The Poly (Pod)Cast

Our relationships are just a unique as we are. We're joined by best-selling author, Relationship Diversity advocate and host of the Relationship Diversity Podcast, Carrie Jeroslow, to discuss how to design our relationships to reflect who we are.

We talk about how to bring intentionality into intimate relationships by shedding the programming of what relationships 'should' look like and asking ourselves what we want. Carrie opens up about her journey in and out of non-monogamy and how she opened her marriage after years of monogamy.

Carrie tells us about the need to understand ourselves before we design our relationships, how to check-in with ourselves and our partners and how to discuss relationship orientation with kids.

First, Siobhan updates Rich on the Australia Census story (and it's a good update, yay) and Rich shares a recent article about kids growing up with polyamorous parents (also a positive story, double yay!)

You can find Carrie and all her offerings, including her podcast, at her website. She's the best-selling author of Why Do They Always Break Up With Me? You can also find Carrie on Instagram, Tik Tok and YouTube.

You can hear us on the Relationship Diversity Podcast, too.

Check out the Guardian Australia article Siobhan read from and the Psychology Today article Rich shared.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Today, we examine the complications and considerations relationships of more than two need to consider when combining finances, moving in together and having children.

We chat to Laura Boyle, creator of Ready for Polyamory and author of the recently released book 'Monogamy? In This Economy?' about how to navigate household budgets, how to know when to move in with your partners and metamours and how to deal with unplanned pregnancies.

First, Siobhan tells Rich about an Australian news story involving the next census and the erasure of Queer people.

A huge thanks to Laura for joining us on the show. You can find all of her work at the Ready For Polyamory website, including her new book, Monogamy? In This Economy? You can also check out Laura's polyamory glossary.

Read the TDA post we discuss in the intro.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, thepoly-podcast.com. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

It's our very first listener Q+A episode!

We've collated all the best questions we've got recently and put all the answers in one place. We chat about how to safely add a third to a relationship and the ethical considerations that go with it. We answer questions on transitioning to a long distance dynamic, how to deal with intense crushes and what meaningful media representation looks like.

To kick off, Rich shares a recent experience of being ghosted after coming out as poly to a prospective partner.

We really hope you enjoy this episode and encourage you to send us questions for the next one.

We mention a range of resources in this episode. The links for them are below:

Our episode on the Relationship Diversity Podcast

The Pineapple Express Podcast 

Non-Monogamy Media Guide 

Multiamory's RADAR 

Lola Pheonix's Long Distance NRE blog

Dr. Eli Sheff's article on Long Distance ENM Relationships

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Finally, a deep dive into jealousy.

We are joined by certified sexuality educator, best-selling author, Ted X speaker and host of the ‘Playing With Fire’ podcast Dr. Joli Hamilton. We chat about why feeling jealous can be a good thing, the differences between jealousy and envy and how to use jealousy to create erotic experiences.

First, Rich chats to Siobhan about an advert he saw on the London Underground and if it has any links to the non-monog community.

We can't thank Joli enough for joining us on the show. You can find Dr. Joli at her website and on her podcast. You can also check out her Jealousy Masterclass and her monthly salons and quiz.

And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category: 

1. Going to the voting page 

2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast' 

3. Scrolling till you find us

4. Entering your name and email address

5. Clicking 'Submit'

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Is non-monogamy Queer? Does it fit under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella? Does it even need a category at all?

We are joined by sound healer, coach, Queer mentor and host of the Queer and Poly Podcast Liana Griebsch to discuss where non-monogamy fits and why people feel the need to categorise it at all. We chat about the parallels between the Queer and non-monog experiences, the opportunities and limits of language and how to navigate the chronic 'boxing' of minority identities.

First, Rich and Siobhan reflect on the Week of Non-Monogamy Visibility.

A huge thanks to Liana for joining us on the show. You can find them and details about their services on Instagram. Check out the Queer and Poly podcast, too.

And, here is how you can vote for us in the British Podcast Awards Listeners' Choice category: 

1. Going to the voting page 

2. Typing in 'The Poly (Pod)Cast' 

3. Scrolling till you find us

4. Entering your name and email address

5. Clicking 'Submit'

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok,YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Happy Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy!

To discuss the first ever week of its kind we welcome back the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Organisation of Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy (OPEN) Brett Chamberlin. We discuss how the week came about, each of the day's themes and how each of us can get involved.

A huge thanks to Brett for coming on the show. You can find out more about the Non-Monogamy Week of Visibility and about OPEN. During our interview, Brett also mentioned OPEN's campaign on Facebook's AI Chatbots, the Centre for Intimacy Justice and the Woodhull Freedom Foundation.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

What is compersion? Should you feel compersion? Do you have to feel compersion when you're non-monogamous? Leading expert on compersion, Marie Thouin, joins us to talk about compersion, the different ways that it can be felt and some of the things that can help it and hinder it.

But first, Rich and Siobhan talk Foo Fighters, #Poly4Paly and online dating advice.

A massive thank you to Marie for joining us on the show and helping us grow some more brain cells. Check out Marie's website, her new book, 'What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships' and her compersion worksheet. You can also find her on Instagram.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Not friends, but not lovers? We discuss the grey colourful, often-dismissed area between platonic friendship and serious, romantic relationships.

We unpack the terminology we have for these relationships and how following binary thinking can severely limit the possible spectrum of relationships we might experience.

Get your Poly4Paly tickets. You can watch the video from Chill Polyamory about donating e-Sims if you need step-by-step directions. If you want to donate in other ways to support people in Gaza visit Operation Olive Branch, Doctors Without Borders, Anera, Medical Aid for Palestine and Action Aid.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

We are joined by Dr. Eli Sheff, the world's foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children.

In this episode, we discuss The Bonding Project, her endeavour to help people across the relationship spectrum learn more about how they bond. We took The Bonding Project tests and discuss our results with Dr. Eli, plus we get an update on her work studying polyamorous families.

But first, Siobhan tells Rich about an article that compares being single and being polyamorous.

We can't thank Dr. Eli enough for joining us on the show. Check out The Bonding Project, Dr. Eli's website and her blog on Psychology Today.

Complete OPEN's 2024 Non-Monogamy Community Survey and read The Conversation article.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].

Are all gay men non-monogamous? Do gay men want monogamy? Does non-monogamy feel compulsory in the Gay community? We put these questions and much more to the hosts of the Gayish podcast Mike Johnson and Kyle Getz.

We chat about the role non-monogamy plays in Gay dating, how it can be difficult to negotiate monogamy and if discrimination and homophobia led to Gay men being regarded as the 'pioneers' of non-monogamy in the Queer community.

First, Rich and Siobhan chat about how to answer a question commonly asked of non-monog folk, "What is the end goal of dating as a non-monog person?"

A huge thanks to Mike and Kyle for joining us on the show. Check out the Gayish podcast and their website. You can also follow them on Facebook, Instagram, X, Threads and YouTube. Check Gayish out on Discord.

Take the 2024 OPEN survey.

You can follow us on socials, @poly_podcast on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube and Threads. Find us at our website, the-poly-podcast.captivate.fm. Get in touch with us at our email address, [email protected].