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In todays episode Mama Sareena brings to the table 3 things she noticed that have been causing anxiety and stress in her motherhood journey. 

These three "mistakes" are

1. Wanting to control everything
2. Losing my cool with my littles
3. Not prepping my days

They say the first step is noticing! So what's next?

Well, Amma Lisa will shed some light on how these "mistakes" are effecting our littles. It has been divided into two parts!

So in this week's episode we will dig into why we might be so controlling, the effects it has on our littles in their future, and what we can do instead. 

We can only do as good as we know, learning from mama's mistakes and mamas wisdom will allow us to see the bigger picture and help us improve our parenting skills! 

Also, they aren't really mistakes, just lessons we can all learn from. Parenting is not easy and it is a good reminder to stop the mom guilt. We will mess up but along as we try the best we can we can be confident that our kids will be fine if not great!

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Let's bring it back to the basics.

We are always talking about being a nurturing parent but we wanted to make sure that you really understand what that means and why it is so important for us to practice as parents. 

There are 4 types of parenting styles and this week we are sharing with you which one is going to be the best style to raise successful little people!   

In this episode, we will discuss

1. AUTHORITATIVE (NURTURING) PARENTING DEFINED
2. WHY IS THIS STYLE THE BEST CHOICE - what do our children get from being raised with authoritative parenting
3. Some REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES of authoritative parenting in action

We also want to remind you that if you are struggling with anything specific, we would love for you to reach out so we can shed some light on what is really happening.

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs. It is OKAY to ask for help! I promise you, we all need it! Don't do it alone, that is why we are here! We are a resource for you mamas, so please use us. ❤️

The best way to get in contact with us is if you send us a dm to our Instagram!

Episodes to listen to next

Ep. 51 5 WAYS TO SELF REGULATE YOURSELF IN THE MIDST OF CHAOS

Ep. 54 WORRIED YOUR PARENTING WILL “MESS UP YOUR KIDS”? HOW ACKNOWLEDGEMENT CAN HELP REPAIR THE DAMAGE

Ep. 60 NO SUCH THING AS "BAD KIDS"

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Happy Spring Mamas!

Do you love springtime as much as us? Maybe you don't or maybe you haven't even noticed how beautiful it could be. 

We get so busy maintaining our homes, feeding our kids, and doing all the chores. Maybe you are working and rushing home to get dinner ready and start bedtime. If that's the case we want to remind you about the beauty that is waiting for us outside!

In this week's episode, we are giving you

1. Some motivation to get outdoors!
2. The benefits that we as parents and our kids reap when we do get outside
3. Some tips and what it looks like to follow our kid's lead and get excited about nature

It is as easy as making a 20-minute walk a priority. If you could do this you will notice a change in your mood and health. You will become happier, build your immune system, and form a closer bond with your kids. Get excited over the small things and build an admiration for the beauty our earth has to offer us!

This is great to model for our kids who are the future stewards of this earth!

You don't have to stress about entertaining your kids all day, just get into nature. If your kids are bouncing off the walls, take the walls down!

There is so much learning that could be done outside and we hope that you take a step towards getting outdoors more and away from screens.

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Do you give in sometimes just to avoid a tantrum?

We've all been there. It can be exhausting and sometimes we don't have the energy to get into a battlefield with our littles. But we want to remind you of the importance and all the benefits of keeping consistent boundaries.

In this week's episode we will discuss:

1. WHY HAVE CONSISTENT BOUNDARIES?
2. WHAT CAN HAPPEN WHEN WE DO NOT STICK TO OUR “NO”
3. HOW TO STAY STRONG IN OUR NO, TO CREATE BOUNDARIES THAT SUPPORT OUR CHILD’S BEST INTERESTS AND DEVELOPMENT

It can make our job as parents easier and allow our littles to flourish. Creating clear and consistent boundaries improves our kid's self-esteem and decreases their anxiety. 

We may have been raised with parents who said "because I said no" and that was the end of that conversation.... 

The problem with not having clear boundaries is that our kids will give us more pushback, they will be confused and constantly question what they should be doing because of a lack of consistency which induces anxiety that will come out in crying, yelling, and full-blown tantrums.     

