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💥 What if 5 seconds could change your life?

This isn’t about dropping biscuits on the floor and pretending germs don’t exist 👀

Nope, we’re talking about Mel Robbins' The 5 Second Rule ….. the one that stops overthinking, boosts courage, and helps you make brave choices (even when you really don’t want to).

In this episode, I’m taking the 5 Second Rule and giving it a divorce twist …. because, let’s be real, navigating post-divorce life can feel like a never-ending f*cking blooper reel of cringe-worthy moments, regrets, and overthinking spirals.

So we’re looking at….
 ✔️ How the 5 Second Rule interrupts rumination (perfect for those "What if I'd done X differently?" moments)
 ✔️ How to shift from thinking to doing after divorce before fear has a chance to stop you
✔️ Why building micro-wins builds confidence and trust in yourself
✔️ Using 5 seconds of courage to set boundaries, stop stalking your ex, or write that dating profile

If you’ve ever stared at the ceiling at 2 a.m. replaying your marriage bloopers or procrastinated on reclaiming your life, this one’s for you.

✨ Think of this rule like a police escort for the traffic jam of crap in your brain, shouting "Outta the way, negative thoughts! We’ve got stuff to do!"

I hope you enjoy the episode, now 5-4-3-2-1 PLAY 🎧

And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to [email protected]

Can’t wait to hear how you used the 5 Second Rule ✨

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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P.S. Want to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem after divorce? Join The Divorce Book Club! February’s book is Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur, and trust me….it’s shaping up to be life-changing 

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💔 Why does it feel like they’re living their best life while you’re just trying to survive?

Divorce can feel like the ultimate injustice… especially if you’ve been betrayed. While your ex seems to move on with ease (and maybe even a smug grin), you’re left picking up the emotional, financial, and social pieces of a life you thought would last forever.

In this episode, we’re diving into the gut-punching unfairness of it all, from the gut-level rage of "It’s not fair!" to the emotional exhaustion of waiting for karma to show up. But here’s the hard truth: staying stuck in that injustice only hurts you, not them.

What you’ll hear in this episode:
 ✔️ Why divorce feels like someone threw out the rulebook…. and why that hurts so much
 ✔️ How the inner child’s sense of fairness amplifies the pain of betrayal (and how to soothe it)
 ✔️ Why waiting for karma is like watching a kettle boil without plugging it in
 ✔️ The concept of radical acceptance…. and how it’s NOT about approving their behaviour
 ✔️ How to stop obsessing over them and start focusing on your glow-up

Key Takeaways:

• Their moving on doesn’t mean they’re winning… it just means they’re distracted.
• Waiting for karma doesn’t heal your wounds; your own growth does.
• Just because they abandoned your values doesn’t mean you have to abandon them too.

This episode is perfect for you if:

✔ You’re stuck in the unfairness of betrayal and wondering why they seem to have it so easy
 ✔ You find yourself obsessing over karma or wishing for their downfall
 ✔ You’re ready to take back your power and start living for YOU

Can’t wait to see YOU moving on, unapologetic AF 🔥

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the podcast, email a screenshot to [email protected] and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖

Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club!

📚 This February, we’re diving into Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur… a life-changing guide to building your self-esteem, confidence, and sense of self. Perfect for a post-divorce glow-up!

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💡 "If it’s not serving you, hit unsubscribe."

Your inbox isn’t the only thing clogged with spam….your mind is too. 

From guilt and people-pleasing to outdated beliefs about what your post-divorce life should look like, you’re probably unconsciously “subscribed” to a whole load of mental junk you never actually signed up for.

So in this episode, we’re hitting ‘unsubscribe’ on everything keeping you stuck.

🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
 ✔️ Why your brain is like an inbox filled with spam (and how to declutter it)
 ✔️ The 4-Step Unsubscribing Framework to clear out guilt, toxic beliefs, and people-pleasing
✔️ The sneaky "marketing tricks" toxic thoughts use to keep you stuck… and how to break free
✔️ How to set up a VIP Inbox PLUS mental junk mail filters and a firewall to protect your peace

📱 DM me on Instagram @thedivorcechapter and tell me: What are YOU unsubscribing from this week?

