The Helmistry Pod

Welcome back to Holidays Your Way, a 4-week podcast series designed to give you a functional framework to create a holiday season you can truly enjoy. 

In the first episode, we talked about how your childhood holiday memories lay the foundation for how you feel about the holidays now. 

In the second episode, we talked about your negative holiday memories could've created some triggers that reinforce your holiday hater status. 

For your two action steps in Episode 2, I asked you to write a list of your negative holiday triggers and to think about how you want to feel this holiday season. 

In today's episode, we're gonna take those action steps and craft the holiday season of your dreams.

 

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Ready to reclaim your holiday season? Join me at 10am on October 22, 2022 for a free 90-minute workshop - Actually Happy Holidays. You can sign up here.

 

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In today's episode, we're gonna talk about how the things you hated about the holidays growing up, all those negative memories, could've potentially caused triggers. The triggers we're talking about are any external cues that cause a negative reaction. Triggers can be anything from a smell to a movie or commercial or even a person.

 

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Ready to reclaim your holiday season? Join me at 10am on October 22, 2022 for a free 90-minute workshop - Actually Happy Holidays. You can sign up here.

 

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Today’s episode kicks off a 4-week series called Holidays Your Way. Over the next four weeks, we’ll explore holiday memories, holiday triggers, holiday dreams, and finally holiday boundaries. 

It’s my sincere hope, that after listening to these 4 podcast episodes and doing the action steps, that you’ll have a functional framework to not only enjoy this holiday season, but every holiday season to come.

In this episode, we’re gonna take a trip down memory lane and analyze your childhood holidays because those holidays play a large role in how you feel about the holidays now.

 

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Ready to reclaim your holiday season? Join me at 10am on October 22, 2022 for a free 90-minute workshop - Actually Happy Holidays. You can sign up here.

 

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In today's episode, we're gonna talk about how our expectations can set us up for success or failure in motherhood.

You spend 9 months nurturing expectations just as you nurture the baby in your belly. From going to dance recitals to cheering at ball games, pregnancy sparks thoughts of never-ending possibilities.

But what happens when your expectations aren't met? What happens when you realize, after the fact, that you'd set some pretty high and unrealistic expectations for how your motherhood would go?

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In today's episode we're gonna discuss how, in order to tackle perfectionism, you have to surrender your cape.

Too often perfectionism is thought of in terms of keeping up appearances. As if being obsessed with the perfect body or perfect home are the only manifestations. There's another way perfectionism rears its ugly head: through control. When you think about the fact that unrealistic expectations are typical for perfectionists, the need to control things makes sense. If you're trying to achieve perfection, you'd think controlling the variables helps your chances.

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In today's episode, we're going to talk about the 4 characteristics you need to amplify in your motherhood to cultivate ease. I'm not talking about making motherhood easy because let's face it, it's not. But there's a key difference between easy and ease. 

When you're a mom struggling with perfectionism, some of the characteristics you need are in direct opposition to your perfectionism. Motherhood has so many things perfectionists like to avoid. It's unpredictable, often messy, and so much is beyond your control. 

Finding ease means making peace with the messiness of motherhood and surrendering control. 

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In today's episode, we talk about how fear is the root of perfectionism and how your perfectionism manifests based on what your fear is. What are you afraid of? Being hurt? Being inadequate? Not being loved? Being Lonely? Whatever your fear is, it's fueling perfectionism which is making you play small in motherhood and, if I had to guess, life. 

It's time to stop trying to mimic the mom influencers you see on social media, reading all the mom blogs, and making tons of motherhood boards in Pinterest and start being the mom you naturally are.

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In today's episode, I'm sharing the true cost of perfectionism so you can get off the sidelines of your motherhood and embrace the mess along with the magic.

At the end of the day, you just want to be a good mom. I get it, Sis. Trust me, I do. You grew up with a toxic mom so you know how high the stakes are. But trying to use perfectionism as a cure for not turning into your toxic mom is not the way to go. You might think it'll help prevent you from turning into your toxic mom, but it's really preventing you from being the mom you're meant to be. 

Your kids don't need you to be perfect, they need you to be present. If you're ready to get over the fear of turning into your toxic mom and the perfectionism it's causing, I'm here to help.

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In today's episode, I'm sharing 6 truths we need to raise our girls to believe if we want them to grow into fierce women unafraid to take up space in a world that would rather women be seen and not heard.

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There's no such thing as a perfect mom. So why are so many of us still striving for perfection? In this episode, we tackle some of the ways perfection hinders our motherhood and why our imperfections are what our kids need most.

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