-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships.  Blaming keeps the focus on others and will keep us stuck. Jerry offers helps to resist SELF-blame and OTHER-blame.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one. 

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at

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-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 [email protected] Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion.  To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness.   When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter.  The world will thank us for this.  (The exception when there is a grief or loss or tragedy), most things people get over-serious about are over nothing or small things.  For more help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at [email protected] or 317-919-6264

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is an international relationship coach and self-differentiation specialist and teaches family systems approach to healing and recovery.  In this video Jerry presents a family systems perspective of relationship problems.  Problems are symptoms of deeper problems.  Often we use the same thinking that got us into the problem.  Jerry Wise offers the viewer a way to think 'outside the box' and zoom out to see the deeper sources of our problems.   Listen to his podcasts on Spotify, Itunes, and all the major streaming apps.  Sign up for his May 30, 2020 workshop on his website.  You can contact or work with Jerry Wise by reaching him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com or 1-317-919-6264 (USA) or [email protected]   Jerry Wise has clients all over the world, if you are looking for a new kind of help contact him.

Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at

Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists.

Watch this video and you will understand the emotional system and it works in a much better way!  Systems feelings control so many people's lives.  These are not the true us or the true state of our feelings.  True feelings are pushed out or overwhelmed by these "systems feelings" which arise from our past and our current functioning in relationships.  Jerry Wise is a 40 year veteran of helping people to quiet and resolve these systems feelings.  As a self-differentiation/family systems expert he coaches people to discover their true selves.  Contact Jerry Wise at

So you think you are ready to stand up for yourself. This video helps you prepare for those self defining events with your family of origin, spouses and friends by Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach. Being assertive and standing up for yourself is a science. Jerry Wise explains the dynamics of the family systems concept of "declaring self" which is self assertiveness from a systems perspective. For more help contact Jerry T. Wise, MA, MS, CLC at

 317-919-6264 | [email protected] | https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com