This episode is perfect for you if:
 ✔ You’re tired of overthinking and want to break free from mental clutter
 ✔ You feel stuck in guilt, people-pleasing, or waiting for closure
 ✔ You need a fun, no-BS way to reclaim your energy and peace after divorce

🔥 Unsubscribe from what drains you. Subscribe to what sets you free.

And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to [email protected]

I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 

Can’t wait to see what you’re unsubscribing from 🚫

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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💡 “If you don’t believe you’re the person who can live your dream life, you’ll sabotage yourself every time.”

You’ve created the vision. You’ve started taking action. But here’s the kicker… if you still see yourself as the struggling, heartbroken version of you, you’ll keep making choices that pull you back into that identity.

So today, we’re going deeper. 

🔥 In this episode, I’m sharing:
 ✔️ Why your identity dictates your results—and how to shift it FAST
 ✔️ How to retrain your brain using Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule
 ✔️ Powerful Future You Practices (that work even if you feel stuck)
 ✔️ The No More Apologies Challenge—this one’s a game-changer
 ✔️ How to start BEING the person in your vision, right now.

🚀 By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to start BEING the person in your vision. No more waiting. No more wishing. Just stepping into HER right now.

You’ve got this….and I’ve got you 💪

And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a (preferably nice!) review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to [email protected]

I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 

Can’t wait to see all your dreams coming true 💭

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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P.S. Don’t forget, by using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month in the Divorce Book Club…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️

Check it out here ⬇️

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It’s January, it’s grey and cold, and if you’re anything like me, you’re on your third cup of tea before noon and wondering if it’s socially acceptable to hibernate until April. 

Post-Christmas blues, crap weather, and the lingering chaos of divorce…. it’s not exactly the vibe, is it?

BUT… (and there’s always a but)… there’s a way out of this dreary rut, and it starts with a choice.

You can wallow like a whale in a pity party for one (been there, babes). Or you can choose something better. Something that lights you up. Something that takes that gorgeous vision for your life and turns it into actual, real-life magic ✨

That’s what this week’s episode is all about: how to stop dreaming and start doing. I’m giving you a foolproof roadmap to turn your post-divorce vision into reality with the help of something fabulous: SMARTER goals and tiny, unsexy-but-powerful steps.

Here’s what’s inside:
 🎯 A fresh take on goal-setting—because "SMART goals" are so last decade dahling.
 💃 How to make your goals EXCITING (hint: it involves Beyoncé playlists and champagne-worthy rewards).
 🌱 Why tiny, wobbly steps are the secret sauce to massive life changes.
 🛠️ Keystone habits, habit stacking, and other hacks to build the life of your dreams.
 🔥 And, of course, a few Sarah-isms to make you laugh while you get inspired.

Because here’s the thing: You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. You just need to take one small, messy, beautiful step at a time. Wobbly toddlers learn to walk….and then run, love. And you will too.

You’ve got this….and I’ve got you 💪

And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a (preferably nice!) review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or tell me if you want both) and email all of this to [email protected]

I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 

Can’t wait to see all your dreams coming true 💭

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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P.S. I also mention in the episode the HUGE impact that this month’s book is having in the Divorce Book Club. The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins is beyond amazing as a simple tool to get your beautiful ass in gear…. AND using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️

Check it out here ⬇️

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Divorce is tough… there’s no sugar-coating it. 

But here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s also a chance to start over, to wipe the slate clean, and to create a life that feels unapologetically YOU.

This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, we’re diving into exactly that: how to create your next chapter after divorce….. a chapter filled with joy, purpose, and a vision that lights you up inside.

I know how hard it can be to figure out what you want when life feels like it’s been turned upside down. That’s why I’m sharing practical tools to help you dream big and start turning those dreams into reality.

