The Reinvention Era

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In the spirit of “Santa Season,” this episode looks at one of the most frustrating, nerve-shredding parts of divorce: trying to communicate with the ex. Yep, the person you once shared years of conversations and traditions with now feels like a complete stranger….or worse, someone who couldn’t give a sh*t about you.

And then Christmas comes along, with its extra sprinkling of chaos: holiday schedules, kids’ presents, money issues, and endless logistics. It’s a minefield wrapped in tinsel, isn’t it? But don’t worry….I’ve got you covered.

This week, I’m sharing real, practical strategies to help you manage the “new normal” of ex-communication, especially when emotions are running high. We’ll talk about:

• The car scream
• Finding healthy outlets for your emotions
• Written communication tips
• Handling narcissistic exes
• Using tone and humour

If you’ve ever wondered how to get through this holiday season without throwing tinsel (or a tin of Quality Street) at their head, this episode is for you. 

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it 💖

Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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P.S. Don’t forget to check out December’s Divorce Book Club pick: The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. It’s all about letting go of frazzle and making time for you ... perfect for surviving this season.

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We start 1 December ⬇️

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Are you ready to ditch the numbing traps and face the emotional rollercoaster of divorce like an absolute boss? 

In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re going into the concept of emotional sobriety….aka your new divorce superpower.  

✨ We start with a sprinkle of inspiration from Wicked in honour of the movie coming out in the UK, because, yes, even Elphaba has lessons to teach us about resilience, truth, and rising above the BS (hello, narcissistic wizards 👀). And who doesn’t need a little “Defying Gravity” energy in their life?  

Then we get real about the traps we fall into post-divorce….wine o’clock, emotional eating, doom scrolling, and retail therapy, anyone? 🙋‍♀️ 

But unfortunately numbing out doesn’t heal the pain….it just presses pause. So, how do we stop?  

I’m breaking down the practical steps for emotional sobriety that will help you feel ALL the feels, process them, and come out stronger on the other side. 

PLUS, I’ve got tips to survive Santa season 🎅 a time when emotions can hit harder than a tin of Quality Street to the face.  

If you’ve ever turned to wine, TikTok, or Maltesers to numb the pain (no shade, we’ve all been there), this episode is for you. 

Emotional sobriety isn’t easy, but it’s the ultimate glow-up tool for moving forward after divorce.  

Let’s rebuild, one healthy step at a time. You’ve got this, my love. 💛

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. 💖

Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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P.S. For December in the book club, we’re doing a self-care book. I know that Christmas might feel super f*cking tough…. Especially if it’s your first one after divorce. 

So this book looks to be a good one…. Especially as its tagline is ‘how to let go of frazzle and make time for you’. Which we all need in Santa Season right?! 

You can check it out here:  

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1409177580/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

If you have any questions about the book club do let me know, and in the meantime I’ll leave the link here ⬇️

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Divorce can feel like a battlefield, but nothing cuts deeper than when an ex manipulates your own children to turn them against you.

In this follow-up episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re tackling one of the most painful and complex issues in high-conflict divorces—when your ex uses your own children as weapons. 

Last week, we talked about exes who manipulate family and friends. This week, we’re diving deep into the heartbreaking reality of parental alienation.

Parental alienation is when one parent manipulates the children into rejecting, distrusting, or emotionally distancing themselves from the other parent. 

This episode breaks down what parental alienation looks like, the emotional damage it causes, and how to navigate the devastating toll it takes on you and your relationship with your kids—whether they’re young children or adults.

I share insights on:

🚸Recognising subtle and overt manipulation tactics that your ex might use to create loyalty conflicts.

🚸How younger children and adult children experience and internalise alienation differently, and how each age group may react.

🚸Practical strategies for rebuilding trust with your children, staying consistent in your love, and finding ways to counteract the alienation.

If you’re dealing with an ex who’s working to turn your own children against you, this episode is a must have for crucial advice on protecting your relationship with your kids, and most importantly, maintaining your own mental and emotional health. 

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. 💖

Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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P.S. If you want all the deets on the Divorce Book Club and how it can help supercharge your healing from heartbreak, check it out here ⬇️

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Welcome back to The Divorce Chapter where we rewrite the divorce plot twist ✍️ 

In this episode, we’re tackling something that can make divorce feel like a never-ending battle….when your ex tries to turn family, friends, and mutual acquaintances against you. 

