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Sonia sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz to unpack addiction, dopamine, and the hidden patterns behind compulsive behaviors—from alcohol to everyday habits.
They dive into the questions most people avoid: What actually drives compulsive behavior? Why does dopamine keep us chasing more instead of feeling satisfied? How do perfectionism, shame, and high achievement intersect with addiction? And what happens when we swap one coping mechanism for another—alcohol for work, porn, social media, or even productivity? They also explore how habits quietly escalate and how identity becomes entangled in addiction.
Jeremy breaks down neuroplasticity and how repeated behaviors wire the brain, reinforcing cycles of craving and avoidance. He reframes dopamine as the chemical of wanting—not pleasure—and explains how this fuels the loop of desire. The conversation introduces tools like urge surfing, mindfulness, and creating space between stimulus and response, alongside a deeper look at emotional avoidance, shame, and the “hungry ghost” cycle of never feeling like enough. They also demystify meditation—what it actually is, and how to practice it without perfection.
The episode also traces Jeremy’s personal turning point—from a high-achieving student battling insecurity and compulsive behaviors to discovering meditation and a new definition of fulfillment. As Sonia reflects on her own patterns in real time, the conversation becomes a powerful example of what it looks like to pause, notice, and choose differently.
This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.
TIME-STAMPED HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 – Introduction to Jeremy Lipkowitz and his work in addiction recovery
01:30 – Jeremy’s early struggles with insecurity and addiction
03:45 – Realizing the path he was on wasn’t leading to happiness
06:15 – Why success didn’t translate into fulfillment
08:00 – Neuroplasticity and how habits shape the brain
10:30 – Dopamine explained: wanting vs. liking
12:45 – How addiction escalates over time
14:30 – Addiction as emotional avoidance
16:10 – Why we struggle with boredom and discomfort
17:45 – Identity and shame in addiction
20:00 – Rationalizing harmful behaviors
21:30 – Addiction as a universal pattern
23:00 – The “dry drunk” concept and root causes
24:30 – Healthier vs. harmful coping mechanisms
26:00 – Recognizing subtle compulsions
28:15 – What urge surfing is
31:00 – Creating space before reacting
34:00 – Building mindfulness as a skill
37:00 – Meditation myths and perfectionism
41:30 – Different types of meditation
45:00 – Mindfulness in everyday life
49:00 – Perfectionism as addiction
52:00 – The “hungry ghost” mindset
55:30 – Sonia’s real-time habit awareness
58:30 – Learning to sit with boredom
01:02:00 – Why abstinence can help moderation
01:06:00 – How subtle habits take hold
01:09:00 – Finding freedom from external validation
Jeremy's Links
Podcast: https://unhooked.buzzsprout.com/
Website: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/
SIS Links
💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen
📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email
📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram
🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast
📸 Kathleen’s Instagram
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By Sonia Kahlon and Kathleen Killen
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Sonia sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz to unpack addiction, dopamine, and the hidden patterns behind compulsive behaviors—from alcohol to everyday habits.
They dive into the questions most people avoid: What actually drives compulsive behavior? Why does dopamine keep us chasing more instead of feeling satisfied? How do perfectionism, shame, and high achievement intersect with addiction? And what happens when we swap one coping mechanism for another—alcohol for work, porn, social media, or even productivity? They also explore how habits quietly escalate and how identity becomes entangled in addiction.
Jeremy breaks down neuroplasticity and how repeated behaviors wire the brain, reinforcing cycles of craving and avoidance. He reframes dopamine as the chemical of wanting—not pleasure—and explains how this fuels the loop of desire. The conversation introduces tools like urge surfing, mindfulness, and creating space between stimulus and response, alongside a deeper look at emotional avoidance, shame, and the “hungry ghost” cycle of never feeling like enough. They also demystify meditation—what it actually is, and how to practice it without perfection.
The episode also traces Jeremy’s personal turning point—from a high-achieving student battling insecurity and compulsive behaviors to discovering meditation and a new definition of fulfillment. As Sonia reflects on her own patterns in real time, the conversation becomes a powerful example of what it looks like to pause, notice, and choose differently.
This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.
TIME-STAMPED HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 – Introduction to Jeremy Lipkowitz and his work in addiction recovery
01:30 – Jeremy’s early struggles with insecurity and addiction
03:45 – Realizing the path he was on wasn’t leading to happiness
06:15 – Why success didn’t translate into fulfillment
08:00 – Neuroplasticity and how habits shape the brain
10:30 – Dopamine explained: wanting vs. liking
12:45 – How addiction escalates over time
14:30 – Addiction as emotional avoidance
16:10 – Why we struggle with boredom and discomfort
17:45 – Identity and shame in addiction
20:00 – Rationalizing harmful behaviors
21:30 – Addiction as a universal pattern
23:00 – The “dry drunk” concept and root causes
24:30 – Healthier vs. harmful coping mechanisms
26:00 – Recognizing subtle compulsions
28:15 – What urge surfing is
31:00 – Creating space before reacting
34:00 – Building mindfulness as a skill
37:00 – Meditation myths and perfectionism
41:30 – Different types of meditation
45:00 – Mindfulness in everyday life
49:00 – Perfectionism as addiction
52:00 – The “hungry ghost” mindset
55:30 – Sonia’s real-time habit awareness
58:30 – Learning to sit with boredom
01:02:00 – Why abstinence can help moderation
01:06:00 – How subtle habits take hold
01:09:00 – Finding freedom from external validation
Jeremy's Links
Podcast: https://unhooked.buzzsprout.com/
Website: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/
SIS Links
💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen
📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email
📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram
🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast
📸 Kathleen’s Instagram
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