I'm taking you behind the scenes of my own relationship and sharing the 5 things I noticed about my now-fiancé that told me - this one is different.

After years of dating avoidant men and convincing myself the anxiety was just chemistry, experiencing security for the first time was genuinely disorienting. I almost didn't trust it.

In this episode I cover the five signs that changed everything for me - from the way he showed up on day one, to the moment he was willing to walk away rather than pressure me, to what it finally felt like to be truly held in my emotions.

If you're not sure what you're looking for, or you keep finding yourself in the same cycles - this one is for you.

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We're getting into why dating triggers anxiety that shows up nowhere else in your life, and what your attachment system is actually doing when real feelings are involved.

If love is the one area where all your internal composure goes out the window, this one will help you understand why.

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You know you over-give. You know you find it hard to receive. You've probably known for a while.

So why hasn't anything changed?

In part 2, we get into what's actually keeping you stuck - and what it looks like to start softening without losing yourself.

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You handle everything. You've built a life that proves you don't need anyone.

So why does it still feel like nobody really sees you?

In this episode, we get into why the very thing that makes you so capable is the same thing keeping real intimacy out - and where it all started.

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• Live Q&A July 14th
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An episode about Internal Family Systems. The psychology framework to identify the different parts of ourselves and how they interplay (or sabotage) us.

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No one is born with anxious attachment style. So the short answer is yes, you can change your attachment to secure!

In this epsiode you'll learn:

•⁠ ⁠Why no one is born with anxious attachment, and what actually created yours

•⁠ ⁠How your mother's nervous system shaped yours before you even had words for it

•⁠ ⁠Why books, therapy, and podcasts haven't been enough, and what's missing from most healing approaches

•⁠ ⁠The difference between knowing better in your mind and your body actually catching up

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An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼.

We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating.

See in you in there!

GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢

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We're diving into the dynamic between anxious women and non-committal men, and how over-availability and trying to hold everything together can unintentionally create the very outcome you don’t want.

We also touch on why anxious tendencies attract avoidant partners, and what truly creates the space for a man to step forward, invest, and choose you.

See in you in there!

GO DEEPER

Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡

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In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships.

We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade.

We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why many men, in particular, value freedom as a way to feel safe and open.

See in you in there!

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One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter.

In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly.

Plus the specific codes that helped me personally reduce luteal phase irritability.

You'll learn what cycle syncing looks like if you're on birth control, and an intro to seed cycling as an easy hormonal support tool.

See in you in there!

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