Divorce is hard enough, but dealing with an ex who manipulates those around you takes it to a whole new level. This episode is all about understanding these toxic tactics and finding ways to protect yourself.

We’ll cover:

- Flying Monkeys: Just like in The Wizard of Oz, these are people your ex recruits to spread misinformation, manipulate, or guilt-trip you, often without knowing the full picture.

- Triangulation: How your ex might play people off each other, creating sides to keep you isolated and confused.

- How to Spot the Tactics: Recognising when family or friends suddenly become distant, share personal details they shouldn’t know, or start relaying your ex’s narrative.

- Steps to Protect Yourself: From setting boundaries and documenting everything to emotionally detaching from the drama, I share practical strategies to regain your peace and strength.

If you’re facing an ex who’s manipulating the people around you, this episode will help you recognise these tactics, protect your mental health, and take back your power.

And next week, we’re diving into Part 2 on managing things when your ex turns the kids against you. Don’t miss it!

I hope the episode is useful for you.

And whilst we’re talking empowerment we’re a couple of chapters in to November’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green 💚

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour. 

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I bloody love it so far!

I’d love to have you join us for this one. It’s never too late to join as all the back catalogue of episodes are available to all members 📚

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Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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Hello Queen 👑

Have you ever found yourself obsessing over someone? 

You’re not alone. 

This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’m diving into a topic that many of us have experienced but may not fully understand: limerence.

Limerence is that intense, almost obsessive desire for someone, often built on fantasy rather than reality, and it can seriously mess with your emotional healing after a divorce.

In this episode, I break down:

- What limerence is and how it differs from love. Spoiler alert: it’s not love; it’s obsession

- How limerence shows up after divorce.

- Why we get stuck in these patterns.

- 9 steps to break free from limerence.

If you’re struggling to move on from an ex or find yourself idealising someone new, this episode will help you understand why—and give you the tools to start healing. 

These are the links to my references in the episode

Love and Limerence by OG Dorothy Tennov:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0812862864/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Dr L/ Dr Tom Bellamy’s website and book Living with Limerence:

https://livingwithlimerence.com/what-is-limerence/

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B085RN5XGS/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

And whilst we’re talking empowerment through the shitshow, we’ve chosen November’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green 💚

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour. 

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I CAN”T WAIT!

I’d love to have you join us for this one 📚

We start on 1 November 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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Hello and welcome to this week’s episode where I’m super delighted to introduce you to Amanda Bell. 

Amanda is a divorce lawyer by background, and with her co-founder Victoria, has created an AMAZING, affordable platform designed to help you navigate the entire divorce process with confidence and clarity. Whether you’re facing legal challenges, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, or trying to get a handle on your finances, Separate Space offers expert guidance every step of the way.

You can check out Separate Space website here: https://www.separatespace.co.uk/

And their Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/separatespace/

In the episode we go into:

- The concept behind Separate Space: an accessible tool designed to empower individuals with the information and resources they need to navigate divorce.

- Why divorce impacts every part of your life, not just the legal side, and how the Separate Space platform helps manage both the emotional and practical aspects of the process.

- How Separate Space offers a personalised pathway for your unique divorce journey, helping you handle everything from financial planning to co-parenting dynamics, even if you can’t afford one-to-one legal advice right now.

- The importance of understanding your financial situation, why pensions matter, and how to protect yourself legally during a separation.

- Amanda's advice for anyone facing a sudden or complex divorce: get informed, take control, and don’t rush into decisions without understanding the long-term impact.

I honestly can’t recommend this platform enough - I WISH I’d had something like this…. It really is a torch in the divorce shitstorm 🔦

Check out the episode to hear all about Separate Space and how this may help you 🩷

And whilst we’re talking empowerment through the shitshow, we’ve chosen November’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green 💚

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour. 

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I CAN”T WAIT!

I’d love to have you join us for this one 📚

We start on 1 November 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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In this episode, I’m unpacking what a trauma bond is, how they form, and—most importantly—how you can break free from one. 

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship where you know it’s bad for you but you just can’t seem to let go, this episode is for you. Trauma bonds are emotional ties that form in abusive relationships, keeping you hooked even when you know it’s hurting you.

