We welcome Amil for her THIRD Mother of it All appearance, where she gives a moving eulogy for the career ambition that has died out for her as she’s gotten older and had more kids. We also talk shitty teenaged jobs, perimenopausal sex drive, what we think our kids are learning about money and work, and the new Muppets Show.

Links:

* Life After Ambition by Amil Niazi

* Want to Change Careers? Three People Share Their Success Stories (via Big Salad)

* Find a perimenopause-aware practitioner via The Menopause Society

* Mark Rober Crunch Labs box

* The new Muppet Show (Disney)

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Dr. Megan Prior is a parent and a board-certified pediatrician in DC who serves on the American Academy of Pediatrics Council on Early Childhood. A lot of us know her from her popular social media account, Itty Bitty Revolution, where she describes herself as a pediatrician and mom with a policy obsession.

We love her work and were thrilled to have her on the show to chat about the real, massive impacts that federal policies have on American families. From recent changes to the childhood vaccine schedule, to age-old issues around paid parental leave and childcare costs, Prior helps us think about where we are right now and what parents today can and should be focused on and fighting for to make family life better for all.

Links:

* Dr. Megan Prior on Instagram

* Raising a Nation: 10 Reasons Every American Has a Stake in Child Care for All by Elliot Haspel

* Biden’s Build Better Back bill

* The Economics of Early Childhood : “Nobel Laureate economist James Heckman estimated that every dollar invested in early childhood programs yields a return of $7 to $13 in economic benefits long term.”

* Adultism and children’s rights with Eloise Rickman

* Courtney Martin on right-sizing

* Bridgerton

* Live-action Cinderella

* the Just Tell Your Kids What To Do essay

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In this subscriber-only episode (you can become a paid subscriber by clicking here), we explore something we’ve been wondering about for a while: Why do we care so much about what other parents do? Why are we inclined to examine other parents choices? What should each of our b****y, judgy alter-egos be named? Does it tame them to name them, like they sa…

We sit down with the whip-smart UK-based American journalist Stephanie H. Murray (a contributing writer for The Atlantic) to talk about the flawed baseline logic of American parenthood, freedom, control and the sacrifices we make to be part of a community. Murray explains that finding community may mean that we can’t “overindex” every little parenting decision, why ‘freedom’ as parents and kids might be more complex than it seems, why she wishes her neighbors would yell at her kids more often, and more. Plus: Book recommendations, parenthood and vigilance, Fanta in the UK vs. US, and Sarah demands permission to give your child the trashiest birthday present she can find.

Links:

* Stephanie H. Murray newsletter, Family Stuff

* The Isolation of Intensive Parenting

* Bring Back Communal Kid Discipline

* “No gifts” or “Yes gifts?” Edith Zimmerman and I hash out who is superior (from Evil Witches Newsletter )

* What’s On Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life by Alison Daminger

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Dr. Jack Schneider, Dwight W. Allen Distinguished Professor at UMass Amherst and and host of the Have You Heard podcast about education policy, joins us to break down the recent “schools are bad” media bonanza (links below). Dr. Schneider digs in to what’s flawed about the panic-inducing articles about the state of American public education, and shares tips on what to say to the person next to us at a dinner party who starts to s**t on our kids’ public school. Also, the questions to ask your kid if you really want to know if they’re school is good, and a thought-provoking take on Little Free Libraries.

Links:

* America’s Children Are Unwell. Are Schools Part of the Problem? From A.D.H.D. to anxiety, disorders have risen as the expectations of childhood have changed. By Jia Lynn Yang (New York Times)

* The Big Fail Student achievement has fallen off a cliff. And neither Trump nor the pandemic is to blame. By Andrew Rice (New York Magazine)

* Jack Schneider, educational historian and professor at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst.

* The Education Wars (Jack Schneider)

* Beyond Test Scores (Jack Schneider)

* Jack Schneider in The Nation

* r/Teachers: “What does this generation of students do better than others?” (via Evil Witches Newsletter )

* Scopes Monkey Trial

* Arizona Education Debit Card

* Teachers Have It Easy

* California Healthy Kids Survey

* The Mighty Red by Louise Erdrich

* The City & The City by China Miéville

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Happy New Year, sweet paid subscribers! Thanks for making us rich! Just kidding. Thanks for keeping the lights on, though. Your support means a lot, and we’re filled with gratitude as we cruise into 2026.

