Geraldine Bilston first joined There’s No Place Like Home as a victim-survivor way back in season one. Since then a lot has changed for her, for the better. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss investigates how we move past domestic abuse - as a society and as survivors. 

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1. The research into children and young people who use violence referenced by Professor Kate Fitz-Gibbon: Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety (ANROWS). (2022). Adolescent family violence in Australia: A national study of prevalence, use of and exposure to violence, and support needs for young people. Retrieved from https://www.anrows.org.au/project/adolescent-family-violence-in-australia-a-national-study-of-prevalence-use-of-and-exposure-to-violence-and-support-needs-for-young-people/
2. ‘The Man Box’ study on what kind of masculine behaviours increase the likelihood of abuse or assault: Jesuit Social Services. (2024). The Man Box: A study of masculine norms and their impact on Australian men and boys. Retrieved from https://jss.org.au/programs/research/the-man-box/
3. Leaving an abusive relationship costs upwards of $18,000 on average: Australian Council of Trade Unions. (2022). Family and domestic violence leave: Factsheet. Retrieved from https://www.australianunions.org.au/factsheet/family-and-domestic-violence-leave/ 
4. Further reading on the results of Canada’s national Leaving Home program: Gentilini, U., Almenfi, M., & Dale, P. (2021). How to deliver cash transfer programs more effectively to hard-to-reach populations. Stanford Social Innovation Review. Retrieved from https://ssir.org/articles/entry/how_to_deliver_cash_transfer_programs_more_effectively_to_hard_to_reach_populations
5. Further reading on the results of Canada’s national Leaving Home program: Korteweg, A. C., & Yurdakul, G. (2022). Migration, gender, and social justice: Perspectives on human mobility and the politics of difference. Toronto: University of Toronto Press. Retrieved from https://utppublishing.com/doi/book/10.3138/9781487545178
6. BC Society of Transition Houses (BCSTH). (2022). Bursary evaluation report: Supporting survivors through financial aid. Retrieved from https://bcsth.ca/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/BCSTH-Bursary-Evaluation-Report-Combined.pdf

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Dr Brian Sullivan still remembers the man who duped his men’s behaviour change group into thinking he’d changed when he hadn’t. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss investigates how men’s behaviour change programs work and the methods of the facilitators working with people who use violence. 

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It’s been years but Katrina still can’t stand the smell of bourbon. For far too long, her then-partner, Cameron*, blamed his violence on alcohol and drugs. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Katrina’s story and investigates the facts and falsehoods about alcohol and drug use and the decision to use violence.

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Sources:

1. Victoria Police received more reports about former partners than current ones for the first time ever: Crime Statistics Agency Victoria. (2024). 2023–2024 Family Violence Database.
2. ANROWS research into the link between alcohol and domestic violence: Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety. (2017). Links between alcohol consumption and domestic and sexual violence against women: Key findings and future directions. Retrieved from https://www.anrows.org.au/publication/links-between-alcohol-consumption-and-domestic-and-sexual-violence-against-women-key-findings-and-future-directions/

Victoria Police witnessing alcohol abuse in around 25% of family violence incidents: Crime Statistics Agency Victoria. (2024). 2023–2024 Family Violence Database.

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Janine never thought getting divorced would cost her her friends and family. But when Oscar* told them she was unstable and he was the real victim, it did. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Janine’s story and investigates how perpetrators spread false narratives to maintain a positive image. 

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There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by FW, made in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. 

Sources:

1. Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander women are at much higher risk of experiencing domestic or family abuse: Victorian Aboriginal Legal Service. (2022). Addressing coercive control without criminalisation: Avoiding blunt tools that fail victim-survivors. Retrieved from https://www.vals.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Addressing-Coercive-Control-Without-Criminalisation-Avoiding-Blunt-Tools-that-Fail-Victim-Survivors.pdf
2. In 50% of cases, non-fatal strangulation does not leave a visible physical mark: Zilkens, R. R., Phillips, M. A., Kelly, M. C., Mukhtar, S. A., Semmens, J. B., & Smith, D. A. (2016). Non-fatal strangulation in sexual assault: A study of clinical and assault characteristics highlighting the role of intimate partner violence. Journal of Forensic and Legal Medicine, 43, 1–7. doi: 10.1016/j.jflm.2016.06.005. Retrieved from https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/
3. Additional reading on non-fatal strangulation: White, C., Martin, G., Schofield, A. M., & Majeed-Ariss, R. (2021). ‘I thought he was going to kill me’: Analysis of 204 case files of adults reporting non-fatal strangulation as part of a sexual assault over a three-year period. Journal of Forensic and Legal Medicine, 79, 102128. doi: 10.1016/j.jflm.2021.102128. Retrieved from https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/
4. Further reading on Dr Mitchell’s research into ‘dark triad’ personality types: Mitchell, K. (2024). Psychopaths, narcissists, Machiavellians, toxic leaders, coercive controllers: Subsets of one overarching ‘dark’ personality type? Retrieved from https://researchbank.swinburne.edu.au/file/15436c0d-4d4f-4506-b649-eb1129ab0390/1/karen_mitchell_thesis.pdf

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When Janine left Oscar*, he told everyone their divorce had ruined him financially. It didn’t - but it did ruin her. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Janine’s story and investigates how perpetrators cause financial devastation to victim-survivors after they escape. 

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There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by FW, made in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. 

Sources: 

1. Only 44% of women who seek support from specialist homelessness services are given somewhere to stay: Australian Institute of Health and Welfare (AIHW). (2020). Specialist homelessness services annual report 2019–20: Client groups. Retrieved from https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/homelessness-services/shs-annual-report-2019-20/contents/client-groups
2. Additional supporting data on the above: Homelessness Australia. (2024). Domestic violence demands investment in homelessness services. Retrieved from https://homelessnessaustralia.org.au/domestic-violence-demands-investment-in-homelessness-services/

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Conor Pall never wanted to live with a man he calls ‘The Shadow’. But he was forced to. In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Conor’s story and investigates how perpetrators are able to weaponise systems after victim-survivors escape from them - legal, financial or otherwise.

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There’s No Place Like Home is a podcast by FW, made in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter. 

Sources: 

1. Systems abuse is most common post-separation: Monash University. (2018). Systems abuse most often takes place post-separation. Retrieved from https://arts.monash.edu/__data/assets/pdf_file/0005/1529852/rb-systems-abuse.pdf
2. Victim-survivors of domestic violence have 14 times the legal needs of the rest of the population: Australian Lawyers Alliance. (2022). Systems abuse and family law: Understanding the impact. Retrieved from https://www8.austlii.edu.au/au/journals/PrecedentAULA/2022/29.pdf
3. Judith Hermann on how the legal system can be retraumatising for victim-survivors: Stark, E. (2004). Insidious entrapment: Domestic violence and the reform of child welfare. Women & Therapy, 27(3–4), 133–150. Retrieved from https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16043563/
4. Australian Institute of Family Studies. (2015). Children's exposure to domestic and family violence. Retrieved from https://aifs.gov.au/resources/policy-and-practice-papers/childrens-exposure-domestic-and-family-violence

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After two women in Miranda’s* mothers group began to suspect she was being abused, they helped her finesse an escape plan for her and her baby. That’s when Justin’s* stalking began.  In this episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Miranda’s story and investigates perpetrators who stalk and harass their former partners after they separate.

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Sources:

1. One in five women one in 15 men have been physically stalked: Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. (2024). 2021–2022 Personal Safety Survey.
2. 51% of people in Australia have experienced technology-facilitated abuse: Powell, A., Flynn, A., & Henry, N. (2022). Technology-facilitated abuse: National survey of Australian adults’ experiences.
3. In 40 percent of Australian cases where a man killed a current or former female partner, he had also stalked her: Australian Domestic and Family Violence Death Review Network. (2022). Intimate partner violence homicides 2008–2018. In Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety & Australian Domestic and Family Violence Death Review Network. Data Report.

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Dr Ann O’Neill thought her estranged husband was moving on when he finally signed divorce papers. Days later, he killed their two young children. In the first episode of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves, Tara Rae Moss shares Dr O’Neill’s story and investigates perpetrators who commit “the ultimate act of revenge” post-separation. 

