If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe.

For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small.

In this episode, I’m diving into:

• The difference between true guilt, false guilt, and shame
• How guilt shows up in anxious attachment
• How to heal unhelpful guilt responses on a nervous system level
• What it really looks like to forgive yourself and move forward

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After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.

We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth.

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Breakups are hard, but if you have an anxious attachment style, they can feel almost unbearable. In this episode, I’m diving into why breakups hit so hard for AA women, the weight of fresh grief, and how to move through it with clarity and self-honoring choices.

We’ll talk about the power emotional release, the importance of clear boundaries (especially when no contact might be the best option), and how to stay anchored in your truth—even when it feels impossible.

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It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal.

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Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot—comparison, overthinking, and that deep desire to be chosen. In this episode, we’re unpacking why V-Day feels so triggering for anxiously attached women and how to shift from chasing love to attracting it—starting with yourself.

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Here’s what we cover in this episode:

💔 How anxious attachment amplifies fears of rejection & abandonment on romantic holidays

📱 The IG highlight reel vs. reality (with real life examples)

🚫 Why Hollywood’s “grand gestures” & perfect Valentine’s fantasy are messing with your self-worth

✨ The shift from chasing love to becoming magnetic to it

💖 A guide to self-love rituals and choosing yourself first

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you feel more secure, grounded, and worthy—no external validation required. 💫

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What is a genuine need and what is me attempting to seek validation? How can I leave conversations when I don’t like where it’s going but don’t want to be rude? I feel isolated because don’t look to others for support, I feel safe when I maintain the control what do I do? 

During this episode I share answers to highly relatable questions from inside the Monthly Membership. Join for live calls, somatic practices, and to have me support you in your growth and healing process.

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In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. Whether you're healing anxious attachment, building self-trust, or creating healthier relationships, this conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟

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If you’ve ever felt stuck on your self-love journey or wondered why it doesn’t feel as deep as you’d hoped, this episode is for you. Discover the essential practices, inner and outer work, and mindset shifts that create a true, lasting sense of self-worth.

When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to calm your anxiety, heal from the past, stop self-sabotaging patterns, and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives from life, is magnetic to what you want, and feels whole within herself. 🎇

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You’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.

In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We’ll explore:

✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked

✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome

✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care

✔️ Why it’s so hard to ask for help or admit when you’re struggling

✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherishedYou’ve always been the one who gets it done—the problem solver, the caretaker, or highly self-reliant. But under that strong exterior, there’s a part of you that feels anxious, unseen, or unsure in your closest relationships.

In this episode, we’re diving into the paradox of being a strong, high-achieving woman with anxious attachment tendencies, and the desire to feel TRULY seen and rest into a man. We’ll explore:

✔️ Why does “the capable one” get overlooked

✔️ Which past experiences of self-reliance create barriers to intimacy, and how can they be overcome

✔️ How can women who are used to "holding it all together" can learn to receive love and care

✔️ Why it’s so hard to ask for help or admit when you’re struggling

✔️ Practical ways to create partnerships where both supported and cherished

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Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Archetype Are You I mentioned the Calm and Collected Overthinker and the main aligning fit for this topic.

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Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment

✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away

✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing

✔️ Why prioritizing your healing is the ultimate investment in yourself

I also share real-life stories—from my own journey and clients I’ve worked with—about how anxious attachment patterns can drain your energy, time, and joy.

When you join this women-only membership, you’ll discover how to calm your anxiety, heal from the past, stop self-sabotaging patterns, and become the Secure, confident, empowered version of you who receives from life, is magnetic to what you want, and feels whole within herself. 🎇

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