2025 was quite a year for mom movies AND dad movies and we’ve been dying to talk about it. Sarah saw most of them, and Miranda saw some of them, despi…

In this episode, Sarah and Miranda Rake kick things off with some Mariah Carey karaoke and a rundown of their favorite “laundry folding films.” Then journalist Courtney Martin joins to talk about the messy, tender, and often overwhelming realities of caring for aging parents while raising kids—the ultimate sandwich generation hustle. Courtney shares what it’s been like to relocate her whole family, the heartbreak and beauty of moving her dad into memory care, and how communal living and worker-owned elder care centers have shaped her journey. Grab a mug of tea, add another bag (Sarah’s jam), and settle in for a conversation that’s equal parts comfort and reality check.

Other Links:

* Learning in Public: Lessons for a Racially Divided America from My Daughter’s School by Courtney Martin

* What Our Intergenerational Household Taught All of Us About Care (Greater Good Science Center)

* Opinion: Whoever needs to hear this: It’s OK to put your loved one with dementia in residential care (SF Chronicle)

* Elder Care (Courtney’s Substack)

* On Vanishing: Mortality, Dementia, and What It Means to Disappear by Lynn Castiel Harper

* Creative Care: A Revolutionary Approach to Dementia and Elder Care by Anne Basting

* Travelers to Unimaginable Lands: Dementia, Caregiving, and the Hidden Humanity of Memory by Dasha Kiper

* Wise Unknown Podcast

* Slate’s How-To Podcast

* the examined family (Courtney’s Substack)

* Mother of It All Bookshop (Bookshop.org)

* Caring Across Generations (Ai-jen Poo)

* Doulagivers Elder Care Doula Directory (Doulagivers: Find a Doula)

* Home Care Cooperatives

* Holiday Movies We Love (Or Don’t)

* Mariah Carey’s Christmas Specials

* A Merry Scottish Christmas

* A Merry Little Ex-mas

* White Christmas

* Christmas in Connecticut

* Desk Set

* A Very Murray Christmas (Netflix)

* Freakier Friday

* Sarah’s Letterboxd

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Welcome to our ✨Holiday Special✨! In an episode that is ostensibly about Elf On The Shelf (or Mensch On The Bench — for Sarah), we explore our collective annual search for meaning and self with the great Meaghan O’Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything and noted Elf On The Shelf apologist.

Pressing items interrogated lightly include: Should Elf On The Shelf be a Dad thing? Does holiday magic necessarily include lying to our kids? What do we say when our kids ask if we’re Santa? What is the true magic? How do we even know what we enjoy and what we don’t in a season this busy, and should we take Miranda’s recommendation to do a witchy ritual to remind ourselves?

Links:

* Meaghan O’Connell’s book, And Now We Have Everything

* St. Nicholas day

* Mr. Willoby’s Christmas Tree

* ‘Lazy Mom’ Elf On A Shelf

* Elf on a Shelf Book

* The first Mother of it All holiday special, featuring

Sara Petersen

* Mensch on a Bench (“as seen on Shark Tank”)

* Sarah on Boo Baskets (The Cut)

* When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron

* Miranda’s Grandma Ruth’s Peanut Butter Balls

* Meaghan’s Substack

We’re joined by science journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer, author Hello, Cruel World! Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. Melinda’s work has long been a trusted source for parents, and here, we talk a little bit about a lot of things that are on our minds right now. Melinda shares thoughts everything from Botox and dying our hair to resilience & kids, to nervous-system regulation to whether divorced moms are quietly judging their married friends and so much more!

We end with an invigorating lightning round of a new game that Sarah Wheeler created called “Parent Advice Gut Check.” It’s complicated!

Links:

* How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t A******s (Melinda’s first book)

* Hello, Cruel World! Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times (Melinda’s new book!)

* Now What? Melinda’s Substack

* The Facts of Lice in Slate

* What’s on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life by Allison Daminger

* The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa Damour

* Lily Allen’s West End Girl

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In this bonus episode for paid subscribers, Sarah and Miranda go long on the PTA (Sarah is this year’s PTA President for her school—something she thought she’d never do) — balancing anxiety about your kid with collective goals and getting involved without losing your boundaries. Also radio nostalgia and whether your clothes just look like pajamas.

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