January 17, 2025

The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond

26 minutes

Hello Beautiful! Let’s talk about something we all love to hate—control. In this episode, I took you on a little meditation journey to ditch the chaos and open yourselves up to receiving all the good vibes. Spoiler alert: we don’t need to white-knuckle every step of this fertility thing!

The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond Truth # 1

Read The Illusion of Control over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Illusion%20of%20Control%20Infertility%20Failed%20IVF%20IUI%20Pregnancy%20Issues

Met three fabulous characters:

Mabel: The Queen of Overthinking & To-Do Lists (we love her, but girl needs to chill).

Monica: The grounded guide reminding you to breathe and TRUST the process.

Monique: The unapologetic truth-teller, side-eyeing your control freak tendencies.

I spill the tea on how trusting, surrendering, and letting go can actually make you feel more empowered, not less. And we’re all about small, actionable steps here—no 300-point fertility checklists, thank you very much.

The Illusion of Control

Let’s call it what it is: CONTROL is a sneaky little minx that makes you feel productive but leaves you spinning your wheels. We channeled our inner Mabels (bless her Type A heart) and reminded her that micromanaging every little thing won’t speed things up.

Trust & Surrender

I know, I know—“trust” and “surrender” sound like buzzwords on a coffee mug. But seriously, letting go of the need to control everything doesn’t mean giving up—it means opening the door for better things to flow in. Baby steps, babe.

Self-Awareness is Sexy

Radical honesty, anyone? I challenged you to check yourself before you wreck yourself. What’s essential? What’s just busywork? Bonus points if you kick that checklist to the curb and lean into grace instead of grind.

Joy, Gratitude & Self-Care

Control blocks joy—it’s science (or at least Monica-science). Slow down, make time for what lights you up, and let your body and intuition do their thing. Pro tip: less Googling, more dancing around the kitchen.

Alright, here’s your homework (but make it fun):

Be radically honest: Notice when you’re spiraling into overthinking mode (and laugh at yourself a little).

Simplify your list: Do the important stuff and leave the rest. Seriously, you’re not a fertility robot.

Build trust: Your body’s got this. Let it work its magic without you micromanaging every second.

Find joy: Do one thing this week that’s just for YOU. Bonus if it makes you giggle like a kid.

Make a small shift: Pick one thing to let go of this week—like skipping that extra supplement deep dive or saying no to something that drains you.

Listen, queen: control isn’t the key to your fertility kingdom. Shifting from fear to trust? Now that’s where the magic happens.

Let go, tune in, and take it one step at a time. And if you’re ready to go deeper, I’ve got you covered with community sessions, one-on-one magic, and tools to help you finally ditch the chaos.

So, what’s your one small shift this week? I’m rooting for you—and so is Monique, with her sassy clap-back energy.

I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation.

ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn’t Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing

Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/podcastIllusionofControlWhyLettingGoCouldTransformYourFertilityJourney

Let's Do This Together 💚

Monica

🌺 Book Your Discovery Call Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10

🦩Download your FREE 6 Step Guide: Overcome the Odds, Find Your Answers & Boost Your Chances of Creating the Family of Your DREAMS! https://www.findingfertility.co/free3stepguide

Connect with Monica over on

Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility

TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok

🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣

Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i

🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on:

Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon

🍍

Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.

...more

View all episodes

By Monica Cox

4.2

2929 ratings