The Helmistry Pod

By Tia Jones

The Helmistry Pod is for BIPOC women & non-binary cycle-breakers who want to stop treating themselves like crap and stop caring so much about what their mom thinks so they can finally take control... more

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The podcast currently has 63 episodes available.

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October 27, 2021 Episode 42: 3 Tips For When Your Holidays Aren‘t Happy
Last year I did a mini-series on the podcast called Holidays Your Way. In it, I discussed why you deserve to have happy holidays and how to make new traditions. You can check it out in episodes 11-14.
While I absolutely still agree with everything I discussed in that series, I want to acknowledge that the first couple of holidays after going no-contact are ROUGH.
You might not be in the place emotionally to do all the things I talked about in Holidays Your Way. But instead of ignoring your emotions and pretending everything is fine, how can you show yourself radical acceptance and kindness as you process your emotions?
If you need some tips on how to approach not-so-happy holidays, this episode is for you.
If you're anxious because you're expecting unwanted gifts from your toxic family, this episode is for you too.
If you're worried about the holidays because you haven't talked to your kids about being no-contact and not celebrating with your toxic family, the next episode is for you - but you should still listen to this one. :)

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Ready to reclaim your holiday season? Join me at 10am on October 22, 2022 for a free 90-minute workshop - Actually Happy Holidays. You can sign up here.

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12min
October 06, 2021 Episode 41: Self-Discovery is Scary
In this mini-episode, we talk about why self-discovery is scary after going no-contact and how shifting the way you approach it can make all the difference.
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8min
September 22, 2021 Episode 40: Self-trust & Social Media
When it comes to measuring our progress, nothing sparks more regret and resentment, nothing threatens our self-trust more, than social media.
In today’s episode, we’re gonna talk about 5 reasons social media damages our self-trust:
1. It encourages pretending 2. It incentivized being a copycat3. It prevents us from being present4. It causes passivity 5. It emboldens the dehumanization of others

In case you need this reminder:
You are enough
You’re doing enough
You should be so proud of the work you’re doing and the work you’ve done.
I know I am.
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25min
September 01, 2021 Episode 39: Why Is Self-trust So Hard?
In today’s episode, we’re gonna go through why we struggle with our self-trust in the first place. Spoiler alert: It’s not your fault.
Not only did our toxic parents not help us foster self-trust, they actively fostered self-distrust because they were only interested in doing things that made us easier to control. And vilifying us for having a mind of our own meant we were more likely to go along with whatever they wanted.
But if we stop there, if we think our parents alone are the reason we struggle with self-trust, we’re missing a big piece of the equation.
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21min
August 25, 2021 Episode 38: You Are NOT Broken
Having abusive parents doesn’t just make the parent-child relationship toxic, it makes our relationship with ourselves toxic.
Because as kids, most of what we know about relationships is learned from our parents. From how they treat themselves, how they treat each other, how they treat other people, and how they treated us.
When it comes to how they treated us, I want to highlight one thing they taught us about ourselves that we have to commit to unlearning. That we’re broken.
In this episode we chat about:
Why we were taught we're broken
Why you should cut yourself some slack if you feel like you're not progressing quickly enough in your healing journey
How the toxic environment we were raised in sets us up to look for toxic forms of motivation
Why the message you're not broken is especially necessary if you're neurodivergent like me
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24min
August 18, 2021 Episode 37: The Path To Self-Trust
In this episode, we’re gonna talk about the path to self-trust. Self-trust is believing in yourself. But before you can believe in yourself, you have to know who you are. And therein lies the problem for most of us childhood trauma survivors, we have no clue who we are.
We'll also cover:
The three steps to self-discovery
The two types of self-awareness
Why you can’t work on self-trust without tackling self-discovery and self-awareness first
How your inner child is an awesome partner in your process
Ways to connect with your inner child
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24min
July 28, 2021 Episode 36: Focus on Your Healing
At the beginning of our healing journey, we can fall into a pretty common trap for childhood trauma survivors - focusing too much on our parents.
When you focus too much on your parents it causes issues like:
1. Keeping you stuck in the past
2. Trying to fix your parents
3. Overlooking how your parents' behavior impacted you
Yes, there's a time for meaningful reflection on how your parents caused your trauma and that you're not to blame. But don't stay there.
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11min
July 07, 2021 Episode 35: 3 Signs You Struggle With Self-trust
In this episode we talk about the three signs you struggle with self-trust:
1. You play small/settle
2. You're a people-pleaser
3. You're a jerk to yourself
In all of these instances you're too focused on the wrong things:
1. Your comfort
2. What other people think
3. Your weaknesses
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14min
July 02, 2021 Episode 34: Preventing No-Contact
In this episode, I share how I respond to one of the common things I've heard after going no-contact: "Your kids are gonna go no-contact with you."
I also rant about a parenting incident I witnessed in the grocery store.
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15min
June 30, 2021 Bonus: Supercharge Your Self-Trust
One of the things I really struggled with after going no-contact was being able to trust myself again. Like so many other childhood trauma survivors, my parents raised me not to trust myself because if I didn't think I was capable of being in control of my life I was more willing to let them be in control.
If you struggle with self-trust too, next week (July 5th-July 9th) I'm having a free challenge to Supercharge Your Self-Trust in 5 days. In this challenge, there will be daily emails, live Q&A/coaching sessions, and a private (non-FB) community where we'll discuss the daily topics.
Day 1: Get good at being the bad guy
Day 2: Listen to your inner child
Day 3: Honor your limits
Day 4: Prioritize self-care
Day 5: Take responsibility
If you're interested in joining the challenge, you can sign-up here. Registration ends on Friday, July 2nd.
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2min

FAQs about The Helmistry Pod:

How many episodes does The Helmistry Pod have?

The podcast currently has 63 episodes available.