Influence doesn't always come from title, age, tenure, or position. Sometimes the people with the most influence are simply the people leaders trust the most.
In this episode, Tim Stevens talks with David Whiting (GenerosityOS SVP and LeadingSmart Senior Consultant) about how church staff members can grow their influence in healthy, practical ways. Drawing from David’s years as a senior pastor and ministry leader, they unpack why some people are invited into more conversations and decisions while others feel overlooked, under-appreciated, or left out of the room.
They also discuss why influence starts with the things every leader can control: follow-through, honesty, effort, ownership, teachability, loyalty, and joy. This is part one of a two-part conversation on influence, focusing on the character side of leadership before moving into competency in the next episode.
Additional topics include:
church leadership
staff culture
leadership influence
ministry teams
character and competency
staff trust
decision-making
follow-through
ownership
team alignment
teachable leadership
healthy communication
church staff development
leading with humility
organizational trust
Timestamps
00:00 Introducing David Whiting and today’s conversation on influence
03:00 Why many staff feel under-appreciated, overlooked, or left out
05:00 Why the decision-making room often gets smaller as a church grows
07:00 The difference between character issues and competency issues
09:00 Why influence starts with what you can control
10:30 Do what you said you would do
13:00 Own it when you blow it
16:00 Tell the truth without shading, spinning, or hiding details
19:00 Bring the effort and become dependable
23:00 Think church, not turf
27:00 Why leaders lose influence when they become territorial
29:00 No surprises: keeping supervisors informed
32:00 Stay teachable and receive correction without defensiveness
36:00 Evaluate honestly and care more about getting better than looking good
39:00 Be loyal in the right rooms
44:00 What reasonable loyalty looks like on a healthy team
47:00 Serve with joy, humility, and a good attitude
50:00 Why character grows influence but competency creates the lid
52:00 Final thoughts and a preview of part two
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