Boundaries are as simple as sitting at the table during dinner time, drawing on paper, not walls, or no sweets before dinner. These small things set our littles up for success if we remain consistent with them.

BUT you do not have to be too rigid. Allow for wiggle space as sometimes you can enjoy a sweet on a hot summer day. This makes it extra fun for you and your littles! 

The goal is to make this journey more enjoyable so we want to remind you that with some extra work, it is possible!

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Tomorrow is international women's day so in honor of you mamas, we chose 8 quotes that resonated with us and wanted to have a light conversation around how we can relate as women and mothers. 

The strength we have as women is so beautiful and unique. It is too easy to be dismissed in a patriarchal society so here are some reminders of how strong we really are. 

The color for Womens month is purple, so if you want to represent dig out all your purple clothes for this month!

We want to remind you also that as women we need to support one another. Let's get rid of looking at each other as competition when we can be so much stronger once we start supporting and loving other women as if they were our own. 

Becoming a mother brings out another level of strength that we must instill in our daughters as well to break the old ways of looking at females. We get labeled as sensitive and emotional as if it is our weakness. In reality that is our strength so let's use it and stand up!

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Following last week's episode, we wanted to discuss in depth the negative effects sweets have on our kids. This is coming from our conversation on bribes and how we tend to bribe with sweets.

So, in today's-conversation, we will cover 

1. Why not to bribe with sweets
2. Why it is important not to force meals
3. How to have a positive food association

It is important to remember when we use sweets as a bribe it overshadows the importance of instilling positive behaviors and/or their meal depending on what you are using the brbibe for.

The reward becomes the most important part and for our children, they don't even acknowledge why they are being bribed. All they see is the reward. This may have the opposite effect of why we are even bribing from the beginning.

Using sweets as bribes can also cause an unhealthy association/relationship with food. Can you think of an unhealthy habit you might have with food? It can look like not wanting to eat, emotional eating, for mama sareena it was being forced to "finish your plate." This in the long run has made her not pay attention to her own body telling her she is full and forcefully trying to eat.

Today you will hopefully find some tools how to create healthy eating habits for your littles!

Some other great episodes to listen to are:

Ep. #66 10 REASONS WHY BRIBING OUR LITTLES IS PROBLEMATIC & HOW TO DO BETTER!

Ep. #49 HAVE A HEALTHIER HALLOWEEN - ALTERNATIVES TO SAVE YOUR LITTLES FROM CONSUMING TOO MUCH CANDY!

Ep. #7 KIDS CUPBOARDS & BOOK BASKETS

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We didn't want to do this but we are putting a temporary pause on our family fun Fridays. We decided to do this so that we can put our focus on a better way to serve you, mamas.

We want to create a thicker knit community where we can help one another. That will look like live zoom meetings, courses, Q&A's, and getting to know you better to know what your struggles are.

So we are sad to say goodbye for now but excited for what it will bring!

If you are not on our e-mail list you can e-mail us here at [email protected] or message us on FB or insta and we can add you to our e-mail list to get notified for upcoming events.

Thanks for being here with us, we love you so much!

 SONGS:

I YA! By Lisa Sigurgeirson Maxx

BOOK: 

THE INVISIBLE STRING By Patrice Karst Illustrated by Joanne Lew-Vrietthoff 

Here are some popular previous Family Fun Friday episodes:
FAMILY FUN FRIDAYS: INTERACTIVE SONGS FOR PARENTS WITH THEIR LITTLES & IMAGINARY PLAY

FAMILY FUN FRIDAYS: GET THE WIGGLES OUT OF YOUR LITTLES WITH "IT'S A SMOOTH RODE TO LONDON TOWN" SONG

FAMILY FUN FRIDAYS: A FAMILY GRATITUDE PRACTICE, A CLASSIC STORY TO ENCOURAGE ALTRUISM, AND A LOVELY SONG

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When you are struggling with getting your kid to do what you want, are you quick to say "do it and you'll get a treat tonight?"

