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Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.
In today's episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing: Shame. We will talk about how shame helps us, hinders us, why some people can deal with it and why some can't. We'll also discuss various coping strategies and more. [Jan 02, 2023]
00:00 – Intro
00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro
00:55 – Intro Links
03:38 – The topic of the day: Shame
05:44 – Is there a positive side to shame?
07:29 – Directed by beliefs
09:02 – Cultural differences
10:14 – Shame's functionality
11:16 – Societal stigma
12:35 – How shame can hinder
16:36 – Literal shutdown
19:30 – Emotional Blunting
22:15 – Guilt vs Shame: Sense of Self
24:14 – Those who can, cope!
26:54 – When shame is a symptom
28:09 – Finding a support network
30:03 – The "core" of shame
33:45 – The road to Mindfulness
37:20 – Environmental Shame
38:34 – Horrifically fascinating
41:06 – You have to get out there!
43:00 – Tips for our younger listeners
45:25 – Remember Pen Pals?
46:44 – Wrap Up
47:39 – Outro
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References:
Burkitt, I. (2008). Social selves: Theories of self and society. Sage.
Elison, J., Pulos, S., & Lennon, R. (2006). Shame-focused coping: An empirical study of the compass of shame. Social Behavior and Personality: an international journal, 34(2), 161-168.
Garey, S. S. (1998). Long-term effects of sibling emotional and physical abuse on adult self-concept and the associated guilt and shame. United States International University.
Gilchrist, J. D., Solomon-Krakus, S., Pila, E., Crocker, P., & Sabiston, C. M. (2020). Associations between physical self-concept and anticipated guilt and shame: The moderating role of gender. Sex Roles, 83(11), 763-772.
Harper, J. M. (2011). Regulating and coping with shame. Re-constructing emotional spaces: From experience to regulation, 189-206.
Hawes, D. J., Helyer, R., Herlianto, E. C., & Willing, J. (2013). Borderline personality features and implicit shame-prone self-concept in middle childhood and early adolescence. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 42(3), 302-308.
Kinston, W. (1983). A theoretical context for shame. International Journal of Psycho-Analysis, 64, 213-226.
Krüger, S., & Rustad, G. C. (2019). Coping with shame in a media-saturated society: Norwegian web-series Skam as transitional object. Television & new media, 20(1), 72-95.
Nathanson, D. L. (1987). The many faces of shame. In Partially based on a symposium held in Los Angeles, 1984 for the 137th Annual Meeting of the American Psychiatric Association.. The Guilford Press.
Rüsch, N., Lieb, K., Göttler, I., Hermann, C., Schramm, E., Richter, H., ... & Bohus, M. (2007). Shame and implicit self-concept in women with borderline personality disorder. American journal of psychiatry, 164(3), 500-508.
Scheff, T. J. (2003). Shame in self and society. Symbolic interaction, 26(2), 239-262.
Tangney, J. P. (1996). Conceptual and methodological issues in the assessment of shame and guilt. Behaviour research and therapy, 34(9), 741-754.
Taylor, P. J., McDonald, J., Smith, M., Nicholson, H., & Forrester, R. (2019). Distinguishing people with current, past, and no history of non-suicidal self-injury: Shame, social comparison, and self-concept integration. Journal of Affective Disorders, 246, 182-188.
Taylor, T. F. (2015). The influence of shame on posttrauma disorders: have we failed to see the obvious?. European journal of psychotraumatology, 6(1), 28847.
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Chris will be joined by his co-host Patrick Laverty as they discuss topics pertaining to the world of Social Engineering. [Dec 26, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:29 – Patrick Laverty Intro
01:18 – Intro Links
05:04 – Todays Topic: Dumpster Diving
06:27 – Shelby Dacko Intro
08:38 – Patrick's Pizza Adventure
14:34 – Who is Shelby?
15:51 – 9 Times
19:20 – The continuing importance of OSINT
20:44 – What are some "typical" goals for a "break-in"?
