Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself.

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Here’s what we cover in this episode:

💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of rejection & abandonment on romantic holidays

📱 The IG highlight reel vs. reality (with real life examples)

🚫 Why Hollywood’s “grand gestures” & perfect Valentine’s fantasy are messing with your self-worth

✨ The shift from chasing love to becoming magnetic to it

💖 A guide to self-love rituals and choosing yourself first

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you feel more secure, grounded, and worthy—no external validation required. 💫

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What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don’t like where it’s going but don’t want to be rude? I feel isolated because don’t look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do? 

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In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. Whether you're healing anxious attachment, building self-trust, or creating healthier relationships, this conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟

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If you’ve ever felt stuck on your self-love journey or wondered why it doesn’t feel as deep as you’d hoped, this episode is for you. Discover the essential practices, inner and outer work, and mindset shifts that create a true, lasting sense of self-worth.

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You’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.

In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We’ll explore:

✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked

✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome

✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care

✔️ Why it’s so hard to ask for help or admit when you’re struggling

✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherishedYou’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.

In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We’ll explore:

✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked

✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome

✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care

✔️ Why it’s so hard to ask for help or admit when you’re struggling

✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherished

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Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment

✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away

✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing

✔️ Why prioritizing your healing is the ultimate investment in yourself

I also share real-life stories—from my own journey and clients I’ve worked with—about how anxious attachment patterns can drain your energy, time, and joy.

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Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering.

In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are.

Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life.

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-Getting your needs met in a healthy way

-A strong ability to stay in alignment

-Feeling safe in relationships

-Building dreams with partners without losing yourself

-Clear and peaceful with your energy

When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to calm your anxiety, heal from the past, stop self-sabotaging patterns, and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives from life, is magnetic to what you want, and feels whole within herself. 🎇

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Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness’ and the steps I took to move beyond it.

Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you.

This episode offers both insight and practical steps for healing, so you can move closer to feeling secure, whole, and worthy.

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What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡

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Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer.

I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type.

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Episode guide:

0:00 There are 4 different types of anxious attachment..

4:30 - 4 Archetypes Overview 

9:15 The Sensitive Soul 

12:06 The Calm & Collected Overthinker 

16:22 The Affection Enthusiast

19:09 The Distant Dreamer 

23:29 Summary of 4 Types 

24:15 Healing the Distorted Coping Mechanisms 

26:23 Refining Your Attachment Style 

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