The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

In this touching episode, Ross Rosenberg delves into the essential principles of codependency recovery, which he calls "self-love recovery." With clarity, compassion, and empathy, he presents a compelling explanation for how individuals with self-love deficit disorder (codependency) can break free from their long-standing pattern of getting involved with destructive narcissists and instead embrace a life filled with abundant self-love.

He emphasizes that while codependents, or Self-Love Deficient individuals (SLDs), are never to blame for the abuse they endure in relationships with narcissists, taking personal responsibility is essential to healing. Drawing on his Human Magnet Syndrome framework, he explains how SLDs are unconsciously drawn to narcissists due to deeply ingrained relationship templates formed during childhood.

These factors create a powerful, unconscious attraction to narcissistic partners, who initially seem familiar and safe but ultimately lead to dysfunctional relationships. Ross highlights that SLDs often stay in these relationships due to pathological loneliness, core shame, and relationship addiction, despite the harmful impact on themselves and their loved ones. He encourages viewers to confront these inner forces, break free from the cycle, and cultivate self-love. By taking responsibility and committing to recovery, SLDs can overcome their self-love deficiency and achieve a healthier, self-loving life. 

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg delves into "emotional dysmorphia," a term he coined to describe the internalized, distorted self-perceptions often developed by those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. Much like body dysmorphia, emotional dysmorphia involves pervasive feelings of inadequacy or being unlovable, which persist despite contradictory evidence and affirmations from others.

Ross explains how these beliefs are reinforced through abusive relationships, particularly with narcissists, and gives insight into mechanisms like projection and projective identification, where individuals begin to see themselves through a distorted, negative lens. This concept is key to understanding SLDD, as it shows how pervasive feelings of inadequacy can perpetuate harmful relationship patterns.

Ross emphasizes that with the right support, including his Self-Love Recovery treatment, it’s possible to dismantle these negative beliefs and cultivate self-love.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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In this episode, Ross Rosenberg dives into the metaphor of a "parasite" to explain the toxic dynamic between codependents (Self-Love Deficients or SLDs) and pathological narcissists.

Building on concepts from his books, The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, Ross explains how narcissists, much like parasites, rely on the life force of codependents to survive.

Ross emphasizes that healing from this destructive relationship pattern requires addressing the deeper wounds of Self-Love Deficit Disorder/SLDD (codependency), which originates from childhood attachment trauma. 

He introduces his Self-Love Recovery Treatment program and the HITCH trauma resolution technique as methods for breaking free from the parasitic narcissist’s hold.

Learn how to stop giving your life force to a “parasite” and begin your journey to self-love recovery.

ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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Just like other 12-step programs, CoDA’s first step pinpoints the out-of-control addiction or compulsive behavior that constantly creates disorder in their life. For most 12-step groups, a chemical or substance is the culprit, but for others like CoDA, it is a pattern of behavior that creates chaos and unmanageability in their life.  

In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why CoDA has been flawed since its inception and continues to be so. Through a historical analysis of the organization, he shows how CoDA’s “co-dependency” term originated from 1950s alcohol and drug treatment programs attempt to understand the partners of alcoholics or “co-alcoholics.” 

When the field shifted to “chemical dependency” as the catch-all term for all addictions, including alcohol, the term briefly shifted to co-chemical dependency. Having too many letters/words, it was almost immediately shorted to “co-dependency.” 

CoDA’s step one identifies its co-dependent’s primary out-of-control compulsion as trying to change or controlling people who are unwilling or unable to change. 

ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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Ross Rosenberg's emotionally evocative podcast captures the terror, fear, and anxiety of being an abuse victim by a loved one who has borderline personality disorder. He not only explains the experience but also offers life-saving advice on how to survive it. Similar to his previous videos on BPD (which have amassed 1.8 million views), he provides insights from his distinctive perspective as a mental health service provider with a one-of-a-kind intellect.

A decade later, Rosenberg once again presents a heart-wrenching account of the horrifying realities endured by those who have suffered abuse at the hands of someone with borderline personality disorder.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast does not aim to criticize the extremely challenging psychological condition known as BPD. Instead, it serves as a helpful resource for individuals who have been hurt, abused, and/or traumatized by those with this diagnosis. The intention is not to highlight the negative aspects of people diagnosed with BPD but rather to offer a valuable mental health resource for those who have experienced abuse from their loved ones who suffer from this disorder. Sadly, the unfortunate reality is that individuals with BPD often end up hurting the people they care about or hold dear.

While I possess a considerable understanding of the disorder, I must clarify that I am not a specialist or an expert in its treatment. My expertise lies in working with individuals whom I classify as "Self-Love Deficients" (codependents) suffering from Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency). It is important to note that I do not represent individuals with BPD, nor do I make any attempts to do so.

