When did it happen?  When did your marriage’s trajectory head in the wrong direction?

Probably long before you thought, long before you could see it.  Almost always, it is a conscious and unconscious collusion between the spouses.  And it makes sense.  Life… you have to get back to it!

After all, you are now married, and your marriage is set up to successfully face life… or is it?

At some point, after lots of connection, you have faith in your relationship, faith in your love.  So, you hit the Pause Button.  You think you are putting your marriage into some “suspended animation,” so that you can get on with life — kids, careers, friends, hobbies, travel, etc.  You promise yourself(selves) that you will get back to the two of you again… at some point in the future (that often keeps creeping further into the future).

Until one day, you (and/or your spouse) find yourself(selves) staring at a near-stranger.  A roommate (or housemate).  You no longer recognize the relationship you have, and it certainly isn’t what you were looking for.

The pain of connection leads to anger, alienation, and resentment.  That cocktail leads to a spiral of disconnection.  It often accelerates until… separation, affair, or even divorce.

And it all began with a decision that made total sense… until it doesn’t work.

Is there a solution?

There IS!  I just released a new app, the Un-Pause App.  In the podcast, I tell you about the problem… and the solution.  Listen below.

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The Un-Pause App

The Save The Marriage System

Why Pause Is So Painful