Healing Anxious Attachment

Anxious attachment isn’t just an emotional struggle—it impacts every area of your life. From the endless overthinking to strained relationships, staying stuck in anxiety comes at a price.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

✔️ The emotional toll of living with anxious attachment

✔️ How it damages relationships and pushes people away

✔️ The financial costs of quick fixes versus real healing

✔️ Why prioritizing your healing is the ultimate investment in yourself

I also share real-life stories—from my own journey and clients I’ve worked with—about how anxious attachment patterns can drain your energy, time, and joy.

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Creating boundaries that feel authentic, life-giving, and empowering.

In this episode, we explore how to set boundaries that reflect who you truly are.

Learn how to stop over-accommodating, start respecting your own limits, and find peace in boundaries that align with your life.

Also mentioned, the 5 Part, Master Your Boundaries Series, instant access within in the Becoming Secure membership.

Set yourself up for:

-Getting your needs met in a healthy way

-A strong ability to stay in alignment

-Feeling safe in relationships

-Building dreams with partners without losing yourself

-Clear and peaceful with your energy

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Your framework for uncovering and healing the core wounds that may be hidden deep within. I share my experience of facing a core wound of ‘wrongness’ and the steps I took to move beyond it.

Learn how to identify your own buried beliefs, understand how they impact your relationships, and self worth, and start releasing the patterns that no longer serve you.

This episode offers both insight and practical steps for healing, so you can move closer to feeling secure, whole, and worthy.

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What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡

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Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer.

I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type.

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Episode guide:

0:00 There are 4 different types of anxious attachment..

4:30 - 4 Archetypes Overview 

9:15 The Sensitive Soul 

12:06 The Calm & Collected Overthinker 

16:22 The Affection Enthusiast

19:09 The Distant Dreamer 

23:29 Summary of 4 Types 

24:15 Healing the Distorted Coping Mechanisms 

26:23 Refining Your Attachment Style 

26:57 Take the Quiz

Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️

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Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached.

In this episode I discuss:

-Trauma bonds

-Love versus attachment

-Choosing better men

...and more!

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Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control.

In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships.

You'll learn:

• How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physically
• How control in an anxious attachment tendency and how it pushes away relationships and signifies a lack of trust
• Signs of underlying control issues, like tight shoulders or clenched jaws
• The link between anxiety, overthinking, and the need for control
• Insights on releasing these patterns for a healthier, more balanced life
• Key understandings for letting go, surrendering, and creating space for trust, ease, and peace in your life

Resources mentioned:

Becoming Secure Membership: find the associated somatic and journalling healing exercises for control within (plus 30 other 15 minute practices for daily inner work) 🦢

Exploring the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to heal your inner child.

Resources Mentioned:

Guided Practice - Inner Child Healing: Instantly accessible within the Becoming Secure library. Month-to-month access, cancel anytime.

Anxious Attachment Quiz: Which Anxious Attachment Archetype are You?

Exploring the 7 types of mothers and how they affect your attachment system.

-Overprotective Mother

-Critical Mother

-Emotionally Unavailable Mother

-Enmeshed 'Best Friend' Mother

-Narcissistic/Addict Mother

-Supportive Mother

-Absent Mother

Associated Practices, Meditation and Journal Prompts can be found in Becoming Secure my community and library space to go deep on the inner work. I would love to have you in there ❤️