22:40 – Concerns with 3rd party security
23:08 – Shelby's nighttime find
26:37 – Shelby's Trash Talk
31:02 – All the luck
33:20 – A moment in time
35:37 – Situational Awareness
38:58 – The 4th Step
41:02 – Diversity of thought
42:06 – Cut me some SLACK
44:39 – "It's more about the raccoons"
46:50 – Wrap Up & Outro
Find us online
Today our guest is Steve Orrin. Steve is a respected IT executive with over 30 years of experience in cybersecurity, solution architecture, virtualization security, and federal project management. Orrin earned a Bachelor's in Honors Research Biology from Kean University. He currently serves as a Federal Chief Technology Officer and Senior PE for Intel Corporation. He is also a key advisor and subject matter expert in the emerging technologies space, providing guidance to the Public Sector, Defense, and Intelligence communities. [Dec 19, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:55 – Intro Links:
03:43 – Steve Orrin Intro
04:26 – How did a biologist become a CTO at Intel?
09:10 – The evolution of security attacks
12:22 – Humans are humans
13:18 – Higher-risk targets
13:54 – If I knew then...LISTEN!
15:09 – Speak the language
16:27 – Making limoncello out of lemons
17:36 – Check your ego
19:04 – The prerequisites
21:06 – A Self-fulfilling Prophecy of Awesome Things
22:15 – Perfection is the Enemy of Good
26:06 – Handling failure
28:12 – Culturing opportunities
30:37 – Ninja skills
32:07 – Have you had mentors in your career?
33:42 – Book Recommendations
35:52 – Find Steve Orrin online
37:02 – Wrap Up
37:21 – Outro
Dorie Clark helps individuals and companies get their best ideas heard in a crowded, noisy world. She has been named one of the Top 50 business thinkers in the world by Thinkers50. She was honored as the #1 Communication Coach by the Marshall Goldsmith Leading Global Coaches Awards and one of the Top 5 Communication Professionals in the World by Global Gurus.
She is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of The Long Game, Entrepreneurial You, Reinventing You, and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of the Year by Inc. magazine.
A former presidential campaign spokeswoman, Clark has been described by the New York Times as an "expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives." She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, and consults and speaks for clients such as Google, Yale University, and the World Bank.
She is a graduate of Harvard Divinity School, a producer of a multiple Grammy-winning jazz album, and a Broadway investor. [Dec 12, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:18 – Intro Links
02:37 – Dorie Clark Intro
04:01 – How did you decide to become a leadership expert?
05:26 – Defeating the "gatekeepers"
08:06 – The benefits of Social Proof
12:34 – Has the "long game" changed in the last 10 years?
15:36 – The rise of FOMO
18:19 – Getting back to long-term thinking
19:52 – You don't have to "Take the Leap!"
25:32 – Be 2 years older with straight teeth
27:42 – Confusing "busy" with "important"
31:40 – Deciding what to be bad at
36:16 – Who do you consider your mentor?
38:31 – Book Recommendations:
40:28 – Find Dorie Clark online
41:12 – Guest Wrap Up
41:35 – Outro
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.
In today's episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing: Natural born killers, or monsters in the making?
We are all curious about the origins of evil and violence. We see a story on the news and ask ourselves, how could anyone do that? So, let's dive into how. We are not going to cover specific cases and talk about specific serial killers, because you lose the science and we "celebritize" serial killers. [Dec 05, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:19 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro
00:52 – Intro Links
03:37 – The topic of the day: Natural born killers, or monsters in the making?
04:48 – Born this way?
08:25 – The "X" Factor
10:11 – Self-soothing
13:18 – The importance of Anxiety
14:34 – Made by the military
15:23 – You can't pick and choose
18:18 – Gag reflex
19:50 – Who's to blame?
20:59 – The "Criminal Gene" fallacy
24:39 – A happy ending
26:50 – "This isn't set in stone"
29:31 – Silver Linings
31:13 – "It's a bit of both"
32:02 – Misguided markers
35:42 – Is there prevention?
39:05 – Minority Report
41:18 – An unsupportive system
42:34 – Touch is vital!
45:26 – An interesting (NOT FUN!) quote
46:27 – Wrap Up
47:07 – The request lines are open!
47:35 – Outro
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References:
Entail, W. D. A. S. K. (2021). Are Serial Killers Born or Made?.
Johnson, B. R., & Becker, J. V. (1997). Natural born killers?: The development of the sexually sadistic serial killer. Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law Online, 25(3), 335-348.
Ioana, I. M. (2013). No one is born a serial killer!. Procedia-Social and Behavioral Sciences, 81, 324-328.
Mitchell, H., & Aamodt, M. G. (2005). The incidence of child abuse in serial killers. Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology, 20(1), 40-47.
Miller, L. (2014). Serial killers: I. Subtypes, patterns, and motives. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 19(1), 1-11.
