Things That Will Help

"What sticks to me is mine, and what doesn't stick to me was never mine to begin with."

This episode is entirely devoted to the practice of letting things go without taking it personally. Clamping down on people, things, and ideas? It probably doesn't work the way you want it to. Buffy tells stories of failed party friends, people and homes changing forms, and what happens when we allow for the uninhibited flow and grace of love to appear on its own, without restriction.

What's possible when you let your life breathe? What happens when you practice releasing what is changing form, and noticing what is coming into view?

"Put your eyes on that fresh land. It wants your focus, your breath, and your time. The rest will become food for something else."

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

This week's teaching of "generation" comes at the request of a student looking for ways to access more motivation in their lives. How can we break routines or create new, helpful habits? Buffy says: don't wait. Just begin. She emphasizes the amazing benefits of a daily, timed container (and if you've ever taken her class before, you know she means it).

In this episode, you'll hear stories of changed behavior around houseguests, daily dance parties, ACDC's "Thunderstruck." Buffy talks about the importance of the container and how, when we honor it, we begin to crave it. She shares her current timings that she is extremely regular with it - right now. Your personal daily timings can change because variety is healthy. This week, do your best to set one five-minute timed practice you believe would be helpful for you to ritualize daily. Then, let us know how it goes.

She references Twyla Tharp ("Skill gets imprinted through action."),

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

This episode dances around the themes of concealment and revelation; forgetting and remembering. Buffy talks about the concept of "Wintering" (by Katherine May), and why a good winter leads to a robust and vital summer. Contrast can help us remember who we are.

Life has a rhythm - it doesn't stay dark and it doesn't stay light. There is usually a mixture, and when we can lean into the trust of the flux, life swings more easily.

This episode includes stories of chocolate cake for breakfast, porch-side hellos, and the imminent joy of getting to hug our people after many pandemic months. You'll leave feeling hopeful and clear in maybe what it is you're currently forgetting - or remembering.

Learn more about Katherine May and her book "Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times."

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Beauty marks make the world more real, beautiful, and alive. From a brisk cold winter day, to the perfect pen and paper, to strange four-year-old fascinations, this episode e will have you delighting in the small beautiful things in life. Don't forget - after listening, make your own list of beauty marks so you can open your eyes a little wider to what makes your ordinary world extraordinary.

Learn more about the inimitable Mississippi Vegan here.

This whole episode is dedicated to Cowboy Kyle, a Beauty Mark who left this world too soon.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

What's your why?

"Where you choose to put your focus is where your mind lives. You are the gatekeeper of your own happiness. Unlock your yes." -Tunde Oyeneyin

Have you ever considered yourself the CEO of your own life? Peloton instructor and all-around badass Tunde Oyeneyin is the inspiration for this episode, and Buffy riffs on her framework of building a personal mission statement to organize your words and actions daily. This is a practice that will widen your spiritual scope and clarify your compass' true north.

"I learned a long time ago, the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side." -Dr. Maya Angelou

Send Buffy your mission statement and get in touch with your questions at [email protected].

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

"If we don't get lost, then we can't really be found - we can't remember what it feels like to come back home if we never learn to really wander."

When was the last time you were lost? Buffy moves us through stories of getting lost, distinguishing its different varieties in a way both poetic and practical. A healthy kind of getting lost feels like a lost that creates strength and gratitude to return home. Listen for stories of Christopher McCandless, the Man on the Moon, and a dense Alabama forest.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Welcome to Season 3 of Things That Will Help. Buffy begins this season right in the middle - in media res.  She discusses the idea of the threshold, and how we are always in the middle, on our way up, or on our way down, from just about everything. What are your practices, and your sacred spaces, when you're in the middle? Can you make time, instead of waiting for the perfect time? What can you build in the middle of things?

She references Rebecca Solnit, Elena Brower, Billy Collins, and Maryann Perrone.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Bravery does not require an absence of fear. Bravery acknowledges the fear and does it anyway.

This week's stories include tales of doctor office visits, angel cheerleaders in the form of middle school teachers, closet cheetahs and tigers, and the bravery to leave a marriage. You will leave this episode feeling enlivened, bolstered, and just maybe your flicker of bravery blooming into a full flame.

She references the inimitable Elizabeth Gilbert and Robert Fulghum.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Daniele Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Have you ever felt the wide, encompassing experience of grace? If you're not sure, this episode will light up the ways grace can be lived, felt, and experienced. This grace is not a grace that drains the tank, and Buffy elucidates the exceptions that are massively important to consider in the deliverance of grace.

She tells tales of Elvis Presley's Memphis home, the illegal scattering of human remains, early morning peeping toms, and more.

The call is this: look at the areas of your life where you feel suspicion, distrust, and hatred. How can you be softer with people in their hurt?

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Daniele Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

What do Freddy Mercury’s teeth, twins, and extreme introversion have in common? This week’s invitation is to consider your Truxel and polish it. (What’s a Truxel, you ask? You’ll have to listen to find out).

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Daniele Alling (www.ritualmade.com).