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In this week’s episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I had a fantastic conversation with Elisa Lindstrom, a decluttering expert and founder of "Dear Loves Just Breathe."

In our discussion, Elisa shares her personal journey, where she began her own decluttering journey amidst a challenging divorce. 

Elisa's insights into the emotional and practical aspects of decluttering are invaluable, especially for those navigating a difficult divorce.

Key Highlights:

- The emotional challenges of decluttering during a divorce.

- Practical tips on what to declutter (and what not to).

- Handling emotionally charged items like wedding photos and gifts.

- Creating a peaceful and intentional home environment post-divorce.

- Information on Elisa’s decluttering programs.

Elisa emphasizes the importance of intentionally creating a home that feels safe and full of love, which is essential during and after a divorce. Her advice is not just about organising your space but also about finding peace and reconnecting with yourself.

Don’t forget to check out her website too for more information on her decluttering programmes.

www.dearlovesjustbreathe.com

The book Elisa mentions in the episode too is:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0809225379/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I hope you enjoy the episode - and if you do, please share it with someone who might benefit from it ❤️

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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In this empowering episode, we go deep into the concepts of self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and explore how they are crucial in overcoming codependency, especially in the aftermath of divorce.

We cover:

💗The Fabergé Egg Analogy: Learn how to recognise and protect your unique value.

💗Understanding Key Concepts: Differentiate between self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and understand their importance in your healing journey.

💗Breaking Free from Codependency: Discover practical steps to reclaim your self and set healthy boundaries.

This episode is all about helping you to see your value, practice self-care, and embrace self-love as you navigate life post-divorce. 

And most of all, help you find that fuck YES energy to turn the divorce plot twist into happy ever after 💪

Thank you for listening to the episode…. If you enjoy it, I’d love it if you’d leave a review and/or share the show with someone you think it would help 🥰

I want everyone to find themselves again (especially given each of us are 1 in 400 trillion 🤷🏽‍♀️)

Loads of Love 

Sarah x

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P.S. We started a new book in the Divorce Book Club this week but you’re never too late to join. 

How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst…. 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

If you fancy joining us, check it out here ⬇️ 

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In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I dive deep into the often overlooked and insidious issue of financial abuse. 

I share my own experience of being financially controlled and manipulated by my ex-husband and discuss how financial abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or economic status. 

You’ll hear about the various forms it can take, from controlling access to money and sabotaging employment to accumulating debt in someone else’s name.

I delve into the warning signs to watch for, the profound impact it can have on victims, and the steps you can take to protect yourself or someone you know. 

Whether you’re currently experiencing financial abuse, suspect it might be happening, or simply want to be informed, this episode is packed with valuable insights and resources.

Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

Turn2us is a national charity offering information and practical support to people facing financial insecurity. 

https://www.turn2us.org.uk/

Tune in to understand how financial abuse works, how to recognise it, and most importantly, how to protect yourself and seek help. 

This episode is a must-listen for anyone wanting to learn more about this critical issue and how to safeguard against it.

PLEASE reach out if you need support 🌸

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

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P.S. For more on moving on a creating our new chapter, we have chosen July’s book over in the Divorce Book Club; it’s How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst; you can check it out here - 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 July.

Link to join below ⬇️

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On this week’s episode we have the amazing Legally Nik as our wonderful first ever guest on the Divorce Chapter pod.

Nik is a trained family lawyer specialising in child protection and she also is a co-parenting, counter- parenting mentor. Bridging the gap between the law and real life, Nik provides not only legal guidance to your personal matters, but equips you with strategies and coping mechanisms to get through what can only be described as, one of the most painful points of your life. Nik is a mum herself and is just an utterly fabulous human doing fantastic work and I utterly LOVED recording this episode with her.

There are so many takeaways in the episode:

• Explaining co-parenting, counter-parenting and parallel parenting.
• Managing the parenting relationship with a difficult ex.
• Different family dynamics.
• Dealing with litigation abuse.
• Putting children first.
• The importance of compartmentalising our pain.

And so much more.

I hope you enjoy listening to the episode as much as I enjoyed recording it.

(And if you do, I’d love it if you could rate and review the episode 🫶)

You can find Nik here - 

www.legallynik.co.uk

instagram.com/legallynik/

Enjoy 🩷

Sending you SO much love

Sarah x

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P.S. We have chosen July’s book over in the Divorce Book Club; it’s How to Do You by Jacqueline Hurst; you can check it out here - 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B098GSZ11T/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚Link to join below ⬇️

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This week’s episode looks at the controversy and scandal of infidelity through the lens of the Ashley Madison documentary now streaming on Netflix (*spoiler alert for those who haven’t yet watched it*) (There is also a trigger warning for suicide)

As someone who has navigated the painful path of betrayal and divorce, I watched this documentary with both caution and curiosity.

In the episode I delve into the murky waters of the dating site designed specifically for married individuals seeking affairs; from the alarming marketing strategies to the fallout of the infamous 2015 hack.

I discuss stories of individuals shown in the documentary who were affected by the hack, including the superficial portrayal of forgiveness and reconciliation (not to mention some religious hypocrisy). 

I also talk about the heart-breaking consequences faced by the real victims—the betrayed spouses, which in my view was the part the documentary failed to meaningfully cover. 

There was a lot of focus in the documentary on the impact of the hack as opposed to the impact of the betrayal, and I cover this and more in this episode… 

...as well as the discovery of a potential link with my own ex-husband.

Do let me know what you thought of the documentary (and the episode) 

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

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In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, we talk through an overview of the hugely impactful book "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life" by Tracy Schorn, aka Chump Lady. 