Wiest, J. B. (2016). Casting cultural monsters: Representations of serial killers in US and UK news media. Howard Journal of Communications, 27(4), 327-346.
Wrangham, R. W., Wilson, M. L., & Muller, M. N. (2006). Comparative rates of violence in chimpanzees and humans. Primates, 47(1), 14-26.
Newton-Fisher, N. E., & Thompson, M. E. (2012). Comparative evolutionary perspectives on violence.
Marono, A. J., Reid, S., Yaksic, E., & Keatley, D. A. (2020). A behaviour sequence analysis of serial killers' lives: From childhood abuse to methods of murder. Psychiatry, psychology and law, 27(1), 126-137.
Marono, A., & Keatley, D. A. (2022). An investigation into the association between cannibalism and serial killers. Psychiatry, Psychology and Law, 1-12.
Entail, W. D. A. S. K. (2021). Are Serial Killers Born or Made?.
Njelesani, J., Hashemi, G., Cameron, C., Cameron, D., Richard, D., & Parnes, P. (2018). From the day they are born: a qualitative study exploring violence against children with disabilities in West Africa. BMC public health, 18(1), 1-7.
Boyle, K. (2001). What's natural about killing? Gender, copycat violence and Natural Born Killers. Journal of Gender Studies, 10(3), 311-321.
Formosa, P. (2008). The problems with evil. Contemporary Political Theory, 7(4), 395-415.
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Chris will be joined by his co-host Patrick Laverty as they discuss topics pertaining to the world of Social Engineering. [Nov 28, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:24 – Patrick Laverty Intro
00:43 – Intro Links
03:26 – Todays Topic: How do you become a Social Engineer?
05:16 – The Art of the Conversation
05:36 – The old college try!
07:49 – It's all in the report
11:37 – OSINT: The SE Lifeblood
13:53 – How do you learn this?
16:48 – Don't rely on tools, rely on OSINT
19:14 – The APSE origin story
25:13 – It's really about communication
25:45 – Learning from DISC
29:24 – It's not all bad
30:24 – This isn't 9 to 5
33:50 – Conversation with a purpose
34:57 – Back to the reports
38:27 – APSE and beyond
43:36 – Sorry...Invite Only
45:50 – 'Tis the season
46:41 – Never stop learning
48:27 – Always different, never boring
49:32 – The next generation
51:28 – Coming up next month
52:03 – Wrap Up & Outro
Find us online
Marc Ashworth is a respected IT executive with over 30 years of experience in cyber and physical security, IT/security architecture, project management, is an author and a public speaker. He is a board member of the St. Louis Chapter of InfraGard, Webster University Cyber Advisory board, Co-Founded the State of Cyber annual security conference, and a Lifetime member of FBI Citizens Academy, possessing security certifications in CISSP, CISM, CRISC, Security+ and other certifications. As the Senior Vice President and Chief Information Security Officer at First Bank, Marc currently oversees First Bank's information security, fraud, physical security, and the network services departments. He is also the 2022 Cyber Defense Magazine winner of "Top 100 CISOs in the World." [Nov 21st, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:49 – Intro Links:
03:15 – Marc Ashworth Intro
05:17 – What was the path that led you to InfoSec?
07:41 – Cultivating good security practices
09:31 – Learning to "scale" your security
11:22 – The value of Strategic Thinking
13:40 – It's all in the presentation
15:25 – The importance of Customer Service
18:32 – The Art of Translation
21:32 – Small Wins
24:34 – Letters to a young CISO
26:20 – Don't avoid Pen Testing!
28:11 – Adopting a "Partnership" mindset
30:30 – Long line of influence
33:40 – Book Recommendations
36:14 – Find Marc Ashworth online
38:36 – Wrap Up
38:56 – Outro
Today we are joined by Stephanie Paul. Stephanie is an actress, a trainer, and keynote speaker. She has over 30 years of experience in the entertainment industry and she uses that now as she coaches and trains executives, sales teams, Tedx speakers and experts of all kinds to become master communicators. She is also a proud member of EOA and on the board of the directors of the Alzheimer's Association in Orange County. She is an active member of WIB, and the Vice Chair of Young Women in Bio.
[Nov 14th, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:23 – Intro Links
02:10 – Stephanie Paul Intro
02:59 – How did you go from acting to coaching communications?
06:34 – Dark Side of the Moon
08:03 – The Magic of Story
09:14 – Can anyone learn to use storytelling?
