In this episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about long distance friendship: how to make friends when you move somewhere new, but also, how to maintain the friendships that are now separated by miles and miles and miles. Hayes invites one of her North Star besties Matt onto the show to discuss.

References:

Dear Noah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfAzhnguXBc

00:00 Cold open

00:42 Topic intro: Long-distance Friendships

2:23 Meet Matt

4:43 Our first impressions of each other

10:03 Be each other’s biggest fans

12:14 Making friends in a new city

16:43 Scoping people out on Instagram

18:25 The risk of rejection

21:50 How to go from self-pity to action 

23:30 20s vs 30s & NYC vs Chicago 

24:53 “Do I want to quit?”

26:26 Nostalgia vs regret

28:17 It’s OK to be sad

31:53 Hayes and NYC

33:07 Getting honest about our LDF 

35:40 “Is it my fault?”

36:25 Having trust in your friendships

38:00 Inside Out 2

40:10 What happened on Hayes’s birthday

43:00 The challenges of long distance friendship

47:00 It’s hard to say THIS

48:11 Feeling pressure to check-in

50:00 Team Voicemails 

54:00 A secret

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