The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit

By Remy Ramirez - Your Trauma Bestie™️Education Self-Improvement

The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit episodes

September 01 107 - Epilogue
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37 min
April 26 106 - Irish Goodbye
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27 min
April 11 105 - Decision Paralysis + Decision Fatigue - If making a choice is your personal hell, there's probably a lot more going on. Let's find solutions.
Most of us struggle with decisions to some degree, but for those of us who grew up in trauma, decisions can feel like life or death in adulthood. How do I know for a fact how this will turn out? What if people get mad at me? What if I make the wrong choice and everything falls apart? (Just a fun sh*t storm of anxiety!) In this episode, therapist Kiana Joyner joins me to talk about working through decision fatigue and decision paralysis—where it comes from, what it looks like, and how we heal.
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51 min
March 28 104 - That Self-Doubt Struggle - Low confidence, big shame, negative self-talk—let's switch it up, baby.
Self-doubt can plague us, especially when we come from trauma and abuse. We don't put ourselves out there for the jobs we want, the friendships we're drawn to, the crushes we have. It can be so frustrating (!!!!). But what if we could put some distance between us and that self-doubt? What if we could poke holes in the lies it tells us? What if we could learn more about what's behind it? Hop in, hunny, that's what this episode is all about.
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25 min
March 14 103 - Not Feeling Chosen - Feeling unwanted, unseen, or not valued in childhood is so painful—let's get you healing, hunny.

Not feeling chosen by your caregivers is such a painful experience that it gets tucked into our subconscious, where it thrives without us even knowing! It's just hanging out in the shadows of our minds, making (usually not great) decisions for us and making us feel sad as hell. In this episode, we get into the impact of not being chosen in childhood—how it shows up in relationships, why it can be so hard to know that's even true for us, and how we can start to heal.
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26 min
February 28 102 - Criticizing Your Body - Disordered eating, preoccupation about weight, anti-aging obsessions—how do we just feel good in our bodies?
Maybe we're constantly dieting or abstaining from eating, maybe we're obsessively counting calories or working out, maybe we're spending crazy amounts of money on anti-aging procedures or products, or maybe we're just looking in the mirror and talking mad sh*t to ourselves. In this episode, I welcome therapist Gina Gratza to the show to talk through what's at the core of criticizing our bodies (hint: it has nothing to do with our actual bodies), and how we can return to loving the bodies we're in.
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54 min
February 14 101 - How to Be Authentic - For a lot of us, authenticity isn't easy, but you CAN bounce back.
Everyone talks about authenticity, and there's even a lot of shame for not "being real." But when you come from abuse and/or emotionally immature parents, it's actually really complicated to know how to be authentic. People-pleasing, fawning, emotional shutdown, freeze, and other trauma responses (often results of CPTSD) prevent us from even knowing how we feel, much less being able to express it. In this episode, licensed therapist Carli Kilbourne joins the pod to talk about how we get back to what's true for US.
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53 min
January 31 100 - How to Know When People Are Safe - How do we know when to trust people? Let's dig in.
Unsafe people aren't going to walk up to you and tell you they're unsafe. But there are lots of signs if you know what to look for. Unfortunately, many of us had that internal alarm system groomed out of us as kids so that we could survive our unsafe parents and caregivers, and we literally don't know what to look for. Until now.
TW: This episode talks about acts of violence ICE has enacted on Americans.
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29 min
January 17 99 - Emotionally Immature Parents - Narcissism, refusal to apologize, selfishness, lack of empathy—these cut deep. Let's look at the impact and how we heal.
When we're taught that "love" is conditional on outside approval, when we're taught to fear authority rather than stand in our personal power, when we're expected to provide unwavering loyalty and praise, even at our own expense—we come into adulthood deeply emotionally debilitated. Emotionally immature parents and caregivers leave lasting wounds on their children—a fear of rejection and abandonment, fawning and people pleasing, a lack of boundaries and sense of agency, trouble with relationships and attachment, and maybe worst of all, a deep confusion about what love is. In this episode, associate counselor Taylor Pearl joins me to get into emotionally immature parents—the core traits, the impact, and the healing we need.
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1 hr 13 min
January 03 98 - Working with Depression - A depressive episode can take you tf out—let's look at the changes we can make to find peace of mind.
It's my first epi of 2026! And we're getting into depression. Depressive episodes are so painful. You might think you'll never bounce back, and even worse, you might feel like you have to hide how sad you are so people won't reject you. In this episode, I spill the tea on my Christmas depressive episode and get into what I USED to do, what I did differently this time, and what I learned in the process.
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36 min