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Episode chapters: 

• 00:00:00 – Introduction & Content Warning
  Covers the content warning, description of the episode's sensitive subjects, sponsor declaration, and acknowledgment of Aboriginal land.
• 00:00:41 – Opening & Season Overview
  Host Tara Moss introduces herself, lays out the theme for season three, and contextualises the dangers of post-separation abuse.
• 00:04:50 – The Story of Dr Ann O'Neill
  Introduction to Dr Anne O'Neill’s story, background on her relationship and escalating abuse, her decision to leave, and the tragic events that followed.
• 00:10:00 – Post-separation Escalation and Systemic Risks
  Discussion by experts and Anne about post-separation escalation, coercive control, legal responses, and common risk factors.
• 00:15:00 – The Ultimate Act of Revenge
  Analysis of the patterns leading to fatal violence, perpetrator psychology, and “payback” as motivation.
• 00:18:04 – Not Just Ann: Broader Impacts & Statistics
  Statistics on domestic violence in Australia, introduction of Connor Pall, and the experiences of children as victims in their own right. 
• 00:20:00 – Connor Pall’s Story
  Connor shares his personal experiences growing up amidst family violence, insights on how children navigate abuse, and systemic failures.
• 00:25:00 – Closing Thoughts and Next Steps
  The host reflects on intervention, acts of kindness in support systems, previews the next episode, and provides resources.
• 00:25:59 – Credits and Resources
  Credits, sponsors, and support information

Sources:

1. Publisher’s note: For the first few months of 2024, a woman was being murdered every 4 days at the hands of a violent man. Official statistics referenced in this podcast do not yet reflect this increase.
2. The number of women being killed by a current or former partner every week: Calculated from Bricknell, S. (2023). Homicide in Australia 2020–21. Statistical Report No. 42. Canberra: Australian Institute of Criminology.
3. A significant number of people only begin abusing their partner after they become pregnant: Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. (2024). Pregnant people and family, domestic and sexual violence. Retrieved from https://www.aihw.gov.au/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/population-groups/pregnant-people
4. An estimated 4.2 million people aged 18 years and over have experienced violence, emotional abuse, or economic abuse by a cohabiting partner since the age of 15: Australian Bureau of Statistics. (2023). Personal safety, Australia, 2021–22. Retrieved from https://www.abs.gov.au/statistics/people/crime-and-justice/personal-safety-australia/2021-22
5. Publisher’s note: The number of perpetrators is known, however research has been commissioned to increase understanding: Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety. (2024). ANROWS unveils $2 million investment for research into domestic and family violence perpetrators. Retrieved from https://www.anrows.org.au/media-releases/anrows-unveils-2-million-investment-for-research-into-domestic-and-family-violence-perpetrators/

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This season we’ll hone in on the insidious patterns and tactics of post-separation abuse, sharing the real stories of victim-survivors and experts’ own insights to show how, often, abuse doesn’t end after separation - it escalates.

There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves drops weekly from March 4, 2025.

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• In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000

There’s No Place Like Home is an FW podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. 

No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter.

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Tara Rae Moss is an internationally best-selling author, human rights advocate, holistic practitioner and speaker who has spent her career driving positive change by telling real people’s real stories - especially, the stories of women and girls. She’s also the host of season three of There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves. 

There’s No Place Like Home: After she leaves drops weekly from March 4, 2025.

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• If you or someone you know is affected by domestic, family and sexual violence, contact the national service 1800RESPECT for free and confidential counselling, information and service referral. Call 1800 737 732 or chat online 24/7 at www.1800respect.org.au 
• If you or someone you know is an Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander person in need of a culturally safe support line, you can call 13YARN (13 92 76)
• In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000

There’s No Place Like Home is an FW podcast in collaboration with our proud partner, Commonwealth Bank, who are committed to helping end financial abuse through CommBank Next Chapter. 

No matter who you bank with, if you’re worried about your finances because of domestic and family violence, you can contact CommBank’s Next Chapter Team on 1800 222 387 within Australia or visit commbank.com.au/nextchapter.

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