You can find the book here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0762458968/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This book was highlighted in the Divorce Book Club in May and is an utterly invaluable resource for those dealing with infidelity.

What You'll Learn:

📚 Key Terms & Concepts: Understand the language of betrayal with terms like "chumps" and "cheaters" that help frame your experience more objectively.

📚 It's Not Your Fault: Discover why being cheated on is never your fault and how to reclaim your self-worth.

📚 Cheater Tactics: Learn about the manipulative behaviors cheaters use and how to see through their deceit.

📚 Avoid Common Rookie Mistakes: Get super practical advice on avoiding common pitfalls when dealing with infidelity.

📚 Reclaim Your Life: Tips and strategies for moving forward and rebuilding your life authentically.

Tracy Schorn's no-nonsense approach and empowering messages are exactly what we need to hear as we navigate this challenging chapter of our lives. This episode is packed with insights from the book that will help you transform your heartbreak into strength and set you on the path to your new happy-ever-after.

If you found the episode useful, please do come over and join us in The Divorce Book Club. 

This month, we're reading "The Art of Being Alone" by Renuka Gavrani. It's never too late to join, and you'll have access to all our past book discussions and resources.

You can find the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C5L2384H/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

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In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked topic of pets during separation and divorce. I share my personal experience with my beloved chocolate lab, Jexi, and discuss the emotional and legal challenges that pets face in the midst of marital breakdowns. We dive into the importance of pets in our lives, the concept of a "pet-nup," and practical tips for ensuring the well-being of our furry friends during such transitions. 

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and stories. If you have any pet-related divorce experiences, please do share them with me over on Instagram @thedivorcechapter

And a quick reminder, our Divorce Book Club is starting a new book for June, "The Art of Being Alone" by Renuka Gavrani. 

Check it out here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C5L2384H/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

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P.S. I’m dedicating this episode to my gorgeous Jexi. He may be gone, but he’ll never be forgotten. 🐾💕

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In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest mindfucks of divorce—cognitive dissonance. If you've ever struggled to reconcile the person you married with the person you're now divorcing, this episode is for you. We explore why this psychological phenomenon occurs, how it impacts your healing process, and practical steps you can take to move forward.

Key Highlights:

🌸 What cognitive dissonance is and how it manifests in everyday life.

🌸 The unique challenges of dealing with cognitive dissonance in the context of infidelity.

🌸 Steps to rebuild your self-trust and show yourself compassion during this difficult time.

🌸 Why letting go of the need to understand your ex's actions is crucial for your healing.

Please do share the episode on Instagram if you’ve found it helpful and tag me in it

https://instagram.com/thedivorcechapter

Also, in the episode, I mentioned that in the Divorce Book Club for June, we are doing the book ‘The Art of Being Alone’ by Renuka Gavrani

Check it out here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0C5L2384H/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Until next time, sending you loads of love

Sarah x

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In this week's episode of "The Divorce Chapter," we're exploring a topic that might pique your curiosity (or else bring out your dubious side) and that is "woo woo" practices and their potential to guide us through the complexities of divorce recovery.

You might be wondering, what exactly is "woo woo"? It's a term used to describe unconventional beliefs often dismissed as pseudoscience. But here's the twist – many of these practices are gaining recognition for their therapeutic benefits, backed by scientific research.

I talk about a book in the episode by David R Hamilton PhD - why woo woo works which you can find here: 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09F25GTHK/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

From meditation to the Law of Attraction, Feng Shui to crystal healing, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping, we're delving into how these unconventional methods might, just might, give us extra options for healing through an unwanted divorce.

Join us as we explore:

1. Meditation: Cultivating mindfulness to find peace in the present moment.

I recommend the insight timer app for guided meditations - 

https://insighttimer.com/en-gb

2. Law of Attraction: Shifting perspectives for positive change.

The book I mention by Noor Hibbert 

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/147369275X/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

3. Feng Shui: Harmonizing your home and heart for emotional healing.

Feng Shui Flow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefengshuiflow/

4. Crystals: Harnessing Earth's natural energy for strength and resilience.

Canny Crystals on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannycrystals/

5. EFT Tapping: Releasing emotional blockages and restoring balance.

Brad Yates on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHZMZejDS4RIxDdBwoie9A

Whether you're woo dubious or woo curious, there's something for everyone in this episode. As we navigate the ups and downs of divorce, let's remain open-minded to the possibility of finding healing in unconventional places.

Please do share, rate and review the episode too, and all the shizzle 🩷

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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Welcome to this episode where we dive into the murky waters of dating post-divorce. Whether you're contemplating it, already dipping your toes in, or happily single but keeping an open mind, this one's for you.

I'm no dating expert as you’ll hear in the episode 😂 but I've had my fair share of post-divorce dating mishaps, so I figured it's a topic worth exploring.

In this episode we talk about when to start dating (and when it just may be too soon). We talk through setting up dating profiles online  and then all the way through to what to look out for in their profiles, photos and the all important messages (including managing unwanted dick pics 🙄)

Dating after divorce, whether online or in-person, presents unique challenges, especially for those of us over 40. With a limited pool of potential partners (going by my very rough calculations!) there’s a lot to think about past whether they are over 6 foot and bearded or not 🤣

The key thing is protecting oneself from deception, recognising red flags, and prioritising personal safety. Maintaining clear boundaries and staying true to ourselves while detaching from outcomes can be really fucking hard but worth it if we want a fulfilling dating experience. 

I hope you enjoy the episode ❤️

With so much love,

Sarah x

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