to relate to herself, her body, and her emotions with so much compassion and understanding. Embodiment work not only helped her with her anxiety, it also changed the trajectory of her life in the most AMAZING way! Listen to this episode to hear what is POSSIBLE when you bring your BODY into your healing.

Find more about Sarah Lavery here:

Substack: https://sarahlaverty.substack.com/p/harvest-is-a-time-to-celebrate-overflow

Instagram: @embodiment_with_sarah

Coaching Package: https://sarahlaverty.substack.com/p/1-to-1-embodiment-coaching-package

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

If you want to experience the profound transformation of the Healing Embodied method, head to our website to learn more about working with us: https://www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

In today's episode, I'm answering questions that our Instagram audience submitted!

Here's what I covered:

1. Why does the same theme of my ROCD come up over and over?

2. How to develop "right-sized" expectations in relationships without feeling like you're giving up?

3. I convinced myself that I don't have RA and that my feelings are the exception. Why?

4. I'm a bisexual girl in love with my girlfriend but I'd love to have sex with men. It makes me so upset because I want to be with her and not open my relationship. It makes me spiral. How do I break free without breaking up?

5. I'm so scared to look for a new job because all of a sudden I feel unworthy. What's happening?

6. What to do about unwanted thoughts about my ex.

7. What are good healing practices for pelvic floor trauma due to an assault?

8. How do I deal with my anxiety about how my partner looks when in public?

9. How to move forward when progressing in a relationship (engagement) when you aren't 100% ready

10. How do you get "over" RA once and for all? I keep having good months and then relapsing hard.

11. How do you deal with thoughts and feelings about no longer wanting to be with your partner?

12. Do you know if the fear of a certain pain/sickness can actually evoke that pain/symptom?

13. Do you ever regret being with someone who is different than you?

14. Why do people expect a relationship to be compatible from the start and not let it grow with time?

15. Can emotions of love come along the way or do they have to be present from the beginning?

16. Any advice for big transitions that is bringing up all the fear?

17. Could you speak a bit more about emotional pedestalisation?

18. I just turned 24. What advice do you have for someone in their 20s just starting to heal?

19. What are potential reasons ROCD gets triggered when back from a solo trip or trip with friends?

20. Thoughts on same sex crushes while being in a relationship with a man?

Resources mentioned:

Dealing with Differences in relationships youtube video: https://youtu.be/TEdmh-SLqVk

Luscious Love digital course: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/LLI

Shake Off the Shoulds Workshop Recording: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shake-off-the-shoulds

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Instagram: @healing.embodied

Email: [email protected]

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

When you have anxiety, it's hard to believe that "a thought is just a thought." In this episode, I explain why your anxious thoughts feel "real," and what is needed to break out of the anxiety cycle.

Get the Science of Healing Relationship Anxiety mini course to go deeper into understanding the role of your nervous system in healing your relationship anxiety: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/healing

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

This is basically a masterclass on understanding OCD! If you experience obsessive thinking, self-doubt, and fears of making mistakes, this episode will help you understand how SHAME underlies these patterns. Alex and I talk about our own experiences of shame and anxiety and how to work with shame. We touch on multiple OCD themes (sexual orientation OCD, harm OCD, relationship OCD, etc), religious trauma, and childhood trauma.

Find Alex on Instagram: @forloveweheal

Website: www.forloveweheal.com

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

In this episode, I talk about how we experience anxiety and frustration in our relationships when we try to fit love into a rigid box of what we think it "should" be. Trying to fit love into a box leads to nitpicking, trying to change/control our partners, and feeling unnecessary dissatisfaction. I invite you into a powerful shift in perspective so you can see your relationship as your teacher of all that love can be.

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

RUN, don't walk to listen to this episode! I interviewed my client Dylan and his wife Emily about their experience navigating relationship anxiety/OCD as a couple. They vulnerably share what they've learned about themselves, each other, and love through the painful experiences that relationship anxiety often brings to a relationship. Emily shares what it's like to be on the receiving end of Dylan's relationship OCD, and Dylan shares about how he learned to love Emily, even when his anxiety wanted him to run. I had the honor and privilege of being at this couple's wedding and I am in awe at how far they've come since I first started working with Dylan 3 years ago. Healing is possible.

Check out Dylan's Instagram, where he shares his experience with ROCD: @ObsessedWithTheOne

Follow Emily here: @EmilyWeisband

If you are interested in working with me 1:1, check out our website: https://www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

In this episode, I address one of the most frequently asked questions that we get: what if I heal and find out I have to leave my relationship?

I peel back the layers and reveal what's driving this fear in the first place. WHY does EVERY CLIENT we've ever worked with have this fear (or some variation of it)? Hint: it's not because it was secretly their "truth" all along...

Check out episodes 13 and 15 to hear directly from our clients' experiences of this work!

Have more questions about relationship anxiety?

Get our FREE Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide where I answer the top 10 most frequently asked questions that we get, including the one I answered in this episode:

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/relationship-anxiety-clarity-guide

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

In this episode, I chat with my favorite grad school professor, Kris Larsen, about how to change your relationship with your anxiety through curiosity. We dig into what anxiety is and how it's often a fear of how deeply we can love and how much passion we have for life. We also talk about MY experience with anxiety during grad school and how he helped me unravel it! I owe so much of my work to him.

Kris is currently a professor at the Embodied Education Institute of Chicago: https://embodiededucationinstituteofchicago.com

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus

Our client Raven shares her story of panic attacks, debilitating relationship anxiety/OCD, and trauma, and how our work together empowered her to finally trust herself and get engaged to her loving partner AND start her own business helping others.

Connect with Raven more at https://www.ravenmckevlin.com

Listen to her Podcast: Our Sacred Voices Podcast

Follow her on IG: @ravenmckevlin

Our $1 Relationship Anxiety Clarity Guide (the ULTIMATE guidebook to navigating Relationship Anxiety):

https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/RACG

Additional Resources for Therapists, Healers, Coaches, and Creative Entrepreneurs:

Free Resource Library for Therapists, Healers, and Creatives: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/library-signup

Free Facebook Community for creatives, helpers, and healers who want to lead from embodiment and wholeness: https://www.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigm

Learn more and/or apply for our year-long, internationally accredited somatic certification program and purpose-led career mentorship: www.healingembodied.com/get-certified

Learn more about our flagship group program for leaders, healers, and creatives who want to make a positive impact through the work they do: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/embodied-leader-mastermind

Learn more about our 6-month community experience for somatic healing: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/wholly-human

Additional Resources for those who want to embody more love, trust, and wholeness in their lives and relationships:

Want to be a client of Healing Embodied? Book a free 30 minute Clarity Call with a member of our team, and learn how we can support you in creating more trust, love, and joy in your life: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/apply

Our Relationship Anxiety Resource Shop (mediations, masterclasses, courses): https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/shop

Our monthly membership "The Love Over Fear Collective" where you will transform fear and doubt in your relationship into security and trust: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/lofc

Get on our email list for updates, podcast episode announcements, discounts, and more: https://healingembodied.kartra.com/page/sign-up

Check out all the ways we can support you here: www.healingembodied.com/healwithus