✨ Here’s a sneak peek of what’s inside:

• How to use the “Perfect Day” exercise to map out your dream life.
• Why jealousy might actually be your best compass for discovering what you really want.
• How to stop giving a flying f*** about what other people think…. this is YOUR story, not theirs.
• The tools and tricks that helped me go from survival mode to living a life that feels right for ME.

Remember, you hold the pen in your hand. You get to write this next chapter exactly the way you want. And trust me, it’s going to be amazing.

Sending you so much love and big dreams,

Sarah x

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Wheel of Life template can be found here:

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The questions used in the episode to journal on: 

1. How would your best friend describe you?
2. Finish this sentence - I am happiest when…
3. What have you achieved that you are proud of?
4. What is unique about your personality?
5. When do you feel most confident?
6. What is your favourite thing to do to treat yourself?
7. What parts of your life are you happy with?
8. What traits do you admire in someone?
9. If you were going to go back to school, what would you study?
10. If you were in a library…. You remember those old school places you got proper books  - what section would you find yourself in?
11. Who are you most inspired by (that you personally know or figures from history)? What about them inspires you?
12. What virtues would you most want to increase in yourself? Why those ones?
13. What do you find the most beauty in? 
14. What are you most moved by?
15. What would you spend your time working on if you could succeed but no one would ever know that you did it?

And finally, don’t forget to 54321 come and join the Divorce Book Club for January where we are doing The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins, an inspirational life changing book.

AND using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Ah, Twixtmas. That magical time of year when no one knows what day it is, we’re all living off leftovers, and PJs become acceptable all-day attire. It’s my absolute favourite week…. but it’s also the time I left the ex-husband.

December 28th. A day etched in my memory. For me, it was a whirlwind of grief, anger, relief, and uncertainty. For him? I imagine it was completely different. 

And here’s the thing: that one day, that same event, was experienced completely differently by everyone involved…..me, the ex, and my kids.

That’s the thing about divorce…. it’s never one story. It’s a million stories told through different lenses. Your version, your ex’s version, your kids’ version, your family’s version... and none of them will ever be the same.

This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’m diving into why we all process divorce differently, how our unique lenses shape our experiences, and why it’s time to stop caring what others think.

In this episode, we’re exploring:

 ✨ Why your version of divorce is different from anyone else’s (and why that’s okay).
 ✨ How our experiences are shaped by the unique lenses we see life through…. our upbringing, beliefs, and relationships.
 ✨ Why you don’t need validation from anyone else for how you feel or the choices you’ve made.
 ✨ How to embrace YOUR story, YOUR way, as you start writing your next chapter.

This isn’t about replaying the past…. it’s about owning your narrative and stepping into your power. As we approach 2025, it’s time to give yourself permission to stop caring what anyone else thinks and create a future that’s true to YOU.

As we head into a new year, give yourself permission to let go of the pressure to explain, justify, or validate your choices. Your story, your journey, your truth. That’s all that matters.

Sending you strength, love, and leftover cheese this Twixtmas,
Sarah x

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P.S. This January in the Divorce Book Club, we’re kicking off the year with Mel Robbins’ The 5 Second Rule. It’s all about taking bold action and creating a life that works for YOU. 

And using the code JANUARYSALE you get it for only £5 for the first month.... yes only a fiver to change your goddamn life!!!

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It’s Santa Season again…. the season of tinsel, turkey, and to-do lists longer than a John Lewis queue on Christmas Eve. And if you’re anything like me, you’re probably feeling the energy drain kicking in already.

Because let’s face it… Christmas post-divorce is a lot. There’s the emotional rollercoaster, the endless logistics, the awkward family gatherings, and let’s not forget dodging those mood hoovers who suck the life out of you faster than a hoover plugged into a turbocharger.

But here’s the thing, Christmas doesn’t have to leave you feeling like a wrung-out dishcloth. This week on the podcast, I’m diving into how to manage your energy at Christmas… because protecting your peace isn’t just a nice idea, it’s absolutely essential this time of year.

