In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny.

Topics Covered

* Coldplaygate: The viral moment that exposed Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and HR head Kristin Cabot on KissCam.

* Public vs. Private Affairs: Why some affairs explode into the public eye and what that means for those involved.

* Workplace Infidelity: Why so many affairs begin at work and the psychology behind it.

* The Clinton-Lewinsky Affair: A deep dive into the scandal, power dynamics, betrayal, and media frenzy.

* Esther Perel’s “State of Affairs”: How this book reframes infidelity and offers a path to healing.

* The Ethics of Enjoying Scandal: Grappling with the guilty pleasure of watching public drama unfold.

* Security Clearances & Infidelity: Can cheating disqualify you from high-level government roles?

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In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article.

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Today we are having a difficult conversation on Evolving Love. A conversation that puts the safety of our children in the spotlight.

To help us navigate this conversation, we have invited on child safety expert - Kristi McVee. Kristy was a Specialist Child Interviewer and Detective Senior Constable for 10 years in the Western Australian Police force.

Since leaving the police force, she has worked to provide parents, caregivers, and guardians with the education, tools and strategies they need to protect children from child sexual abuse and work towards a safer future for all kids.

Kristi has written a book entitled “Operation Kidsafe”, and hosts the podcast – “Conversations with Kristi”.

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Important Resources:

If you feel affected by this episode and the themes discussed, please do not hesitate to reach out to these great resources:

United States:

* Childhelp USA:

* Provides a national hotline, crisis intervention, information, and referrals.

* Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

* Website: childhelp.org

* The National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN):

* Offers confidential support for survivors of sexual violence.

* Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE

* Website: rainn.org

Australia:

* Bravehearts:

* Focuses on preventing child sexual assault and supporting survivors.

* Helpline: 1800 272 831

* Website: bravehearts.org.au

* Kids Helpline:

* A free, confidential 24/7 online and phone counseling service for young people aged 5 to 25.

* Helpline: 1800 55 1800

* Website: kidshelpline.com.au

England:

* NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children):

* Provides a helpline, online resources, and support services for children and adults concerned about child abuse.

* Helpline: 0808 800 5000

* Website: nspcc.org.uk

* Childline:

* A free, confidential helpline for children and young people.

* Helpline: 0800 1111

* Website: childline.org.uk

Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time.

This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by Deepa

This conversation is raw and wide ranging and we were so struck by the joy, vulnerability and honesty in this conversation.

In this episode we discuss Deepa’s conservative upbringing in the Phillipines, the move to Amsterdam and how she opened up her relationship, reflections on how she navigates discussing non-monogamy with her 12 year old daughter, the role Craigslist played in her story, powerful reflections on how her polyamorous relationship structure helped her through one of her hardest experiences and so much more.

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In today’s episode we deep dive the provocative question: Is monogamy boring? We discuss our own definitions of what a boring relationship looks like, erotic space and desire, the richness of shared non-monogamous experiences, is boredom a form of safety, our dream debate opponents and so much more.

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We explore the nuanced topic of consent violations within non-monogamous relationships. From the ethics of sharing intimate photos to the complexities of informed consent in the context of infidelity, this conversation invites Evolving Lovers to consider how trust, transparency, and communication are foundational to ethical non-monogamy.

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Today we sit down with photographer and academic Dr. Emma Phillips to explore the cultural, feminist, and personal dimensions of an activity that we hold close to our heart - the sexy selfie.

Emma is a photographer and researcher/lecturer in Visual Communication at the University of Canberra.

With twelve years of professional photography experience in Australian media, design, and advertising, and eight years teaching photography and visual communications across Melbourne, Sydney, and Canberra, Emma brings a wealth of expertise to her work.

In 2022 she completed her PhD at the University of Technology Sydney on the intersection of sexy-selfies with class, and has been a finalist in the prestigious Australian National Photographic Portrait Prize.

In today’s discussion we talk about the cultural hierarchy between selfies and self-portraits, why we are motivated to take sexy selfies, the role of the male-gaze, the role of validation, aesthetic bias and class judgements, sexy selfies as erotic communication, photographer/model power-dynamics, masculinity and the male-selfie, creating environments for artistic exploration, how selfies can help foster community and so much more.

Guest Links

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Emma’s Website

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In today’s episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it’s helpful, when it’s too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer” dynamic, we unpack how our differing communication styles have evolved over the years. We share examples like late-night pillow talks, wardrobe critiques, and the vasectomy sample drop-off, all while highlighting the importance of timing, tone and intention.

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Bookings for my Women’s Retreat in Yass, NSW, Australia from 17th-19th October 2025 are now open! (Currently running an Early Bird special!)

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Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all walks of life. From her private dungeon in Sydney to international settings, Fleur guides her clients through carefully crafted journeys of surrender, ritual, and self-discovery.

In this conversation we discuss healing through BDSM, sacred spanking, clients exploring sissification, high protocol scenes, how to use cling wrap in BDSM, masculinity and BDSM, Financial domination, being married and also being a sex worker, the visual aesthetics of BDSM, aftercare and mental health for Dominatrix’s, the state of sex work in Australia, the difference between decriminalisation and legalisation of sex work and so much more.

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In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet…

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