I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time.

Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste

 • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood

 • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker?

11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs

13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy

18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters

19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings?

27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners

33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up?

36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating

42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex

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