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You think you’re through it. 

You’ve done the therapy, the crying in Sainsbury’s car park, the awkward first dates, and the bad hair phase. 

You’ve moved on. 

And then….. BAM…. years later, you bump into the ex-husband at a family do, and it hits you: the long echo of divorce is still reverberating a tiny bit in your chest.

In this episode, we’re talking about that sudden rush of sadness/weirdness/nostalgia that can show up long after divorce…. often triggered by a totally innocent moment (like your grandson pointing out that “Daddy’s Mummy and Daddy’s Daddy are both here!”). 

It’s bittersweet, sometimes funny, always human …. and you’re not alone in feeling it.

In this episode, we look at……

📦 The “Tupperware drawer” of emotions….. how grief can get packed away but still rattle when you least expect it  

🧠 Why our brains sneakily serve up nostalgia in moments that are emotionally charged or tender (like grandkids, birthdays… or seeing someone who used to make you want to scream into a cushion)

🪞 Why you might feel like your old married self again *just for a second*.... and how disorienting (and infuriating!) that can be

💔 Why it’s okay to mourn what could have been ….. even when you’re super f*cking glad it’s over

😂 When the ex gives you the ick all over again

💡 This episode is for you if:

- You’ve been divorced for a while and are shocked by sudden pangs of emotion

- You’re trying to make sense of complex feelings that resurface when your worlds collide

- You want permission to feel a bit sad *and* a bit smug *and* a bit confused…. all at once

- You need a reminder that healing isn’t linear …. and it’s okay if the past taps you on the shoulder sometimes

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

🔥 Why should you join?

📚 Because healing after divorce isn’t a straight line. This club gives you a step-by-step roadmap to make sure you don’t stay stuck.

📚 Because reading books on your own is great, but actually applying what you learn? That’s where the real magic happens…. and this club makes sure you do.

🔥 What’s included?

📚 A say in what we read each month…. because this is YOUR journey, and your input matters.
 🎙️ A private podcast episode per chapter, breaking it all down into real-life takeaways you can actually use.
 💬 A private Facebook community where you’re fully supported, celebrated, and connected to like-minded women.

🔥 Who is this perfect for?

💡 If you feel stuck and need a clear path forward but don’t know where to start.
💡 If you’ve read all the self-help books but struggle to actually apply them.
💡 If you want a supportive community of people who actually get what you're going through.
💡 If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start rebuilding…. with support, structure, and expert insights

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

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In this week’s episode, we’re cracking open the metaphorical novel of your life post-divorce….. and spoiler alert: it’s time to stop re-reading the old chapters (yes, even the dramatic ones where your ex turned into a plot twist nobody asked for).

I look at the real reason you might feel stuck after your split: you're clinging to a story that no longer serves you. 

And while it's totally human to go full FBI agent on your past (“Was it the weird work trip?” “That sketchy ‘friend’?”), the truth is….. those pages are toast. Burnt. Gone. No amount of literary detective work is going to rewrite the ending.

But here's the plot twist YOU do get to write: the one where you become the main character again.

✨ We’re ditching the sad reruns and tackling:

✍️ Why your brain keeps rereading the bad chapters of your old life
✍️ How terrifying (and freeing) a blank page really is
✍️ Why rewriting your story doesn’t mean erasing the past… but owning the pen now
✍️ And how to create a badass next chapter with you as the heroine (main character activated ⭐)

So if you’ve ever found yourself staring at the blinking cursor of your future thinking, “Well, fuck. Now what?”......this one’s for you.

💥 Because, the story of you?
That one’s just getting good 🩷

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

The blurb says it will help you to:

- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age

- keep your brain firing on all cylinders

- improve your sleep

- deal with anxiety

- thrive in your career

- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)

- cope with illness and loss

- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person

With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all mid-life men and women.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

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In this episode, we’re going all in on a topic so many of us struggle with…. control. 

After divorce, it’s SO tempting to try and manage everything….. the ex, the narrative, the emotions, even the future. But the truth is control is actually an illusion.

So we’re unpacking….

 ✔️ What controlling behaviour looks like after divorce (Hint: You might not even realise you're doing it!)
 ✔️ Why we try to control…. is it love, ego, or just fear of the unknown?
 ✔️ How control actually hurts you…. mentally, emotionally, and physically.
 ✔️ How to let go and reclaim your peace…. because you deserve to focus on YOU, not him.
 ✔️ The transformation that happens when you stop trying to control the uncontrollable.

