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Rebecca sits down with Lisa A. Romano — globally recognized coach and bestselling author who has helped millions break free from codependency and overperformance.

This is the conversation Rebecca wishes she had years ago.

Learn why people who look the most put together are often the most internally driven, anxious, and disconnected.

If you’re constantly performing, achieving, or proving… this episode will help you understand why and how to change.

In this episode:

•  What codependency actually is — and why most people misunderstand it 
•  Why high achievers are often the most quietly codependent people in the room 
•  Why healthy love can feel uncomfortable — and even wrong 
•  What’s really happening in your nervous system when you set a boundary 
•  Why breaking patterns feels exhausting (and why that’s not a sign you’re doing it wrong) 
•  How the brain’s default mode network keeps you stuck in old patterns 
•  How perfectionism and people-pleasing are survival strategies rooted in childhood 
•  What it actually looks like to sit with your feelings instead of outsourcing them 
•  How to build a business from purpose instead of ego
•  Why chasing money and validation will never feel like enough 

Work with Lisa A. Romano

• 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 
• 8 Week Masterclass
• Soul School 

Find Lisa:

•  Website: lisaaromano.com 
•  Podcast: Breakdown to Breakthrough
•  YouTube
• Instagram 

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In this episode, breakthrough coach Rebecca Gillis breaks down what's really happening in your nervous system when you're locked in a conflict and can't admit fault — especially when part of you knows you played a role. If you've ever found yourself rehearsing arguments in your head, losing sleep over a disagreement, or doubling down when you know something's off, this episode is for you.

Rebecca walks you through why our brains default to blame, what fear is actually driving your defense, and — most importantly — how to start finding real freedom from conflict. The answer? It starts with you, not them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why conflict triggers a survival response — even over seemingly small things
• How unaddressed resentments snowball over time 
• The "Yeah, but" trap and how to use it as a diagnostic tool
• Why admitting your part actually builds self-esteem instead of destroying it
• How assumptions and spending time "in other people's heads" keep you in a state of anxiety
• The connection between pride, self-esteem, and how much other people's opinions affect you
• Why vulnerability is the only real path to resolution — and why we avoid it
• The St. Francis Prayer line that changes everything: to understand rather than to be understood

Key takeaways:

• When you're in a conflict, the first stop is always yourself — not the other person
• Fear of being wrong is really a fear of being exposed, humiliated, or kicked out of the group
• You can't fault-find and empathize at the same time — you have to put your weapons down first
• Acknowledging your part in something doesn't let the other person off the hook — these are separate things
• Speaking in absolutes ("I'm never talking to them again") is a signal to check in with yourself
• Your self-esteem is what you think of yourself — and no one else can take that from you

Mentioned in this episode:

• Jeff Hayward, author of Simple Sh!t for Complicated People (Season 2, previous episode)
• The St. Francis Prayer

Connect with Rebecca:

• Book a free breakthrough call: hellhappinessrepeat.com
• Instagram: @hellhappinessrepeat
• Facebook Commu

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Are you stuck in a loop of being irritated by something you can't control? A neighbour, a coworker, a smell, a sound — something that shouldn't be happening, and yet it keeps happening... and driving you crazy?

In this episode, breakthrough coach Rebecca Gillis breaks down why the "shoulds" are secretly sabotaging your peace — and why trying to change the thing that bothers you rarely works long-term. Instead, Rebecca walks you through a surprisingly simple (but powerful) mindfulness practice for sitting with the thing that drives you nuts, so it actually loses its grip on you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why trying to fix, avoid, or rationalize away irritants keeps you stuck
• What "shoulding" actually means — and how it puts all your power in other people's hands
• How to use small everyday annoyances as a mindfulness practice (yes, the lawn mower and the weed smell count)
• The difference between not liking something and being intolerant of it
• A step-by-step breathing and observation technique to shift your internal state in real time
• Why accepting something doesn't mean agreeing with it
• How releasing resistance can make you feel more connected — to people, and to life

Referenced in this episode:

• The Untethered Soul and Living Untethered by Michael A. Singer
• Eckhart Tolle's teachings on the observer self

Whether it's a loud neighbor, being left out at work, or something going on in the world — this episode meets you where you are and gives you something you can actually practice today.

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In this episode, Rebecca sits down with Jeff Hayward — author, internationally accredited counsellor, and founder of Simple Theory  — to talk about his book Simple Sh!t for Complicated People: From Chaos to Clarity, A Guide to Sobriety, Sanity and Living Free Without Drugs and Alcohol.

Jeff brings a rare combination of lived experience, clinical and academic expertise, and real-world work with everyone from street-entrenched survivors to high-achieving professionals hiding their addiction.