🎧 In this episode, you’ll learn:

 🎄 How to budget your energy like cash in a bank (some interactions are not worth the withdrawal)
🎄 Hacks to deal with energy vampires/ mood hoovers….whether it’s the nosy aunt or the ex stirring drama.
🎄 Quick ways to recharge when you’re running on empty (no, you don’t need a week-long retreat)
🎄 How to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ strategically so you’re not spending Christmas stretched thinner than wrapping paper.

Plus, I’m sharing practical tips for managing the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that can creep in during the holidays. Think of it as your survival guide for keeping the season merry and not mentally exhausting.

Whether you’re dealing with chaotic schedules, nosy relatives, or just trying to make it through the holidays without a “menty B” (mental breakdown), I’ve got you covered.

Wishing you the best Christmas, whatever it looks like for you, and sending you SO much love,

Sarah x

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P.S. Oh, and because I know you’re putting everyone else first right now (don’t think I don’t see you 👀), a little reminder: this month’s Divorce Book Club pick is The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. Consider it my nudge to you…. this Christmas, you deserve to be at the top of that list. 

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Ah, Christmas. A time for joy, tinsel, turkey… and a little extra emotional chaos if you’re navigating the post-divorce version of Santa Season 🎅

Let me guess:

• The Ghost of Christmas Past is haunting you with memories of matching PJs, burnt turkeys, and that one year your ex bought you a hoover (romance is NOT dead, apparently).
• The Ghost of Christmas Present is waving a to-do list in your face that feels longer than Santa’s nice/naughty list.
• And the Ghost of Christmas Future? Well, let’s just say it’s got you wondering if your future Christmases will involve eating microwave dinners while binge-watching Love Actually.

Sound familiar? Don’t worry… you’re not alone.

This week on The Divorce Chapter, I’m channeling the iconic story of A Christmas Carol to help you navigate the ghosts of your own Christmases 👻

We’re covering:
 🎄 How to deal with the bittersweet (or just downright bitter) memories of holidays past (without getting stuck there).
 🎄 Finding joy in the chaos of the present... whether that’s new traditions, bad Christmas jumpers, or eating all the Quality Street yourself.
 🎄 Reclaiming your future Christmases and designing them the way you want.... tinsel optional.

It’s like Scrooge, but with fewer miserly men and more empowering tips for thriving through the divorce sh*tshow.

And because we’re all about self-care over here, don’t forget this month’s Divorce Book Club pick: The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. It’s perfect for anyone who’s tired of being at the bottom of their own priority list—because let’s face it, YOU deserve to be at the top this Christmas. 🎁  Link below ⬇️

Sending you love, strength, and maybe an extra mince pie,

Sarah x

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Yep, it’s that time of year…. The smell of cinnamon everywhere, matching PJs (even on the dog) and Mariah on f*cking repeat…. but if you’re navigating Christmas post-divorce, it can feel more f*ck f*ck f*ck than ho ho ho. 

I get it. 

Whether it’s the thought of solo family get togethers, lonely nights, or new traditions, this season hits different. But here’s the thing…. different doesn’t have to mean bad. In fact, it could be the start of something better.

In this episode, I’m spilling all the tea on how to survive…. and even thrive….. This Christmas. 

We’re talking:
 🎄 Setting boundaries with nosy family members (without losing your cool)
 🎁 Creating magical moments for your kids (even on a tight schedule or budget)
 ✨ Tackling loneliness with humour, self-care, and a sprinkle of sass
 🍪 Starting quirky new traditions—because you’re now the CEO of your Christmas

If the thought of decking the halls feels overwhelming, don’t worry….I’ve got you covered. 

You’ll laugh, you’ll nod, and by the end, you’ll feel ready to tackle the holidays on your terms. Spoiler: It’s totally okay if your Christmas involves pizza, PJs, and a movie marathon.

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it 💖

Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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P.S. Don’t forget to check out December’s Divorce Book Club pick: The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. It’s all about letting go of frazzle and making time for you ... perfect for surviving this Santa season. We started 1 December but it’s never too late to catch up because all the back catalogue is there for all members ⬇️