From social media stalking (we’ve all been there!) to emotional bargaining, I break it down just how control sneaks into your post-divorce life and why loosening your grip might just be the most freeing thing you do.

We go in on:

✨ Why controlling your ex or the situation is actually draining your energy.
✨ The difference between ego-driven control vs. genuine desire to reconnect.
✨ The truth about why fear of the unknown keeps you stuck.
✨ A mindset shift that will help you release control and find peace.

So, grab your coffee (or wine…. no judgment here), and let’s talk about why letting go is your superpower.

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

The blurb says: Packed to the brim with advice and life lessons from experts in their field (Dr Louise Newson, Prof Greg Whyte amongst others) and successful people navigating this time of life (Claudia Winkleman, Jo Whiley, Lee Mack, Michael Johnson, Caitlin Moran, Phil Neville and so many more) the book draws on their wise words to help you to navigate the biggest challenges that midlife can throw at you.

It will help you to:

- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age

- keep your brain firing on all cylinders

- improve your sleep

- deal with anxiety

- thrive in your career

- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)

- cope with illness and loss

- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person

With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all mid-life men and women.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

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💡 Ever felt like midlife is a crisis instead of an opportunity? Like your confidence is fading, your body is changing, and you don’t even recognise yourself anymore?

🔥 That ends today.

This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Pippa Matthews, a midlife coach who helps women reclaim their confidence, navigate life’s transitions, and rediscover their power…. whether it’s after divorce, menopause, or a complete life overhaul.

🎙️ In this episode, we talk about:

 ✨ How Pippa went from a corporate career to coaching thousands of women through transformation.

 ✨ The unexpected symptoms of perimenopause that no one warns you about (brain fog, itchy skin, exhaustion… sound familiar?)

 ✨ How to spot the real signs of burnout and midlife crisis… and what to do about it.

 ✨ Why divorce doesn’t have to be a disaster….it can be a doorway to your best chapter (and why Pippa and her ex-husband are the unicorns 🦄)

 ✨ The "Happiness Buffet" strategy….Pippa’s simple but powerful way to start choosing yourself every day.

🚨 If you’ve been struggling to feel like yourself, this episode is the reminder you need: Midlife isn’t the end. It’s your chance to do life on YOUR terms.

🛠️ Resources & Links:

• Join Pippa’s free community, Mpowered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mpoweredbypippa
• Follow Pippa on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/iamthatpippa/
• Check out Pippa’s website: www.pippamatthews.com
• Grab Pippa’s must-read book recommendation: Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis

I LOVED chatting with Pippa, I hope you enjoy listening too 🩷

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club!

📚 This April, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

The blurb says:

It will help you to:

- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age

- keep your brain firing on all cylinders

- improve your sleep

- deal with anxiety

- thrive in your career

- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)

- cope with illness and loss

- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person

With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all midlife men and women.

So what’s stopping you? 

Because life after divorce doesn’t come with a manual…. but if it did, this book club would be it.

We start the new book 1 April 📚 so check it out here ⬇️

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💡 Ever felt like you have to earn your worth? Like you’re only valuable if you’re doing, giving, or bending over backwards for everyone else?

🔥 Spoiler: That’s a lie. And this book will blow your mind.

If You Struggle with Self-Worth, This One’s for You

In this episode, we’re diving deep into Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur…. a book that will change the way you see yourself forever. 

If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth, people-pleasing, or feeling like you’re constantly running on empty while giving everything to others… this one’s for you.

Here’s what we’re getting into:

 ✨ Why your worth is NOT based on what you do (and never was)

 ✨ The “windscreen” metaphor that will completely shift how you see self-esteem

 ✨ How childhood messages shaped your self-worth (without you even realizing it) 

 ✨ The brutal cost of low self-esteem—burnout, boundaries, and why we feel guilty for taking up space

 ✨ How to rewire your inner critic (so she finally shuts the f*ck up)

💛 Listen now & start reclaiming the worth that was always yours.

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to [email protected] and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖

🚨 PLUS: If you’ve been wondering whether to join the Divorce Book Club, this is the episode that will convince you. Because this book? It’s the one that’ll crack you open.

📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark… This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome."

Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk

Whether you've personally encountered a runaway husband or not (personally I feel like infidelity has very similar patterns), reading this with the Divorce Book Club will share experiences, give some expert insights through the private podcasts, and just generally give you so much strength that comes from a community going through similar sh*t. 

Check it out below ⬇️

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In this powerful episode, I chat with Liz Clark, a divorce coach and founder of Heal Your Heart Too, about her intense healing journey post-divorce. Liz opens up about her toxic 18-year marriage, the impact of religion on her relationship, as well as how divorce became the catalyst for her personal growth. 

She shares how grief, trauma, and self-doubt shaped her experience….. and how she transformed pain into empowerment. Through self-love, therapy, boundaries, and creative healing like art and music, Liz has built a new, fulfilling life.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating post-divorce healing, struggling with self-worth, or looking for inspiration to rebuild a life they love.

Key Topics Discussed:

✔️ Liz’s journey through an 18-year toxic marriage and painful divorce.
✔️ The impact of religion, grief, trauma, and feeling unseen in a relationship.
✔️ Breaking free from conditional love and rediscovering self-worth.
✔️ The importance of boundaries and emotional healing.
✔️ Art, music and creative expression as tools for healing.
✔️ The power of self-love and trusting yourself through divorce.
✔️ Forgiveness, closure, and learning to let go for inner peace.

Powerful Quotes from Liz:

💬 "I completely changed myself to make this person love me… and it still wasn’t enough."
💬 "Divorce isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of something better."
💬 "Boundaries upset the people who can no longer control you….but they’re necessary."

Liz’s Book Recommendation:

📚 Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? Dr Julie Smith

Connect with Liz:

🌎 Website: healyourhearttoo.com
📸 Instagram: @heal.your.heart.2
🎤 Podcast: The Heart Healer (Podbean)

Also, Liz has WRITTEN a book to help children after divorce: Check it out here ⬇️

Two Homes of Love by Miffy Lizanne

I hope you enjoy the episode with Liz,

Sending so much love,

Sarah x

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🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to [email protected] and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖

Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club!

📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark… This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome."

Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk

Whether you've personally encountered a runaway husband or not (personally I feel like infidelity has very similar patterns), reading this with the Divorce Book Club will share experiences, give some expert insights through the private podcasts, and just generally give you so much strength that comes from a community going through similar sh*t. 

Check it out below ⬇️

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🚨 TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses betrayal trauma, gaslighting, and infidelity as a system of psychological abuse.

Welcome to The Divorce Chapter. 

In this eye-opening episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on Dr. Omar Minwalla’s concept of "The Secret Sexual Basement." If you’ve ever felt blindsided by betrayal, gaslit into doubting your own reality, or struggled to piece together what was actually real in your relationship….this episode is a MUST listen.

In This Episode, We Cover:

🔹 What The Secret Sexual Basement really is (hint: infidelity is not just about sex… it’s an entire system of deception).
🔹 The ten steps to understanding infidelity as a system of abuse.
🔹 How betrayal rewires your brain, body, and sense of reality.
🔹 The psychological fallout of discovery…. why it's more than just heartbreak.
🔹 How to rebuild trust in yourself after being deceived.
🔹 The societal collusion that enables and excuses deceptive sexuality.
🔹 Practical steps to reclaim your narrative, re-establish your reality, and reset your standards.

🔗 Learn more about Dr. Omar Minwalla’s work: https://minwallamodel.com/

🎧 Listen now and remember: You are so much stronger than the secret basement. 💪

Loads of Love 

Sarah x

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🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to [email protected] and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖

Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club!

📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark… This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome."

Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk

Whether you've personally encountered a runaway husband or not (personally I feel like infidelity has very similar patterns), reading this with the Divorce Book Club will share experiences, give some expert insights through the private podcasts, and just generally give you so much strength that comes from a community going through similar sh*t. 

Check it out below ⬇️

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"Who knew AI could be your divorce recovery bestie?"

In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re going all in on a topic you probably never expected…. how AI can actually help you survive and THRIVE after divorce. Yep, AI isn’t just for tech nerds and sci-fi fans….it’s got tools that can help with everything from emotional healing and co-parenting to dating and rebuilding your future.

💔 AI for Emotional Recovery

• Reflectly (Website) 
• Daylio (Website) 
• Woebot (Website) 
• Wysa (Website) 
• Balance App (Website) 

📅 AI for Organising Your Life

• Notion AI (Website) 
• MindMeister (Website) 
• Dream AI (Website) 

💼 AI for Career & Business 

• Teal HQ (Website) 
• Jasper AI (Website) 
• ChatGPT (Website) 

💰 AI for Finances & Budgeting 

• Money Dashboard (Website) 
• Emma (Website) 
• Snoop (Website) 
• Moneyhub (Website) 

👶 AI for Co-Parenting & Legal Assistance

• OurFamilyWizard (Website) 
• 2Houses (Website) 
• Coparently (Website) 
• TalkingParents (Website) 
• Amicable (Website) 
• Calendly (Website) 

💌 AI for Dating

• RIZZ AI (Website) 
• SciMatch (Website) 

🎭 AI for Protecting Yourself 

• Brenda & Frank Conversation Analysis (Search in ChatGPT) 
• Replika (Website) 
• PimEyes (Website) 
• Google Reverse Image Search (Website) 
• MySudo (Website) 

💡 Which AI tool are you most intrigued to try?  Send a text to let me know 🩷

Loads of Love 

Sarah x

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🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the podcast, email a screenshot to [email protected]  💖

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📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark… 

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💡 What if the reason you keep ending up in the same patterns….relationships, finances, confidence….has nothing to do with bad luck and everything to do with your internal thermostat?

In this episode, I’m looking at one of the biggest mindset shifts you can make after divorce…. raising your internal thermostat.

Think about it….your brain, much like your home heating system, has a set point for what it believes is normal. If it’s set to struggle in relationships, in money, in self-worth… guess what? No matter how much you want to change, your subconscious will pull you right back to that same old temperature.

🚨 Ever wondered why…

🔥 You keep dating the same emotionally unavailable people?
🔥 You get a financial windfall… only to suddenly have an unexpected expense wipe it out?
🔥 No matter how much self-work you do, you still don’t feel “worthy” of more?

That’s your thermostat, love. And it’s time to turn it the hell up.

🎙️ In this episode, we’re covering:

✔️ How your subconscious thermostat controls your life (without you even realising)
✔️ How to identify your set point in love, money, and self-esteem
✔️ The sneaky ways we sabotage ourselves when things start feeling too good
✔️ How to reprogram your thermostat…. so your new normal is actually what you deserve

💭 Are you a thermostat, setting the temperature for your life? Or just a thermometer, reacting to whatever happens?

If you’re ready to start raising the bar on your life after divorce….one degree at a time…. This episode is for you.

Let’s go and crank it up 🔥

Loads of Love 

Sarah x

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P.S. And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to [email protected]

P.P.S. We’re going deep this month in The Divorce Book Club with Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur….helping you break out of low self-worth cycles for good. It is SO good! Join us here ⬇️

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💔 Ever felt lost, unworthy, or terrified of being single forever after divorce? You're not alone.

In this special guest episode, we chat with Claire Grigson, aka Confessions of a Dating Coach, who shares her journey from heartbreak and betrayal to becoming a powerhouse in dating and relationship coaching. Claire opens up about healing from an anxious attachment style, breaking toxic dating patterns, and learning to fall in love with life as a single woman.

We talk about….
 ✔️ Why the most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourself
 ✔️ How anxious attachment affects dating after divorce…. and what to do about it
 ✔️ Why romanticising your life as a single woman is the ultimate power move
 ✔️ Practical tips for building confidence and choosing healthier relationships

This episode is packed with empathy, humour, and actionable advice to help you reclaim your confidence and glow-up your dating life….on your terms.

✨ Listen in and learn how to stop waiting to be chosen, and start choosing yourself.

The book Claire mentions in the episode:

The Untethered Soul http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1572245379/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb0f-21

To contact Claire:

Instagram www.instagram.com/confessionsofadatingcoach/

TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@claire_grigson_coaching?lang=en-uk

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claire.grigson.coaching

Glow Up Your Dating Bio: https://subscribepage.io/lQa3fn

Email [email protected]

And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply:

1. Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts.
2. Screenshot your review
3. Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to [email protected]

Can’t wait to hear what you think of the episode  ✨ I loved chatting with Claire ❤️

Loads of Love

Sarah x

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P.S. Want to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem after divorce? Join The Divorce Book Club! February’s book is Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur, and trust me….it’s absofuckinglutely life-changing 

Literally, £10 a month (plus VAT) to CHANGE YOUR GODDAMN LIFE ⬇️