Hello! Today's episode is in light of a conversation I had with a young adult client around identifying as a procrastinator. He desires to be someone who takes action but feels like he is forever cursed at being a procrastinator. As I shared with him, in order to change his identifying thought of being a procrastinator, he needs to believe new and different things on purpose before he has evidence for them. Instead of I am a procrastinator, his overarching thought can be I am someone who takes action. This is counterintuitive but so important to understand. Our brains are pattern predicting machines and they will go about finding evidence for whatever we are believing to be true. WIth this knowing, we can be more intentional and thoughtful about what we are believing about ourselves so that we can create more of who we want to become. See you on the inside! x 

Hello! Today's episode was done on the fly based on an experience I had with my son Ben. It is a humble sharing of how I missed some big cues as a Mom, and how Ben gave me the opportunity to circle back and do better going forward. This walk as a Mom and as a human is a forever one, and as long as I am on this earth, I am committed to doing it as well as I possibly can knowing that there will be plenty of missteps along the way. Our young people are some of our greatest teachers, and I believe the more we deeply listen to them, the more we truly 'see' them, the more we can genuinely love them. As always, this podcast is about having the harder and deeper conversations about what it is to be a human and I cannot imagine a better community with whom to share the road. x

Hello! I think we would all like to know how how to feel better and human better. Here are 3 steps to help you in that process. Come join us in How To Human, our monthly online membership, to learn these tools and take these teachings to the next level! x

Hello! Welcome to Part II of Craig Brummell and me answering Arthur Aron's 36 questions. Since the questions are not run of the mill and require some vulnerability, thoughtfulness, and listening, we carved out a few hours to do the exercise from start to finish. It's perfect for a date night or Saturday morning coffee visit with your favorite person, a potentially favorite person, or someone with whom you care to know more deeply. Best of all? You'll both walk away better humans. x

Hello! So, today is Part I of 2 episodes where my husband, Craig, and I delve into Arthur Aron's 36 questions. We've been together 26 years and married 23 of those and we both walked away from this exchange with new insights about one another. Never underestimate the power of good questions, thoughtful speaking, and hardcore listening to create deeper connection in a relationship. It took us a little bit to get warmed up but we hit our stride and had a lot of fun. Enjoy! x 

As promised, here are the 36 questions shared in a New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html

Hello! Those of you in the midst of the fire of senior fall of high school, and those of you who have already walked the walk, this is for you! We are going to talk about some of the growth and learnings that come out of the 'dumpster fire' of senior fall, for both parents and young adults alike. See you on the inside! x

Hello everybody! Consider listening to this episode with that someone with whom you desire to know better and create a deeper connection. The art of good questions, and the sequencing of them, creates a greater closeness with another. Have some fun with this and report back. x

Hello! Welcome to today's conversation on boundaries, one of my favorite topics! We all know that healthy boundaries enhance our relationships, and the quality of our relationships enhance the quality of our lives. When and how do we set boundaries with our family, our friends, our partners, our colleagues, ourselves? The more clear we get on who we are, where our lines are, where we begin and end, and where another begins and ends, and loving and embracing the relational dance of it all, the more we sweeten what it is to human. See you on the inside. x

Hello Everybody! Welcome to today's episode on challenging relationships. As we are always doing in How To Human, we are shifting the focus off the other person and digging more into what is going on within us that might be perpetuating the struggle. How can we show up in any and all relationships from accountability and empowerment and less from control and judgment? Whether we stay or go is up to us but how we show up in the relationship is where our greatest power and growth resides. See you on the inside! x

Hello! Today's episode is around relational intelligence and why it matters. A foundational piece of relational intelligence is self awareness and when we grow this, we grow our relationships and enhance our lives. Because as Esther Perel says, the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. There's work to be done. Come join me on the inside to learn more. x