11:43 – Practice, practice, practice!
13:49 – How is storytelling used in Leadership?
16:31 – Reflecting your values
18:15 – The beauty of mistakes
21:32 – You're not born with it!
23:28 – Mentorship
28:32 – The importance of Accountability
30:10 – Make them want the banana
33:24 – Valley Girl
35:39 – Find Stephanie Paul online
36:50 – Women In Leadership
37:49 – Book Recommendations:
40:55 – Who are your greatest mentors?
44:42 – Guest Wrap Up
45:17 – Outro
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.
In today's episode, Chris and Abbie are not just going to talk about nonverbal communication at an observational level, but lay the ground work for a deeper understanding of nonverbals. Not just what certain behaviors tell us but WHY they tell us this, and where nonverbal communication originated from! [Nov 07, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro
01:10 – Intro Links
04:01 – The topic of the day: Nonverbal Communication
10:25 – Everything comes back to Darwin
15:25 – In Utero
18:54 – A picture speaks 1000 words
20:31 – More "nature" than "nurture"
23:20 – Cultural vs Universal Gestures
27:17 – Looking at "Intention"
32:24 – Linking Non-verbals to Intention
36:32 – The Doctor is REALLY in!
38:37 – Don't Look Up (or away!)
42:35 – Response Behavior
46:58 – Neuroception - Trust your gut!
53:48 – The Takeaway
56:04 – Man's Best Friend
57:13 – Wrap Up
58:53 – Book Recommendations
01:02:34 – Outro
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Chakrabarty, S., Widing, R. E., & Brown, G. (2014). Selling behaviours and sales performance: the moderating and mediating effects of interpersonal mentalizing. Journal of Personal Selling & Sales Management, 34(2), 112-122.
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Heuer, K., Rinck, M., & Becker, E. S. (2007). Avoidance of emotional facial expressions in social anxiety: The approach–avoidance task. Behaviour research and therapy, 45(12), 2990-3001.
Mathis, V., & Kenny, P. J. (2018). Neuroscience: brain mechanisms of blushing. Current Biology, 28(14), R791-R792.
Müller, P., Huang, M. X., & Bulling, A. (2018, March). Detecting low rapport during natural interactions in small groups from non-verbal behaviour. In 23rd International Conference on Intelligent User Interfaces (pp. 153-164).
Neidlinger, K., Truong, K. P., Telfair, C., Feijs, L., Dertien, E., & Evers, V. (2017, March). AWElectric: that gave me goosebumps, did you feel it too?. In Proceedings of the Eleventh International Conference on Tangible, Embedded, and Embodied Interaction (pp. 315-324).
Parr, L. A., Micheletta, J., & Waller, B. M. (2016). Nonverbal communication in primates: Observational and experimental approaches.
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Reissland, N., & Austen, J. (2018). Goal directed behaviours: the development of pre-natal touch behaviours. In Reach-to-Grasp Behavior (pp. 3-17). Routledge.
Schug, J., Matsumoto, D., Horita, Y., Yamagishi, T., & Bonnet, K. (2010). Emotional expressivity as a signal of cooperation. Evolution and Human Behavior, 31(2), 87-94.
Segerstråle, U., & Molnár, P. (2018). Nonverbal communication: where nature meets culture. Routledge.
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Woud, M. L., Maas, J., Becker, E. S., & Rinck, M. (2013). Make the manikin move: Symbolic approach–avoidance responses affect implicit and explicit face evaluations. Journal of Cognitive Psychology, 25(6), 738-744.
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Chris will be joined by his co-host Patrick Laverty as they discuss topics pertaining to the world of Social Engineering. [Oct 24th, 2022]
00:00 – Intro
00:17 – Patrick Laverty Intro
00:58 – Intro Links
03:28 – This month's dumpster dive: Great Stories
04:01 – Oceans 11 1/2: Ryan Didn't Die
05:14 – Let the testing begin!
06:36 – OSINT & Building a Pretext
10:06 – Never lose focus of your SCOPE
11:52 – Stay with the Pretext!
14:53 – Don't Drink & Shred
18:36 – Always working
19:55 – The Story Continues...
29:14 – You can't prepare for Bad Luck
35:04 – Being an advocate, not an adversary
36:46 – Not quite a clean getaway
38:40 – The value of stories
40:34 – Coming up next month
41:43 – Wrap Up & Outro
Find us online
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