It Starts With Attraction

The Pursuer/Withdrawer Cycle with Dr. Laurie Watson


Listen Later

Have a question you want answered? Submit it here!

Ever felt stuck in a toxic cycle of pursuit and withdrawal with your partner, leaving you feeling unheard, unwanted, or disconnected? This stirring conversation with esteemed sex therapist and licensed marriage & family therapist, Dr Laurie Watson will offer a refreshing perspective and actionable advice to help you navigate these rough patches. We unpack this complex dynamic that many relationships fall prey to, and discuss how it impacts both emotional and sexual connection.

We uncover how this pattern, often present in both romantic and sexual relationships, can lead to feelings of embarrassment, vulnerability, and shame. Our exploration into this cycle illuminates how it can affect women desiring more emotional connection while their partner tends to withdraw, leading to a disconnect that often seeps into their sexual relationship. We also shed light on the triggers that initiate this cycle and the profound impact it has on couples, making it difficult to identify and break.

However, it’s not all doom and gloom. Dr Laurie shares strategies to improve communication and connection, offering a beacon of hope. We look at how understanding our own survival mechanisms can affect our partners and potentially perpetuate the cycle. We also explore how to manage fears of sexual dysfunction and ways to foster flexibility in a sexual relationship. Finally, we emphasize the shared responsibility of both the pursuer and the withdrawer in breaking this cycle and fostering a healthier relationship. Trust us, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation with Dr Laurie Watson. Let's dive in!

Today's Guest: Dr. Laurie Watson

Laurie Watson, Phd, MA, LMFT, LCMHC, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor in Training, Co-Host of FOREPLAY Radio Couples & Sex Therapy Podcast, LMFT, Author, Director of Awakenings Counseling, Training in EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy (Externship and Core Skills; Completing Supervision).

She’s the co-host together with global leader in couple's therapy, George Faller, LMFT, of the popular podcast – FOREPLAY RADIO – Couples and Sex Therapy which is ranked in the top 10 sexuality podcasts in Sexuality. Laurie says, "Sex is one of the greatest adventures in a relationship. It makes us feel alive. It connects our minds, bodies and hearts. In fact, sexual and emotional intimacy are intertwined; we need both to be happy. With too little eroticism - our relationship is dull and with too little emotional connection - sex is mechanical. Most of us don’t know how to find this balance. And talking about our sexual needs is so risky. We might cause a conflict; we might be judged; we might not even know what o

Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com
📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes
👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

Follow our other channels!
📺 https://youtube.com/@UC7gCCAhhQvD3MBpKpI_4g6w
📺 https://youtube.com/@UCEOibktrLPG4ufxidR8I4UQ

...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

It Starts With AttractionBy Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement & Relationships

  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9

4.9

405 ratings


More shows like It Starts With Attraction

View all
The Save The Marriage Podcast by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

The Save The Marriage Podcast

397 Listeners

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

799 Listeners

Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce by Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Beam Holmes: Experts in Fixing Marriages & Saving Relationships

Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

491 Listeners

What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't by Rhoda Sommer on Relationships

What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't

275 Listeners

Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG by Anne Blythe, M.Ed.

Betrayal Trauma Recovery - BTR.ORG

1,389 Listeners

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans by Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman

EmPowered Couples with The Freemans

538 Listeners

Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity by Brad and Morgan Robinson

Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

745 Listeners

Dr. Wyatt Marriage Podcast by Dr. Wyatt Fisher

Dr. Wyatt Marriage Podcast

203 Listeners

LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS by Jessica Da Silva, LMFT

LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

264 Listeners

The Thais Gibson Podcast by Thais Gibson | YAP Media

The Thais Gibson Podcast

272 Listeners

The Toxic Relationship Detox by Dr Amen Kaur

The Toxic Relationship Detox

105 Listeners

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice by Dr. Morgan Anderson

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

1,100 Listeners

Heal from Infidelity by Andrea Giles

Heal from Infidelity

327 Listeners

Marriage Quick Tips: Affairs, Communication, Avoiding Divorce, and Saving Your Marriage by DR. JOE BEAM & KIMBERLY BEAM HOLMES: EXPERTS IN FIXING MARRIAGES & SAVING RELATIONSHIPS

Marriage Quick Tips: Affairs, Communication, Avoiding Divorce, and Saving Your Marriage

162 Listeners

The Mel Robbins Podcast by Mel Robbins

The Mel Robbins Podcast

20,790 Listeners

The Dr. Joe Show by Dr. Joe Beam

The Dr. Joe Show

9 Listeners

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast by Civility Media

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

7,545 Listeners