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Episode #1093
A lot of men think they're being grounded by staying calm, staying quiet, or keeping the peace, but what if that's not grounded at all? In this episode, Doug and Tim break down how men often collapse emotionally without realizing it, and why that shutdown is just another form of reaction.
You'll hear real stories, including a wake-up call from Doug's own marriage, and how what he thought was self-control was actually stonewalling. This isn't about being more stoic or strong. It's about being real, being present, and learning to lead emotionally instead of withdrawing.
They explain how men slip into shame, disconnect from their partner, and unknowingly make it all about themselves. You'll learn how to spot the difference between reacting and being grounded, and how to catch yourself before things spiral. The goal isn't perfection. It's about awareness, ownership, and showing up differently. If you've ever felt like you were doing the right thing only to have it backfire, this conversation is worth a listen.
Want to understand exactly where things went wrong and how to fix it? Get access to the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going on and how to rebuild connection, leadership, and trust step by step.
By Tim Matthews & Doug Holt4.9
132132 ratings
Episode #1093
A lot of men think they're being grounded by staying calm, staying quiet, or keeping the peace, but what if that's not grounded at all? In this episode, Doug and Tim break down how men often collapse emotionally without realizing it, and why that shutdown is just another form of reaction.
You'll hear real stories, including a wake-up call from Doug's own marriage, and how what he thought was self-control was actually stonewalling. This isn't about being more stoic or strong. It's about being real, being present, and learning to lead emotionally instead of withdrawing.
They explain how men slip into shame, disconnect from their partner, and unknowingly make it all about themselves. You'll learn how to spot the difference between reacting and being grounded, and how to catch yourself before things spiral. The goal isn't perfection. It's about awareness, ownership, and showing up differently. If you've ever felt like you were doing the right thing only to have it backfire, this conversation is worth a listen.
Want to understand exactly where things went wrong and how to fix it? Get access to the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going on and how to rebuild connection, leadership, and trust step by step.

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