If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

• Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magnetic
• How to stop mistaking intensity for love
• Moving from shrinking into high standards for love
• What it really means to feel safe being chosen

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Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.

I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building the capacity to hold discomfort), and the subconscious layer (somatic practices and parts work).

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The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through a simple questioning process to dismantle unhelpful beliefs so you can move toward a kinder inner dialogue.

In this episode, you’ll:

• Discover how the inner critic is formed and why it speaks so harshly.
• Learn how projections influence your beliefs about yourself.
• Explore a practical questioning process to dissolve negative self-talk.

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Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves.

In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result.

You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.

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Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.

By the end you'll

• Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in subtle, everyday behaviors.
• Learn what the “window of tolerance” is and why it’s essential for emotional and nervous system health.
• Discover practical tools to move from anxiety back into calm.

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One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving.

This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on my own?”

Together, we explore:

• Neediness versus Needs
• When to meet your own needs and when to ask for your needs to be met
• Discovering your deeper emotional or relational needs
• How to reconnect to your needs through your body
• Core needs in the realms of intimacy, sex, safety, self-expression, and relationships
• The connection between your needs and your values

This episode also includes a somatic practice to help you tune in and feel your needs rather than just think about them. You’ll walk away with clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of connection to your inner world.

Resources Mentioned:

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In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships.

We’ll explore:

• Why high-functioning women resist support
• The somatic signs you’re in survival mode
• How childhood patterns shaped your ability to receive
• What it really takes to let love land

And if you’re ready to shift this not just in your mind, but in your body — join me for my upcoming live workshop: Held – Letting Love In. In the Becoming Secure Membership.

In the workshop we go deep into the somatic healing needed to turn off survival mode and turn on your capacity to receive.

You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held.

In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership.

And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen.

You’ll hear:

• Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pure
• How emotional management erodes polarity and leads to mothering
• The kinds of men we attract when we’re performing vs. when we’re rooted in self
• And what to practice instead — so you stop chasing safety and start receiving love

If you’ve ever said “I did everything and he still pulled away, why wasn't I enough?” this episode is for you.

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You look like the woman who has it all together — grounded, reliable, composed.

But underneath? You’re feeling urgent, worried, and overthinking. Managing everything. And maybe quietly unraveling.

This episode is for the high-achieving, high-functioning woman who knows something feels off but can't break through on it.

We’re talking about the kind of anxiety that hides behind performing calm.

Inside, we’ll explore:

• What high-functioning anxiety really is — and how it hides in plain sight
• How emotional repression becomes self-abandonment
• The signs your body is waving the white flag (even if your mind won’t admit it)
• What your nervous system is actually craving
• Why healing requires more than just self-awareness

If you’ve been doing all the “right” things but still feel disconnected from yourself… this one will land.

Resources Mentioned:

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We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?

If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics with your mother or sister, using male friendships as emotional placeholders, and disappearing from your friends when a new love interest enters the picture.

Go beyond understanding your patterns and actually start healing them at the root, come join us inside my membership, Becoming Secure. You’ll get nervous system-based tools, somatic practices, and community support to help you feel safe, grounded, and secure in love and life.

⏱️ Timestamps

Note: These are approximate and meant to help listeners follow the flow.

00:00 – Intro & why this topic matters

02:15 – What anxious attachment in friendship actually looks like

05:50 – How to tell if you're over-functioning or emotionally over-relying on a friend

09:30 – The mother/sister dynamic in female friendships

13:20 – Male friendships as placeholders for father wounds

16:45 – The quiet pattern of abandoning your friends for romance

20:30 – Self-reflection and starting to shift these patterns

23:00 – Invitation to go deeper inside Becoming Secure