Topics covered:

• Why addiction isn't black and white — the four levels of substance use (use, misuse, problematic use, and chronic dependency)
 • The difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it
 • How drugs and alcohol hijack your brain's reward system — and what it takes to reset
 • Why the "party ended years ago" for most people still drinking
 • The power of beliefs: how a single belief shift changes your feelings and  behavior
 • Classic and operant conditioning — why breaking patterns is so hard
 • Why vulnerability and taking off your "armor" is the real first step
 • Subtraction over addition: why simplifying your life beats adding more to it
 • The thought-belief-feeling-behavior loop and how to rewire it
 • Why recovery is an individual process you can't do alone

Whether you're questioning your relationship with substances, newly sober, or years into recovery and need a refresher, this episode (and Jeff's book) will meet you where you are.

Where to Find Jeff Hayward:

Website: simpletheory.ca

Book: Simple Sh!t for Complicated People: Available on Amazon, Indigo (West
     Coast), Apple Books, and other retailers

Blog: Available on his website at simpletheory.ca

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Whether you're trying to start a business, get back to your creative passion, or just stop scrolling long enough to go to the gym — this one's for you.

Ever feel like you're drowning in to-do lists but never getting to the things that actually matter? You're not alone — and you're not just "too busy." In this episode, breakthrough coach Rebecca Gillis gets real about why we resist the things we're meant to be doing, how our inner protectors keep us stuck in distraction, and the simple but powerful practice she uses to break through — from getting out of bed on a Saturday morning to finally hitting record on this very episode.

Rebecca shares her personal system for organizing an overwhelming life into manageable categories, tackling the next 48 hours instead of the next lifetime, and using time blocking to quiet the noise. She explores the concept of "action before distraction," why your inner critic is actually trying to help you, and how to gently take the wheel from the parts of you that are running the show.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• why you resist most the things you're meant to be doing
• how to organize overwhelm into manageable actions
• how to work with your inner protectors, not against them
• the difference between shame-driven productivity and self-led action
• how to stay consistent, rather than just do more

References & resources mentioned:

• The War of Art by Steven Pressfield — on resistance and doing your most important work
• No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz — Internal Family Systems (IFS) and understanding your inner protectors
• Megan Sumrell– systems analyst turned time management coach
• Cathy Heller – podcast coach and host

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The holidays can be a minefield if you struggle with binge eating, emotional eating, nighttime cravings, or that familiar “fuck it” spiral that hits in December.

If you’ve ever wondered:

“How do I stop binge eating over the holidays?”

“Why do I lose control around certain foods or certain people?”

“Why does December feel like a repeat of last year?”

…this episode is for you.

Instead of quick fixes or food rules, Rebecca breaks down the real binge eating cycle — the emotional, mental, and physical layers that drive compulsive eating, especially around the holidays.

You’ll hear:

·       The hidden emotional triggers that shape your relationship with food

·       How your mind creates binge patterns long before you touch the fridge

·       Why the “start in January” voice feels so convincing

·       What happens when your nervous system is dysregulated during stressful family events or long, lonely evenings

·       How restriction, saving calories, or “being good” actually makes things worse

If you’re tired of the restrict → binge → guilt loop, or you want a calmer, more grounded relationship with food this holiday season, this one’s for you.

Want help navigating the holiday season without falling into old patterns? 

Book a free discovery call 

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In this episode, Rebecca dives into the ways we lie to ourselves and others, exploring the subtle and not-so-subtle forms of dishonesty that keep us stuck in dysfunctional patterns and relationships.

Topics covered: 

• Three main ways we lie: people-pleasing, denial to keep something we think we need, and believing self-limiting stories.
• How fear and self-abandonment drive dishonesty, and the impact this has on our relationships and self-worth.
•  How "Inner child dates” and other practical strategies can transform your approach to dating, relationships, and self-acceptance.

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In this episode, Rebecca discusses the impact of unresolved relationships on emotional eating, and why you can't fully heal food issues without addressing codependent patterns.

Topics include:

• becoming aware of your dysfunctional relationship patterns
• why people pleasing is self-serving 
• healing self-abandonment to heal food issues 
• meditation tools
• the important of inner child work 

Take the B*S Belief Detector Test to discover which beliefs are keeping you stuck in the food. 

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In this episode, Rebecca shares her personal experiences and struggles with food, sobriety, and self-worth. Learn tools to address emotional eating and find peace with your body and food.

Topics include:

• how to learn what you actually want to eat 
• why it's not about the food
• loving yourself at any size 
• self-acceptance and inner work
• how to eliminate the beliefs that keep you stuck 
  
  

Take the B*S Belief Detector Test to discover which beliefs are keeping you stuck in the food. 

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In this episode, Rebecca explores the power of routine and ritual. She shares insights from her own experiences, delving into the psychology of habits and the influence of subconscious beliefs. With practical advice and personal anecdotes, Rebecca offers strategies to help you develop healthier habits and routines to gradually replace unwanted ones. 

Topics include:

• why sheer willpower tends to backfire 
• how to uncover the beliefs getting in the way
• how to keep it small and manageable 
• following rules vs. surrendering 
• how to connect with your intuition 

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