It seems so easy but we have learned that it is just  a temporary behavior bandaid.

In today's episode we discuss 

1. DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BRIBERY & REWARDS
2. 10 REASONS THEY DON'T WORK
3. HOW TO DO IT DIFFERENTLY

After learning the negative effects that bribes have on our kids we hope you are tempted to sway away from using this. It will only do a disservice to your little ones in their future.

Rewards should be natural or be planned ahead. Not used in the heat of them moment, that is when they become bribes.

Things such as basic human hygiene and health are vital and do not need to be rewarded. Please remember once the reward is removed the behavior usually is as well.

Bribes decrease our littles motivation and enthusiasm. It also robs them of the good feelings we get just from doing good deeds. Which will also lead to bratty behaviors. Nobody wants a bratty child!

Hopefully, your #1 takeaway is before that bribe slips out, just ZIP IT!

Some other great episodes to listen to are:

Ep. #62 HOW DO WE GET OUR LITTLES TO DO WHAT WE ASK OF THEM?
Ep. #56 “YOU BETTER BE GOOD, SANTA IS WATCHING!” WHY THREATS DON’T WORK AND WHAT YOU CAN SAY INSTEAD
Ep. #54 WORRIED YOUR PARENTING WILL “MESS UP YOUR KIDS”? HOW ACKNOWLEDGEMENT CAN HELP REPAIR THE DAMAGE

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SPRING IS SPRINGING!

GO OUTSIDE AND SEE WHAT SIGNS YOU CAN SEE! 

DO PUSSY WILLOWS GROW NEAR YOU?
Pussy Willows are the true harbinger of spring! 

POEMS
I Know a Little Pussy  ~ Traditional Nursery Rhyme 
Pussy Willow ~ by Aileen Fisher

BOOKS
Pussy Willows ~ by Margaret Wise Brown
Mother Goose Nursery Rhymes

ACTIVITY
FAMILY NATURE WALK - look for signs of spring in your area! How many different kinds of buds can you find? (If possible, if it’s not a nature reserve or someone’s yard lol) bring samples home. Feel the different buds - some might be sticky, some might be soft! Look with a magnifying glass! Do they have different scents? 

PUSSY WILLOW COTTON BALLS
You will need:  

• construction paper
• cotton balls (small pieces rolled into little balls)
• brown crayon or felt pen
• glue. 

Instructions: After finding some pussy willows in nature children can draw some bare branches on their paper. Then simply glue the small cotton balls up and down the branch. 

Episode referenced
Ep. #50 A MILLION REASONS TO TALK TO YOUR BABY 

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Happy Valentine's day, or as we say, Happy Heart Day!

In today's episode, we will discuss 14 ways we can express love in our family!

Have you heard about the different love languages?
#1: Words of affirmation
#2: Acts of service
#3: Gifts
#4: Quality time 
#5: Physical touch

The ways you express your love may be an indication of the love language you like to receive. 
We should also try to learn and understand the love languages of our partners and our children to be sure to fill their love buckets!

TUNE INTO TODAY'S EPISODE TO HEAR SOME FUN AND IMPORTANT WAYS WE CAN CONNECT AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER!

1.Spend time together having fun!

2.Eat meals together.

3.Smile and say it’s good to see you upon your return or theirs!

4.Say I love you. Often.

5.Leave little love notes.

6.Be generous with your hugs and gentle touch.

7.Listen attentively, practice being curious and interested

8.Have special day dates (episode number five “Funday dates“)

9.Surprise your loved ones with small gifts or cards – just because!

10.Limit your use of phones or devices. Practice being fully present.

11.Play board games together – once a week family nights!

12.Being an authoritative, nurturing, parent means having clarity of expectations and consistency, which allows family members to feel safe and love. In a an environment of that is safe and secure. Love is possible because love requires vulnerability. And vulnerability requires feeling safe.

13.Pitch in! Share household and family tasks together.

14.Create and practice, family traditions, something you can rely on, and enjoy every year, or every month, or every week even. They can be cultural, religious, or spiritual, or heritage-based traditions, or family traditions, that you create (like your family games night, for example)

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