Instead, I am a psychotherapist specializing in offering mental health services to individuals who identify as SLDs (codependents) and those who have experienced trauma. My focus revolves around empowering individuals, facilitating their healing, and assisting them in breaking free from abusive relationships. You can witness this dedication in my book, "The Human Magnet Syndrome," as well as in my various videos and training resources.

I want to clarify that my intention is not to cast blame on individuals with BPD but rather to provide support and guidance to my clients in breaking free from toxic and abusive relationships. My work focuses on empowering those who seek to heal their psychological wounds and are willing to take personal responsibility for their actions.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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In this insightful discussion, Ross Rosenberg and Karen McMahon delve into the challenges of high-conflict divorces, especially with narcissistic partners. Karen, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, shares her expertise in guiding individuals through the emotional and legal hurdles of divorce, focusing on those affected by self-love deficit disorder (SLDD) and codependency. She highlights the importance of personal healing and empowerment amidst the chaos of divorce proceedings.

Karen explains how individuals often feel diminished and fearful during a high-conflict divorce and stresses the need to concentrate on personal growth rather than being overwhelmed by the spouse’s behavior. The conversation also covers how to manage children’s experiences during a divorce, emphasizing the importance of validating their feelings while maintaining one's own emotional stability to better support them.

Ross and Karen draw parallels between codependency and addiction, noting that both involve a pattern of unhealthy reliance on conflict and chaos. They stress the importance of self-care and emotional healing to navigate post-divorce life and co-parenting effectively. The discussion concludes with a reminder that the impact of divorce extends beyond legal matters, emphasizing the need for ongoing personal growth to positively affect both individuals and their children.

ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 28 million views and 285,000 subscribers and the sale of 185,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

 Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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In this podcast, Ross interviews Alex Katehakis, a renowned marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction and healthy sexuality. Alex shares her journey, starting with an interest in human sexuality and later focusing on sex and love addiction, as well as sexual codependency. She explains the difference between healthy and problematic sexual behaviors, noting that it’s not the acts themselves but the misuse of sex that causes issues. Alex also highlights how childhood trauma and emotional deprivation can distort one's view of love, sex, and intimacy.

The discussion touches on challenges faced by people struggling with codependency and self-love deficiency, particularly in relationships with narcissistic partners. Alex explains how early experiences shape the nervous system, leading to unhealthy patterns, where sex and love are often confused to avoid abandonment. Healing, she says, requires therapy, group support, and self-reflection. She emphasizes the importance of addressing trauma to develop a healthy sense of self and a balanced approach to intimacy.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the hidden dangers of pursuing happiness for those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. He explains how codependents often mistake the absence of pain for true happiness due to their relationships with narcissists, who manipulate and gaslight them. Ross emphasizes the importance of addressing underlying issues like trauma, shame, and loneliness, and building self-love before seeking happiness. For more resources and support, visit selfloverecovery.com or contact [email protected]. 

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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With a new introduction, Ross re-shares the video that has changed thousands of lives. 

The most effective of all the narcissist's manipulative strategies is “Induced Conversation.” Especially when breaking down a no-contact initiative or when trying to hoover (suck back into the relationship) the codependent. For codependents to not get sucked back into the relationship that has nearly destroyed them, they must have potent countermeasures to survive the narcissist’s induced conversation strategies.

Induced conversation is the primary weapon that the narcissist wrestler uses to maintain their power and control over you. As you begin setting boundaries, breaking off the relationship, and even utilizing the ODA technique, you will fail if you do not understand what is at stake for the narcissist. Remember, their number one goal is to keep you in the wrestling ring.

Narcissists are nothing by themselves, despite what they may tell themselves. They need you like they need oxygen to live. Internally, they are filled with insecurity, shame, and dread, regardless of if they are conscious of it. Most narcissists can’t become aware of these internal battles. There may be rare moments where they can connect with their shame, such as moments when they meltdown, beg, plead, and promise you everything so they can keep you in their life. However, that window closes quickly and is unlikely to reopen. They simply are oblivious to their darker sides and their shame.

Induced conversation is what keeps them in control of the relationship. It is how they command their powers and control strategies. After all, if they can get you to respond, defend yourself, or argue, you will be right back in the wrestling ring with them.

To wield this power, the narcissist has to get you to talk to them first. If you try to go no-contact, the only way for them to get back into your life is through induced conversation.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the concept of pathological loneliness, a profound existential pain that individuals with self-love deficit disorder (SLDD), or codependency, experience when they are not in a relationship. Rosenberg explores the roots of this condition, its connection to codependency, and how it manifests as a visceral, bone-aching pain driving individuals into unhealthy relationships to avoid loneliness. He likens SLDD to an addiction, where the "drug" is the relationship itself, not the narcissistic partner. Through this discussion, Rosenberg aims to shed light on the existential crisis faced by those with SLDD and offers insights into his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program as a path to healing and overcoming this debilitating condition.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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