We’re going to talk about:

- What a trauma bond actually is (think emotional addiction).

- How they develop through a cycle of abuse and reconciliation.

- Why breaking free is SO hard, but also absolutely necessary.

I’ll walk you through seven steps to start untangling yourself from a trauma bond, from creating physical and emotional distance, to rebuilding your self-worth, and even rewiring your brain to break the addictive cycle. We’ll also touch on how to grieve the loss of the relationship, and why sometimes we need professional help to get through it.

If you’ve been struggling to let go of a toxic ex, this is your episode. I promise, you’re not alone, and with the right tools and mindset, you can move on and reclaim your life.

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. 💖

Until next week please take care of you, and sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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In honour of World Mental Health Day on 10 October 2024 and the theme of:

 “It is time to prioritise mental health in the workplace”

In this week’s episode, we’re looking at a topic that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: how divorce can impact your work and career.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re expected to just "keep going" at work while dealing with the emotional shitshow of a breakup, you’re not alone.

In this episode, I talk about:

👩‍💼Why divorce grief should NOT be so absent from compassionate leave policies

👩‍💼How to manage your mental health during and after divorce while still holding down a job

👩‍💼The long-term effects divorce can have on your career—and how to overcome them

👩‍💼How divorce can actually be a catalyst for career reinvention too

We all know that divorce is tough enough on its own without the added pressure of having to show up and perform at work as if everything is fine. 

I share my personal experience and some practical tips on how to cope with the emotional fallout of divorce, especially when you’re expected to “push through” at work. 

If you’ve ever wondered how to set boundaries, ask for support, or use this life-changing event as an opportunity for professional growth, this episode is for you!

I’d love to hear what you think….. If you find the episode helpful, it would mean the world to me if you left a review or shared it with someone who might need it. 💖

Take care of yourself, and remember—your mental health comes first.

And whilst we’re all about becoming even more badass…. We’ve started October’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

I’d love to have you join us 📚

We started on 1 October but it’s NEVER too late to join as the whole back catalogue is available for all members 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑  sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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If you’ve ever felt lost, wondering “Who am I now?” after your marriage ended, trust me…you’re not alone. Let’s be real: divorce can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling like we’ve lost sight of who we truly are. We spend years filling roles like ‘wife,’ ‘mother,’ or even ‘perfect partner,’ and often forget the badass woman we once were.

But here’s the good news: divorce is your chance to reinvent yourself, and in this episode, I’m diving deep into exactly how to do that.

We explore how to shed the labels that no longer serve you and embrace the most empowered, authentic version of yourself. I’m talking about stepping into your new identity with confidence and fierceness, like Beyoncé stepping into Sasha Fierce 🔥

I’ll guide you through visualising the highest version of yourself, creating your very own alter ego to embody that badass queen inside you, and showing up as her in every aspect of your life. This is about more than just "moving on"...it’s about reclaiming your power, rewriting your narrative, and building a future that excites you.

So buckle up, and let’s learn to be it until you see it, transforming your post-divorce life into the best chapter yet.

And whilst we’re all about becoming even more badass…. We’ve started October’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

I’d love to have you join us. We started on 4 October but it’s NEVER too late to join as the whole back catalogue is available for all members 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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In this week’s episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the ‘silent’ betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so. 

I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into something more significant, ultimately crossing boundaries of trust and intimacy. We’ll discuss the signs of an emotional affair, the betrayal it represents, and the lasting impact it can have.

But most importantly, I focus on how we can heal after discovering an emotional affair. If you’ve walked away from a cheating partner, I share tools for validating your emotions, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating a new future. Whether it’s self-compassion, setting boundaries, or finding closure within yourself, healing is possible—and I’m here to guide you through the process. 

Let’s talk about reclaiming your power, because you deserve better 👑

And whilst we’re all about turning divorce into our superpower…. We’ve chosen October’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Feel Better: 4 Steps to Self-Coach your way to a Happier, more Authentic Life, by Ruth Kudzi.

You can check out the book here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1801292582/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Ruth is an amazing Coach who I’ve met and she just has SO Much knowledge ❤️

I’d love to have you join us 📚

We start on 1 October.

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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