Things That Will Help

Let's get elemental.

This is a podcast about air, fire, water, earth, and space: the five elements. Buffy tells stories of calla lilies and a night around a fire to illuminate the ways in which seeing the world through the lens of the elements can give us more access to harmony and self-awareness.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Honey is the sweet nectar. Bones are the sacred boundaries. This episode is about how integrating them will help.

Buffy spins stories of a moving day, national treasure Dolly Parton, and how our willingness to see each other as human helps us steadily hold both the honey and the bones.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

The Lucky - aka, electrifying, spark-filled, pure magic  - exists. And we don't have to be on our best behavior for it to come to us. It's not about talent, it's not about doing well, it's not about being good - it's an undercurrent that exists no matter what.

To help this story land in your body and your experience, Buffy tells stories of artists residencies, cartoon animals, and sticking hands in public toilets. If you're looking for a dose of magic in your day, seriously, do not skip this episode.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Not over there. Not somewhere else. Not then. Here.

This episode asks you to focus entirely on the here. Can you name what you are sensing, even when the waves are crashing down with relentless rhythm?

This podcast episode is a reminder that you are in the middle of navigating something Here.  What does it mean to have a "Sharp Pencil" day? What could you set down in order to arrive in just one place - Here?  

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

This episode is about decluttering your space and your life, and it's about so much more. Clarity is what you get when you declutter; it's what you're left with more of. And the space that's left, this is what helps.

Buffy tells stories of the Depressing Rug, "We Might Use It One Day," and midnight missions to Goodwill to illuminate the beauty of reducing your life by the box. Whether you are eager to delve into spring cleaning or the thought gives you anxiety, give this episode a listen. You might be surprised at the unconventional perks of sweeping out your life.

She references The Minimalists and Joan Didion.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

"We calm down when we are witnessed. And then we can allow ourselves to be carried."

Don't turn away from this week's episode about grief. Grief will help. If you're a longtime listener of this podcast, you know that grief is not a novel topic. In this episode, Buffy digs deeper into the devastating magic of grief; and how we can shape it into art, link it to a collective empathy, and use it to help us find our breath.

"Grief is the price of love. Loving someone means that one day there will be grieving. They will leave you or you will leave them. The more you love them more you grieve. Loving someone also means grieving with them. It means letting their pain and loss bleed into your heart. When you see that pain coming, you may want to throw up the guardrails,  sound the alarm, raise the flag, but you must keep the borders of your heart porous in order to love well. It is an act of surrender when we are brave enough to sit with our pain. It deepens our ability to sit with the pain of others. it shows us how to love them." -Valarie Kaur, "See No Stranger"

Buffy references Allen Ginsburg, Valarie Kaur, and Anne Lamott. You can view Melanie Bilenker's work here, and Marcy Stagner's work here.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Five years ago, Buffy's mother - Vivian, also known as "Vivi" - moved from Alabama to Colorado, five minutes away from Buffy and her family.

Vivi lives her wisdom, and this episode is entirely dedicated to the non-dogmatic, loving lessons she has delivered to Buffy over the years. This archive of wisdom is what mama Vivi swears by.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Take a moment to reflect on the pockets of your life where you're taking up space, nurturing your creativity, or calling in fertility. Can you feel the audacity of it? How much boldness it takes to create something that doesn't yet exist?

This whole episode revolves around this idea - creating, even if it doesn't have a category or definition (yet.) Buffy tells tales of pink-loving little boys,  Friday sheet changes, and the time required to wander before we give names to things.

Buffy references Gloria Steinem, Glennon Doyle, John Koenig, Robyn Wall Kimmerer (Braiding Sweetgrass), Katherine May (Wintering), and the inimitable Mary Oliver.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

Imagine this: you have a transcript of your internal dialogue, from the moment you wake up to the moment you lay your head on your pillow. What would the transcript say? What's the tone and the flavor? Would you share it with other people?

Buffy shares the translation of the Sanskrit word mantrika as "little mothers," and in this episode, she talks about all of the ways our inner talk can both take us down and bolster us up. She spins tales of cleaning cupholders, mommy-and-me swimming classes, bar crawl scratches, and ice-cold showers.

Our immunity builds strength when our inner voice is uplifting. Our stress and cortisol levels decrease when we're kinder. This isn't fluffy: it's important, and it affects our health on a cellular level! To change the hard cut patterns of negative self-talk, we have to notice when it happens. Buffy shares different ways we can notice the patterns and re-route through different practices, including mantra, acronyms, and more.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).

A few weeks ago, Alex asked Buffy to do an Ask Me Anything - and she indulged! and in this special episode, Buffy answers listener questions like, "How do I set and hold boundaries? What is the importance of women leading women?" And other listener-submitted questions.

 We hope you enjoy this special episode, and can't say it enough: we love hearing from you. Your feedback, your questions, your heart's deepest longings, we're here for it all. You can use this link forevermore and going forward if you have a question for a future AMA or would like to hear Buffy work your question(s) into an episode, submit them here!

Buffy's Recommendations:
Shows: The Servant, Dead to Me, Truth Be Told, and Schitt's Creek
Podcasts: The Daily (NYT),  The Experiment (NYT), Unlocking Us with Brene Brown, and the Michelle Obama Podcast
Books: Wintering by Katherine May, The Gift by Lewis Hyde, The Faraway Nearby by Rebecca Solnit, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, The Wisdom Way of Knowing by Cynthia Bourgeault, Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed and Pilgrim at Tinker Creek by Annie Dillard
Poetry: Whale Day by Billy Collins, Mary Oliver, Maggie Smith, Joy Harjo, and The Book of Longings Sue Monk Kidd,

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Lee-Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Danielle Alling (www.ritualmade.com).