Gen Demo suggests we can use our ability to watch and size-up other people to improve our own happiness. We can learn to be an observer and scientist investigating our states of mind and seeing what experiences they lead to. She encourages us to really investigate how our way of thinking about things influences our experiences and then asking what if I thought differently? This perspective not only opens the door to self-improvement but also highlights the power of mindset in shaping our happiness. This extract is taken from a talk given by Gen Kelsang Demo Resident Teacher at KMC DC. It is based on the book How to Transform Your Life by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso.