Gay Men Going Deeper

The Slow Build in Romantic Relationships

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Everyone says they want a “slow build” in dating… right up until chemistry hits and judgement leaves the building.

In this off-the-cuff episode, we talk about why moving fast feels so intoxicating, what actually happens in your nervous system when you do, and how speed can quietly hijack discernment, attachment, and self-trust. We share personal stories, name the difference between excitement and regulation, and break down how slowing down isn’t about playing games, withholding sex, or killing the spark… it’s about letting something real have a chance to form.

If you’ve ever confused intensity for intimacy, this one’s for you.

Today's Hosts:

  • Matt Landsiedel
  • Michael DiIorio

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