The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace.

This episode covers:

-How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions

-5 ways to clear and protect your energy

-Discerning when to have the intense conversations

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• 30+ guided somatic practices
• 2 live calls a month
• Individualized coaching from Johanna

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In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic.

We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start soothing that part of you that expects love to be hard.

This conversation also touches on the difference between genuine connection and emotional intensity, and how to stay grounded when you want to run, overthink, or self-sabotage.

Enjoy this episode 🙏🏼.

Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey

Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡

• 30+ guided somatic practices
• 2 live calls a month
• Individualized coaching from Johanna

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DECEMBER IN THE MEMBERSHIP - Protect your Peace 🌹

In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love.

We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list.

This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control can pull us further from ourselves.

Enjoy!

Go Deeper:

Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡

• Over 30 guided somatic practices
• 2 live calls a month
• Individualized coaching from Johanna

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If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

• Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magnetic
• How to stop mistaking intensity for love
• Moving from shrinking into high standards for love
• What it really means to feel safe being chosen

Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡

• Over 30 guided somatic practices
• 2 live calls a month
• Individualized coaching from Johanna

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Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.

I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building the capacity to hold discomfort), and the subconscious layer (somatic practices and parts work).

DO THE INNER WORK

Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡

• Over 30 guided somatic practices
• 2 live calls a month
• Individualized from Johanna

learn more here 💐

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DECEMBER IN THE MEMBERSHIP - Protect your Peace 🌹

The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through a simple questioning process to dismantle unhelpful beliefs so you can move toward a kinder inner dialogue.

In this episode, you’ll:

• Discover how the inner critic is formed and why it speaks so harshly.
• Learn how projections influence your beliefs about yourself.
• Explore a practical questioning process to dissolve negative self-talk.

Go Deeper:

Join me in the Becoming Secure women's membership. Tools, teachings, and practices to do the inner work, and Heal Anxious Attachment 🧡

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Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves.

In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result.

You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.

Go deeper inside Becoming Secure. A high-touch Women's Group with live workshops and Q&A calls, somatic healing videos, accountability for your personal growth, and a place where you'll immediately remember that you're not the only one going through this 🧡

Join the Becoming Secure membership here. 7 Day Free Trial. Monthly subscription and cancel easily, anytime.

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Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.

By the end you'll

• Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in subtle, everyday behaviors.
• Learn what the “window of tolerance” is and why it’s essential for emotional and nervous system health.
• Discover practical tools to move from anxiety back into calm.

Resources Mentioned:

Join my Becoming Secure women's group for 30 Days of Somatic Practices, and monthly live workshops and coaching calls.

Connect with me on Instagram, I love receiving your messages 💖

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One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving.

This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on my own?”

Together, we explore:

• Neediness versus Needs
• When to meet your own needs and when to ask for your needs to be met
• Discovering your deeper emotional or relational needs
• How to reconnect to your needs through your body
• Core needs in the realms of intimacy, sex, safety, self-expression, and relationships
• The connection between your needs and your values

This episode also includes a somatic practice to help you tune in and feel your needs rather than just think about them. You’ll walk away with clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of connection to your inner world.

Resources Mentioned:

Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Type Are You?

Becoming Secure Community - Course + Community + Coaching

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In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships.

We’ll explore:

• Why high-functioning women resist support
• The somatic signs you’re in survival mode
• How childhood patterns shaped your ability to receive
• What it really takes to let love land

And if you’re ready to shift this not just in your mind, but in your body — join me for my upcoming live workshop: Held – Letting Love In. In the Becoming Secure Membership.

In the workshop we go deep into the somatic healing needed to turn off survival mode and turn on your capacity to receive.

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DECEMBER IN THE MEMBERSHIP - Protect your Peace 🌹